DrLefty

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• I just finished Money and Me last night. I’d read all of the pieces in it that were previously published in HumbleDollar, but his additional content to tie it all together was special to read. As I came to the end, I found myself both grateful for his wisdom (which I experienced as a reader) and his kindness (which I got firsthand as a HD author) and saddened again that he’s gone.

  Post: What Remains: Money and Me

  Link to comment from June 14, 2026

• This is absolutely lovely, Andrew, and I especially appreciate the summary at the end: “[Legacy] is also measured by the people we love, the people we touch, and the words we leave with them.” I’m a writer and a teacher, and I absolutely resonate with this. Having retired last year, I’ve thought more than usual about “legacy”—what does my career mean, now that it’s over?—and “life”—what do I hope to be remembered for, which encompasses both my career in the past and what I do with the days I have left? I’m also so happy to read that the stone Jonathan wanted in front of his home came to pass. I live in California and don’t know if I’ll ever make it to Philly to see it in person, but it makes me happy to know that it’s there. Thank you for letting us know. I love what you’ve been contributing to Humble Dollar, and I know that Jonathan would be so touched that his brother is honoring his memory by adding to his final passion project. ❤️

  Post: What Remains: Money and Me

  Link to comment from June 13, 2026

• We’re in a very similar situation, Greg. Under no circumstances do I want our younger daughter (especially) knowing how much money we have and how much might eventually come her way. We’ve even structured our trust such that it will be distributed incrementally over decades, with the last of it coming when she turns 60. She doesn’t know that and probably won’t know until we’re gone. This is also why our trustee is a fiduciary and not a family member.

  Post: Time to share our financial info with children?

  Link to comment from June 7, 2026

• I completely agree with this take. We have made sure that a couple of family members have the contact information for our estate attorney and the local fiduciary whom we’ve named as our executor and trustee. We’ve told our daughters that we have planned for our old age such that they will never have to worry about us financially. That’s as much as they need to know.

  Post: Time to share our financial info with children?

  Link to comment from June 7, 2026

• When we moved to our condo (our previous home) in 2019, it was from a 4 BR house where we’d raised our kids. We did substantial downsizing at that point, and it was hard work. We were in our late 50s at the time. We said more than once that we were glad we hadn’t waited until we were a lot older to do it. This move was hard work, too, even though we hired movers. I told the movers that they won’t be seeing us again until/unless they’re moving us to assisted living.

  Post: Moving is Expensive!

  Link to comment from June 7, 2026

• As it happens, we have younger friends who are buying their first home and moving in the next few weeks, and they’ll take a bunch of it. We’ll keep some boxes and paper for when we box up our kitchen later this summer for renovation.

  Post: Moving is Expensive!

  Link to comment from June 7, 2026

• I wrote about it here: https://humbledollar.com/forum/buying-and-selling-our-condo-our-big-little-move-part-2/ (and there’s a link to Part 1 in that piece). The TL:DR version is that we wanted more space, ideally with an ADU, for a family member who needed a place to land, I wanted a yard so I can get a dog, and we had some growing concerns about our condo. But you’re quite right: It’s the opposite trajectory of what a lot of people do at our age. Our decision to make this move surprised some people in our “real” life.

  Post: Moving is Expensive!

  Link to comment from June 7, 2026

• Good luck getting it all sorted out! We also had some Internet issues. We had Internet installed the day before we moved in but quickly found that my husband’s work calls were dropping or freezing. It’s an older house, and the home office is around the corner and down the hall from where the router is in the living room. I did my research, off we went to Best Buy, and we bought a mesh Internet extender and were able to plug it into his work laptop with an Ethernet cable. Now things are working well. We also found that our AT&T phone service wasn’t working well in the house. We’ve switched to Wifi calling, and so far, so good, but we may end up changing carriers after all these years. We only moved one mile from where we were before, so I really can’t complain too much, especially compared to you. Hang in there!

  Post: Moving is Expensive!

  Link to comment from June 5, 2026

• I love that movie and have also watched it umpteen times. I remember that scene and that W.H. Auden poem well. The only thing I can say about the sadness Jonathan expressed here and that we all feel while reading it is—experiencing that kind of loss means that you’ve also had a special love in your life, and for that, we can be grateful.

  Post: Mourning the World

  Link to comment from June 5, 2026

• Yep. We aimed for June 1 as the day we’d turn the page on the move and go back to living life after three hectic months of buying, selling, and moving. We inaugurated our new grill with a couple of burgers last night and are having a friend over for dinner tonight. Working on enjoying the house rather than just dealing with it!

  Post: Moving is Expensive!

  Link to comment from June 2, 2026