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AUTHOR: DrLefty on 3/28/2026

A couple of years ago, as I started to plan my retirement, I published an article called “When and Where?” Later, I followed up with a post explaining that I’d chosen the “when” (July 1, 2025) and that my husband and I were still thinking about the “where” but were inclined to stay put in the college town in Northern California where we’ve lived for almost 35 years.

One option we’ve been seriously considering is purchasing a home for ourselves with a floor plan that could accommodate our adult daughter, who’s struggled with unemployment and underemployment, if she runs out of options at some point. Our three-bedroom condo, while it has a guest bedroom and bathroom, is not really laid out well for long-term success in multigenerational living.

So for a while (going back as far as fall 2024), we’ve been looking around our area, specifically at homes with Accessory Dwelling Units (ADU) or with a separate wing or even downstairs ensuite bedroom with an upstairs–something that would allow some separation and privacy for all of us. But we wanted the home to be something we would like, too, and that would fit within our financial parameters. We signed up with a buyer’s agent in fall 2025 and got pre-approved for a new mortgage so that we could move quickly in case we found that perfect unicorn property.

We had almost given up on the idea of finding the right place in the town where we live. The housing market is tight and there just aren’t tons of options. We looked and looked at open houses and with our agent, but nothing seemed right–until one month ago today.

A house was listed on February 26. I saw the listing and our agent texted us about it, too. I wasn’t initially that excited. It has an ADU and it’s in a very desirable part of town, but it was old (more on that below), and, I thought, priced a bit high. But on February 28, we went out to lunch and then my husband said, “Is there an open house today?” There was, we went to it, came home, and my husband looked at me and said, “That checks all the boxes.” We texted our agent and went back with him the next day. He explained that given how popular that particular neighborhood is in our town, the property wasn’t actually overpriced. A few days later, we made an offer, actually bidding a bit under the asking price on our agent’s suggestion. The sellers countered, still below asking price. Our agent said it was a great deal and we should grab it. We were literally at a baseball game in Scottsdale, Arizona, when he called and said “Get on your phones NOW and accept the offer before the sellers get another one!”

So…we’re now buying a house and getting ready to sell our condo. We close on the house on April 6 and agreed to let the seller stay another month, so we’ll move there in the second week of May. I’m sort of out of breath at how quickly this is all happening. Even though we were looking/pre-approved, we’d just about given up on the idea, and our agent even admitted he didn’t think we were going to find something.

Here are the pros and cons of what we’re doing:

  • The house is only about a mile from where we live now, but it’s closer to downtown, campus, the large community park, and the library. Very walkable. If we could have pre-selected what part of town we’d like to buy in, this would have been it. The neighborhood is, we hear, very cohesive, and there are retired professors (like me) right next door!
  • The ADU is a lovely little guest cottage with a bedroom, bath, small living space, a full kitchen, a little bistro set on the patio in front of it, and even its own separate entrance and street address. The current sellers have been making over $40K/year running it as an Airbnb. In our college town, places to stay, both short-term and long-term, can often be hard to find. They are also selling us all the furnishings for a very fair price.
  • The house has a gorgeous yard with redwood trees, a large covered patio, and beautful landscaping. The yard is probably our favorite feature of the home.
  • There’s an oversized secondary bedroom in the main house off the front door that we’re going to turn into the Peloton room/home gym. I’m very excited about that.
  • We’re going to get a dog as soon as we’re settled!
  • OK, now the “cons,” such as they are: The house is old. It’s a mid-century modern home built in 1965. I was very nervous about this, but our agent, who has general contractor skills himself, walked us point by point through the inspections and told us the place is in quite good shape. This style of house is very popular with many, especially in our town, but I’m used to a brand-new condo with all the work done. This is definitely a pivot, especially at our age (we’ll turn 66 this year). “Good shape” or not, it’s going to take more work and attention to maintain it. (I guess another pro is no more HOA. On the other hand, the HOA takes care of a lot of things.)
  • The kitchen and master bath are both cramped (that’s putting it politely), as things were back when the house was built. We’ve already met with a contractor and are going to have work done on the house within a month or two of moving in. So there will be that effort, expense, and disruption. (On the other hand–hey! We’ll have an ADU we can stay in or at least cook in while the work’s being done!)
  • Maybe the biggest con, or at least implication, is financial. We were living very comfortably in our condo with a manageable mortgage payment at 3% obtained in 2020. Even without our (high) HOA dues anymore, our housing costs will double. We also are using cash we’ve been sitting on since our previous move to the condo to come up with the down payment before selling our condo first. Once we get the money out of the condo, that can be used toward our remodeling plans. We’ve crunched the numbers and can afford the increased house payment, especially if we add possible income from the ADU. But we’ll have to watch our budget more closely than we do now. I’d be lying if I said I’m not a tiny bit anxious about this.

So it’s a “little” move (only a mile) but with big implications. Instead of drifting along comfortably in our condo, we’ll be moving, remodeling, getting a puppy, and possibly learning how to be Airbnb hosts. (We may also consider renting the cottage to longer-term tenants, but Airbnb allows us flexibility to use the space for our daughter if she needs it.)

I have lots of thoughts about what I’ve learned about buying, living in, and (hopefully) selling our condo, but I’ll save that for another day.

 

 

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Michael1
1 hour ago

Hooray! It sounds like a great get, despite the cons which you’re honest with yourself about. Awesome outcome.

Your comment about things moving fast reminds me of selling our last house. We went under contract within 24 hours of listing. Yours is a bigger deal, just makes me think of it.

Congratulations!

Mark Crothers
2 hours ago

My, my… how exciting, congratulations to you both! My wife and I have been casually house-hunting ourselves, mostly in an attempt to escape our current half-acre yard. Casually, because it seems finding something suitable is far harder than it sounds — who knew that “less garden to maintain” would be such a niche requirement?

