Rules for Gift Giving
Sonja Haggert | Dec 16, 2022
IT’S THE MOST wonderful time of year—for trying to figure out what gifts to give. If you’re like me, you may be wringing your hands. But some studies and a bit of psychology could help. While searching my favorite websites for gift ideas, I came across a helpful article by psychologist Jill Suttie. She offered five suggestions. The first is to make sure the gift is practical. I didn’t see that one coming. Practical gifts are remembered. Expensive gifts aren’t necessarily better. Please don’t tell my husband. You’ll be able to relate to No. 2 if you have small children: Initial enthusiasm doesn’t equate to long-term satisfaction. Have you ever given a child that toy he wanted, only to see him set it aside after a few days or even a few hours, never to be touched again? Suttie says we shouldn’t aim to wow the recipient momentarily with something flashy, but rather give a present likely to deliver longer-term happiness. Third, people prefer gifts they’ve asked for rather than something you thought they’d appreciate. I can relate to this. Growing up, my mother rarely bought something on the spot when I wanted it. But often, I would later find it under the Christmas tree or as a birthday gift. I’m sure this was her way of ensuring her only child didn’t become a spoiled brat. I hope she succeeded. Fourth, there’s been much talk about giving experiences over things. According to science, this brings about feelings of closeness between the gift-giver and the recipient. Finally, there was one caution I found interesting: Don’t give folks a gift if they don’t want one. Such gifts are seen as self-serving, creating a sense of indebtedness. Suttie’s article reminded me that the point of giving gifts is to strengthen relationships. That helped…
Read more » Hitting Record
Sonja Haggert | Jan 30, 2022
OVER THE PAST TWO years, we’ve seen everything from tornadoes to devastating fires to hurricanes, often at unusual times and in unexpected places. That got my husband and me thinking about how to prepare for what may come our way—and how we could document what we might lose. We decided to make a home movie. Our new phones are perfect for taking videos. What better proof of what we have? You’ve probably seen the suggestion that you do this, but did you do it? We did many years ago, but that record of our possessions is now outdated. Out came the phones. In addition to making a video of the rooms in our house, we also took pictures of the contents of drawers. Our closets hold all kinds of things we would miss, so we took pictures of those items, too. After all, would you remember what was in your closets if asked? An upside of this exercise: We can throw away the old video and save this new one on our phones. We always have our phones with us—and would even if a calamity struck. After looking at what we have, do we have enough homeowner’s insurance to cover all those things we would miss? Maybe it’s time to research construction costs in our area to see if we should increase our coverage. There’s another benefit to all of this: When we’re no longer around and our family must dispose of our items, perhaps they won’t give away that painting that could cover a year of college costs.
Read more » A Million Dreams
Sonja Haggert | Nov 15, 2022
I DIDN'T WIN the Powerball lottery—this time. That’s too bad because I knew exactly what I’d have done with the money. I’ll bet you did, too. I was ready to pay for the education of all of our nieces’ children. “Go where you wanna go,” as the song says. My favorite charity would also have been on the list. Laurel House, a domestic violence agency, does tremendous work in Montgomery County, where we live in Southeastern Pennsylvania. Lest you think I don’t have something personal in mind, there’s a condo in Florida that I’ve had my eye on. And another one in New York City, so I could attend a Broadway show at a moment’s notice. All in my dreams, of course. Because I didn’t win—this time. Which means I won’t be on the evening news. In Pennsylvania, you must fill out a claim form to get your prize. The state will reveal your name, the town or county where you live, and how much you’ve won. Why does the state insist on this? It wants the public to know that you can indeed win, plus the more winners it publicizes, the more people play. Pennsylvania also has an open records law, which makes such information public. With such a revelation, all my friends and neighbors would have known I was RICH. I may have discovered friends and family I didn’t even know about. How would I say “no” to them? More to the point, how do you decide when to say “no” in general? Then there’s the whole issue of safety and scams. My lawyer friend said someone might have filed a bogus lawsuit against me or staged an accident, hoping I would pay up. There are loopholes around the identity issue, such as forming a trust to claim…
Read more » Get a Job
Sonja Haggert | Jun 23, 2022
