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Kathy Wilhelm, who comments on HumbleDollar, and blogs, as mytimetotravel is a former software engineer. She took early retirement in order to travel. More recently, she moved to a CCRC where she staying very busy. Born and educated in England, she has lived in North Carolina since 1975. She has written several articles for HumbleDollar.

    Forum Posts

    Some people are never satisfied

    28 replies

    AUTHOR: mytimetotravel on 7/10/2025
    FIRST: Mark Crothers on 7/10   |   RECENT: David Lancaster on 7/11

    A Question for our UK posters

    32 replies

    AUTHOR: mytimetotravel on 6/27/2025
    FIRST: Mark Crothers on 6/27   |   RECENT: DrLefty on 6/30

    A Nuanced View of FIRE

    34 replies

    AUTHOR: mytimetotravel on 6/16/2025
    FIRST: bbbobbins on 6/16   |   RECENT: mytimetotravel on 6/18

    Mr. Quinn would be nervous. Would you be?

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    AUTHOR: mytimetotravel on 5/29/2025
    FIRST: DAN SMITH on 5/29   |   RECENT: R Quinn on 6/3

    An Insignificant Sum?

    20 replies

    AUTHOR: mytimetotravel on 3/26/2025
    FIRST: baldscreen on 3/26   |   RECENT: David Lancaster on 3/28

    Longevity Income?

    7 replies

    AUTHOR: mytimetotravel on 11/7/2024
    FIRST: Dan Smith on 11/7/2024   |   RECENT: Kevin Lynch on 11/8/2024

    How should I allocate my bond funds?

    11 replies

    AUTHOR: mytimetotravel on 10/10/2024
    FIRST: Randy Dobkin on 10/10/2024   |   RECENT: mytimetotravel on 10/12/2024

    What I Saw With Meals on Wheels

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    AUTHOR: mytimetotravel on 9/5/2024
    FIRST: baldscreen on 9/5/2024   |   RECENT: mytimetotravel on 9/15/2024

    Do You Own a Safe?

    42 replies

    AUTHOR: mytimetotravel on 8/23/2024
    FIRST: Jeff Bond on 8/23/2024   |   RECENT: stelea99 on 8/29/2024

    A CCRC is not an Assisted Living facility

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    AUTHOR: mytimetotravel on 7/9/2024
    FIRST: Jonathan Clements on 7/9/2024   |   RECENT: kt2062 on 8/12/2024

    How is a CD a bond?

    6 replies

    AUTHOR: mytimetotravel on 7/17/2024
    FIRST: Dan Smith on 7/17/2024   |   RECENT: Rick Connor on 7/17/2024

    Comments

    • According to a site called Acronym Finder there are 66 possible definitions of TTR. Which one are you using? Never seen it before.

      Post: Some people are never satisfied

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    • Thank you, Jonathan. I usually ignore the haters, but some down votes are just too silly.

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    • As Dan points out, wages plus benefits are a total compensation package. However, as I have mentioned before, the same company that did not provide a COLA for its US employees, did provide one for its UK employees. Of course, now I think about it, the UK employees didn't need expensive medical benefits.

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    • I believe you are describing trickle down economics. That has been tried before and shown not to work.

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    • Just a note that 100% of entry fees are not necessarily attributed to medical expenses. It depends on the type of CCRC, and probably on whether you start in Independent or Assisted Living.

      Post: Bankruptcies in continuing care

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    • Amazing. Three down votes for a perfectly innocuous statement. What's wrong with you people?

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    • I am single. My portfolio is almost entirely invested in indexed mutual funds. The only "management" I do is handling RMDs, an occasional rebalance, and transferring funds between my bank account and my money market fund. The rebalancing could be skipped. I have identified a "daily money manager" in my town, and intend to interview her to see what she would be willing to handle. I have given Financial Power of Attorney to my ex-stepdaughter, but need to have a conversation with her as well.

      Post: Beyond fees, is using a financial advisor, advisable? If you do or don’t why?

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    • I was not addressing the specific issue. I was pointing out that the people who just orchestrated a major reduction in taxes for the wealthy, which will balloon the already over-large national debt, are already lobbying for still more largesse. They might equally point out that the cost of a house is not adjusted. However, since you raise the issue: In the case of capital gains, the owner has benefited from an increase even without allowing for inflation. In the case of pensions, the ex-employee loses out a bit more every year.

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    • My CCRC told new residents the amount of the entry fee deduction (same for everyone who moved in that year) and the amount of the monthly fee deduction. I simply gave the numbers to my tax accountant.

      Post: Bankruptcies in continuing care

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    • Avoiding the need for (frequently unpaid) family caregivers is why people refer to their move to a CCRC as the best gift they can give to their kids. If you're single, or don't have kids or siblings, it's the best gift you can give yourself. Caregiving has to be one of the hardest jobs around. As Christine writes, people who expect that family members will provide care need to have a detailed conversation about it well ahead of time.