When we bought our current place years ago, we added a 2,000 square foot extension and did a major remodel, which involved knocking down most of the internal brick walls. I emerged from the experience a changed man, and not just emotionally. I can now tell you exactly what an RSJ (rolled steel joist) is, and why an acrow prop is your best friend when you’re removing a wall and would prefer the ceiling to remain where it is.
It’s quite the education. Enjoy every moment of
it!

Howard Schwartz
5 hours ago

Best of luck with your new/old home. My wife and I sold our home of 32 years in September and moved 15 miles away to a 55+ community. I wish we had done it 10 years ago.

Dan Smith
5 hours ago

Sounds like you guys are going into the new place with your eyes wide open, just don’t let the stress of the renovations burn you out. And I know a great obedience trainer for the new puppy; I wonder if Kristine does zoom classes.
This is a rare instance where I wish we could post pictures, as I’d love to see your new digs.

Kevin N
6 hours ago

Congrats. I love the “very walkable” part. It’s great that you don’t have to depend on a car for everything. Sounds like a exciting new adventure!

Jeff Bond
6 hours ago

Congrats, Dana! I look forward to hearing more stories as you settle into the new home. I know that having contractors in the house while you live there can be a challenge – so look forward to hearing about how it goes. Maybe I’ll write about that sometime, too.

Jack Hannam
6 hours ago

We are in our early 70s, are retired and had lived in a two story home for 37 years. Good friends built a retirement villa in a nearby beautiful area, and suggested we buy the last remaining lot and build too. Zero entry home, top of the line appliances and all outdoor maintenance provided sounded very attractive. But we balked at the price.

We found a lovely well built 54 year old brick ranch style home for about half the cost, only a few miles away. No zero entry, but one level. I wasn’t so much concerned about discomfort from climbing stairs, but rather the fall risk. We moved into it six months ago. No HOA, but we hired trustworthy folks to handle all exterior maintenance. A good friend is a retired general contractor who gave it his seal of approval, and we check with him for advice on whom to call for any issues.

I think you and your husband, and your new dog will enjoy your new home. Congratulations!

Ken Cutler
6 hours ago

Congratulations, Dana—this is an interesting development and based on what you’ve shared I think it will turn out to be a good move. We’ve had a successful multigenerational living arrangement for over eight years with our fully employed but not highly compensated adult daughter. Hopefully if you go that route with your daughter the new housing compound will be a great solution.

B Carr
6 hours ago

Old? A small part of my youth was spent living in a house built in 1789.

Is your new place single story?

mytimetotravel
6 hours ago

Stopping by to say congratulations. Sounds like a great location. Best of luck with the alterations.

Michael1
1 hour ago
Reply to  DrLefty

Definitely. I can’t think of a reason not to at least get in a list.

mytimetotravel
2 hours ago
Reply to  DrLefty

Don’t know what the wait lists are like in California, but here you would be the perfect age to get on one. At most places there’s no need to accept an apartment when you get to the top of the list unless you’re ready, but do check for that.

Marilyn Lavin
7 hours ago

Sounds great!! I’m glad you’re prioritizing getting the puppy. It’ll assure you get to know your neighbors very quickly.

We’ve never lived in a place with an HOA, and our house was built in 1917. My husband has a good contractor on his speed dial, so not a problem. We also use a service for snow removal (not a problem for you) and yard maintenance. I don’t think our costs are greater than HOA dues and we control what and how things get done.

ADUs seem to be getting increasingly popular—we have neighbors with a setup much like you describe. I suspect it has added a lot of value to their property.

Congratulations!

baldscreen
7 hours ago

Dana, I was really happy to read about this new adventure of yours. It sounds like a lot of work, but will be worth it in the end, though. Looking forward to reading about your ups and downs as things progress. Chris

kristinehayes2014
7 hours ago

How exciting!

  • My favorite line (no surprise): “We’re going to get a dog as soon as we’re settled!”

I will, of course, need to know all the details. And we do offer training courses near Phoenix :-).

David Lancaster
8 hours ago

Hi Dana,

Great to be “hearing” from you again.

I’m curious about your experience with the new changes post the class action settlement with National Association of Realtors with the seller no longer needing to pay both agents. I hope you could write a brief post about this after you have sold your condo so you can address the experience from both the buyer and seller side.

R Quinn
8 hours ago

Perspective is interesting. The house is old- built in 1965. Our first house was built in 1918 and our second in 1929. They are both still standing 😎

Linda Grady
8 hours ago

Congratulations, Dana! It sounds wonderful and now that you aren’t preparing for classes, I’m sure you’ll find that the home improvement and maintenance projects will keep you busy, in a good way, during these first few transitional years of retirement, not to mention the care and training of a new dog 😉. My very best wishes. I’m looking forward to hearing about the inevitable new adventures.

Jo Bo
8 hours ago

Dana, thanks for the update. This new move seems to position you well for increased social connection — the neighbors, the vibrant community, the Airbnb, even the new puppy. In that sense, it seems like a smart move. It would seem responsible too, by being affordable, walkable, and potentially helpful to your daughter. Maybe even by being a dwelling in which you can successfully age in place? Your writing conveys much enthusiasm for the purchase even considering the cons. My hope is for you to enjoy your new home and associated projects, and to think of them as fruits of your saving and career.

Nancy Moser
8 hours ago

Dr.Lefty, first time commentor here on HD. Please keep contributing posts. I have really appreciated your articles on your parents and children. I truly hope you and your husband will enjoy your new home and never regret your decision. I look forward to reading more of your posts in the future.
Nancy

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