WHEN I WAS GROWING up, my mother thought the best way to relieve my boredom during summer vacations was to get a job. She was a valued employee at a local business and she knew the firm was hiring. I asked if part of the job was to calculate change for customers when they made a purchase. That terrified me. My mother said she wasn’t sure, but that I’d learn to do it if it was required. The thrill of having money to spend outweighed my fear of making change. I took the job and survived the cash register. That got me thinking about today’s teens taking their first jobs. I read that jobs are plentiful this summer, and there may even be a signing bonus. If they get a job in retail, kids won’t have to calculate change, either. The computer will do it for them. On top of that, they’ll have other advantages. For starters, they’re unlikely to owe federal income taxes on their summer wages. A dependent child can earn up to $12,950 and pay no federal income taxes in 2022. Social Security and Medicare taxes must typically be paid, however. Seeing those deductions will teach teens a little about the taxes all workers pay. Fidelity Investments reports that teens know they need to have financial goals. Saving comes up as teens’ No. 2 goal—right after getting a well-paying job. Yet less than half of teens have any savings at all, according to Fidelity’s research. When saving, a teen might be tempted to take the TikTok money challenge, which involves saving cash in a liquor bottle. The TikTok challenge offers the sense of community and accountability that financial planners say can encourage saving. The idea: Don’t crack open the bottle until it’s full. The liquor bottle challenge, however,…
Read more » Vet These Policies
Sonja Haggert | Mar 9, 2023
YOU LOVE THEM LIKE family. You want them to have the best care possible. You have insurance for yourself, your family, your home, your car and your upcoming vacation. Why not for your pet? One of our friends recently opted for pet insurance—after multiple trips to the vet, with more than 20 medications prescribed. Intrigued by the idea of pet insurance? Here are eight choices and what they offer: Pets Best covers everything, including medications, physical therapy and even acupuncture. It also covers senior pets and makes it easy by paying the veterinarian directly. You can decide if you want a $5,000 annual cap on reimbursement or unlimited coverage. You can also customize your policy. Payment options are monthly, quarterly or semiannually. Trupanion may be your choice if you prefer to avoid paying deductibles. It will also pay the veterinarian directly, and there’s no cap on the number of claims you can submit. There is, however, a limit to how much you can customize your policy. Lemonade is great for digital claims. Your claim can be reimbursed within minutes through an app on your phone. The coverage isn’t available in all states. ASPCA offers complete and accident-only coverage. Coverage starts at $10 a month and allows you to adjust the reimbursements to suit your budget. Pumpkin plans can have annual caps on reimbursements, such as $20,000 for dogs and $15,000 for cats, though pet owners can also pay up for unlimited coverage. Healthy Paws doesn’t cover hip dysplasia, a common dog problem, if a pet is six years or older at the time of enrollment. Prudent Pet offers acupuncture and chiropractic care coverage if a veterinarian recommends it. It may have a longer claim-processing wait time than some of the other policies. Nationwide covers cats and dogs, but also exotic pets. This…
Read more » Details, Details
Sonja Haggert | May 11, 2022
DO YOU SKIM OVER the fine print? Two recent incidents involving insurance coverage made me rethink my tendency to do just that. One incident alerted me to a major problem. The other saved me money. Let’s start with the problem. It was time to renew our homeowner’s insurance. In looking over the policy, something didn’t look right. In the section for dwelling, which is defined in our policy as alterations and other improvements, we had $5,000 worth of coverage. That sum would potentially need to cover the replacement of appliances, flooring, fixtures and so on. Meanwhile, for personal property, we had $250,000 of coverage. This is defined in our policy as furniture and clothing. I think you know where this is going. When I called our insurance agency to ask if I understood the designated amounts correctly, an employee acknowledged there was a problem. I was told to call the insurance company directly. What we discovered was that our coverage had been flipped. Even though we all have the impression that our personal items are valuable, it’s far more important to be able to replace the essentials in our homes, such as appliances and flooring. The $5,000 would barely cover the price of one or two appliances. What about the happier incident? We have some trips planned, and there’s the issue of travel insurance. Since the pandemic, travel has gotten dicier, so finding the right policy is important. In my research, I discovered something positive: We already have significant coverage through our credit cards. For example, according to the American Express literature, I’m covered for $3,000 of lost or stolen baggage. Not bad. The amount for trip cancellation also looked good to me. I was skeptical, so I called American Express. The fine print said it provides secondary coverage. A…
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- Looking to make charitable gifts? Because the standard deduction is now so high, fewer taxpayers are able to itemize deductions, and that can limit the tax benefit of donations. But there’s still a way to gain a tax benefit: If you have appreciated stocks in a taxable account, you can donate them to a donor-advised fund. That would allow you to sidestep the capital gains tax that would otherwise be due if you sold those stocks. Many donor-advised funds have no minimums, making this an easy choice, in my view.
- If you believe your estate will top the estate tax threshold (about $15 million per person at the federal level, but much lower in certain states), then I would be sure to use the annual exclusion (currently $19,000 per donor and per recipient) to make incremental gifts to your heirs. That's because this annual exclusion is in addition to the lifetime exclusion and doesn’t carry over from year to year.
Note that these gifts don't have to be made in cash if the recipients aren't yet in a position to receive them. As alternatives, you could make contributions to a 529 account or to a trust for their benefit, and these contributions would count toward the annual exclusion.