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    Articles

    Go-Go or Slow-Go?

    Kathy Wilhelm   |  Aug 15, 2024

    THESE DAYS, IT SEEMS every other article on retirement talks about a neat division between the go-go, slow-go and no-go years, with retirees moving seamlessly from one to the next.

    I don’t remember seeing anything about these stages back in the late 1990s when I was contemplating early retirement. Instead, when I quit full-time work in 2000 at age 53, I just wanted to travel before I got too decrepit.

    I did travel—extensively—right up until 2017,

    Gift to Myself

    Kathy Wilhelm   |  Apr 12, 2024

    LATE LAST OCTOBER, I was one of the first to move into the new building at my chosen continuing care retirement community, or CCRC. Now, more than five months later, I’m more confident than ever that I made a good decision.
    I’m in my mid-70s, single and childless, with relatives 3,000 miles distant in both directions. Both bathrooms at my old home were up 15 stairs. Aging in place was not a good option.

    Où Est l’Hôpital?

    Kathy Wilhelm   |  Oct 5, 2023

    I’D JUST ARRIVED IN the charming, car-free village of Murren in the Swiss Alps, and was trying to find my B&B on the helpful signpost near the station. Stepping back for a better view, I tripped over the curb, with my backpack pulling me further off-balance. I went down with my left wrist under my hip.

    Two wonderful British couples rushed to my assistance. One pair took my backpack to my B&B and the other escorted me back down the mountain to a doctor’s office.

    Getting an Earful

    Kathy Wilhelm   |  Aug 10, 2023

    I DON’T REMEMBER when my hearing started deteriorating. I suppose it came on gradually. I definitely remember when I developed tinnitus—ringing in the ears—and it was tinnitus that sent me to an audiologist in 2012.

    She confirmed the information I’d already found on the internet: There’s no cure for tinnitus. While I would always miss the complete silence I’d previously enjoyed, at least mine was a tolerable background hum, unlike some horror stories I’d read.

    My Magic Wand

    Kathy Wilhelm   |  Jul 13, 2023

    ONE REASON I WAITED so long to sell my house was my extreme reluctance to move all my belongings. I didn’t want to deal with the hassles involved—because I’d gone through that less than a decade earlier.

    In 2013, I had the house renovated. I replaced almost all the flooring, with hardwood downstairs, carpet upstairs and tile in the bathrooms. I also updated the kitchen cabinets. That meant, of course, that every single thing in the house had to be moved.

    Better Things to Do

    Kathy Wilhelm   |  Jun 28, 2023

    I NEVER PLANNED TO retire at age 53. I wasn’t an early adopter of the FIRE, or financial independence-retire early, philosophy. In fact, I didn’t start saving seriously until my late 30s, when I left my first husband and finally realized that—unlike pensions in my native U.K.—my U.S. pension didn’t come with an annual cost-of-living adjustment.

    Instead, three developments in the late 1990s led me to consider quitting. First, I was no longer enjoying my job.

    D Is for Dilemma

    Kathy Wilhelm   |  Jun 14, 2023

    IF MEDICARE’S A MAZE, its Part D drug plan is a maze within a maze, with no one good path and plenty of so-so choices, along with a couple of potential “gotchas.”

    Until 2006, Medicare offered no coverage for outpatient drugs, so today’s situation—however imperfect—is certainly an improvement. It’ll improve even more for people with high drug costs in 2024 and 2025, as I’ll explain at the end of this article.

    What if you have Medicare Advantage,

    The Medicare Maze

    Kathy Wilhelm   |  May 3, 2023

    I GREW UP IN ENGLAND, with health-care coverage provided by the National Health Service, so I’m extremely sympathetic to people calling for “Medicare for All.” Still, I do wonder whether they realize that Medicare is neither cheap nor simple. My medical costs in 2021 were more than $10,000, with half of that for a single drug. And it would have been even more without the $3,000 a year kicked in by my former employer.

    Planning My Exit

    Kathy Wilhelm   |  Apr 18, 2023

    WE HAVE A MEDICAL profession apparently wedded to the notion that quantity trumps quality. That’s why, although I have no problem with being dead, I have serious concerns about the process of becoming dead. I have no wish to linger for months attached to tubes, or to disappear for years into the mists of dementia.

    I have few childhood memories, and I wouldn’t swear to the accuracy of those I have. Still, one from my teens has remained with me.

    Continuing Care

    Kathy Wilhelm   |  Feb 23, 2023

    I EXPECTED TO SPEND early 2017 blogging about my fourth round-the-world trip, which I’d just completed, and planning my next journey. Instead, I spent much of the year on the couch with a heating pad, in between assorted medical appointments, everything from acupuncture to meeting with an infectious disease specialist.

    Eventually, I got a definitive diagnosis—I had a form of rheumatoid arthritis—and, in early 2018, an effective medication. But I had been forcibly reminded of something I’d first learned 10 years earlier,

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