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Marjorie Kondrack | Feb 20, 2025
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Read more » The Envelope Returns
Marjorie Kondrack | Mar 6, 2023
HAVE YOU HEARD of the latest budgeting technique? It’s called cash stuffing. No, it’s not shoving money into your mattress. It’s the new name for an old budgeting method, where you divide your weekly pay into envelopes earmarked for various spending categories, such as food, gas, rent, vacations, clothing and so on. For each expense, you spend only from that envelope and, when it’s empty, that’s it. No cheating. No dipping into other envelopes. I’m sure you get the idea. After all, this isn’t a new phenomenon. I remember my parents sitting around the kitchen table, apportioning the family salary into various envelopes that they’d carefully budgeted money for. My father had one marked “house money”—a catch-all for food and miscellaneous small expenditures related to running our household. This time around, cash stuffing has sprouted into a popular industry. You can buy all manner of envelope sets, such as envelopes of different colors for different categories. There’s a budget planner binder and even a genuine leather all-in-one deluxe version for $89. The more you spend on these organizers, the more sophisticated and supposedly inclusive the binder, with all manner of compartments and zippered pouches. You can get them personalized, glamorized and customized. We’re now offered cash-stuffing budget sheet planners, stickers and even tear-resistant envelopes—on and on, ad infinitum. You can purchase a plethora of these must-haves on the Amazon and Walmart websites. The market for products relating to cash stuffing seems to still be in its infancy. Soon, an even more amazing variety of items will no doubt be available. You get it, don’t you? You have to spend money to budget money. Oh—and some sellers have renamed the cash envelopes “currency envelopes.” Fancy schmancy. Before long, we’ll need a new budget envelope to pay for all our cash-stuffing supplies.…
Read more » Other People’s Stuff
Marjorie Kondrack | Jun 22, 2023
MOST OF US HAVE TOO much stuff, and we’re apt to joke about it. But clutter, if allowed to spiral out of control, can turn into hoarding. Hoarders are people who acquire an excessive number of items, some with little or no value, and yet they continue to add to their chaotic overflow. Unable to manage the clutter but unwilling to let any of it go, they become upset and anxious when others offer to help clear it up. The result is debilitating clutter. It’s estimated that there are some 19 million people in the U.S. who are hoarders. The majority are age 55 and up. It’s hard to arrive at an accurate figure, however, because hoarders are secretive about their habits, usually live alone and don’t invite people into their homes. The exact cause of hoarding is unknown. While hoarding can be triggered by a traumatic event, not everyone who experiences trauma becomes a hoarder. Family history can also be a factor. Initially, it was thought to be connected to OCD—obsessive-compulsive disorder. But recent studies reveal that it may be a disorder all its own, and possibly linked to a form of dementia. I think that, as we age, we experience loss in many ways—diminished hearing, eyesight, loss of teeth, hair, mobility, cognitive abilities and so on. Maybe we react by trying to hold on to as much as we can for as long as we can. Throughout history, there have been extreme hoarders. Perhaps the two most infamous examples are the Collyer brothers, Homer and Langley, of New York City. Born into a wealthy family, they were graduates of Columbia University. Homer was a lawyer, while Langley studied engineering and was a concert pianist. They lived in a four-story brownstone mansion in Manhattan. But they devolved into hermits and…
Read more » Not What We Planned
Marjorie Kondrack | Oct 17, 2023
MY HUSBAND WAS STILL working at age 65 when he went into heart failure. After heart surgery, he wanted to return to his job as the warranty administrator at a large New Jersey auto dealership. But we worried that the commute would be too taxing. He traveled 55 miles each way to and from his job, and it could take hours and be treacherous when the weather was bad. When additional complications ensued from the surgery, we decided it was time. As many others can attest, we don’t always get to choose when we retire. Sometimes, the time is decided for us by circumstances over which we have no control. My husband and I didn’t have everything in place for the retirement we wanted. Still, our nest egg was sufficient. We knew we’d be fine because of prudent planning throughout our marriage. I had already retired five years earlier to care for my mother, and was receiving Social Security benefits. When my husband reached his full retirement age, he filed for Social Security spousal benefits based on my earnings record, taking advantage of a now-disallowed strategy known as “file and suspend.” Later, at age 70, he filed for benefits based on his own earnings record—a benefit that was larger thanks to the delayed retirement credits he’d earned in the meantime. I was covered under my husband’s health insurance while he was working. But with his sudden retirement, we both needed to get coverage through Medicare, including purchasing Medigap insurance. Don’t skimp on this. Good health care coverage—along with sufficient savings—are essential to your peace of mind and well-being in retirement. One wrinkle in our plan: What would be our primary source of income? There were no large balances in either our Roth or traditional IRAs. At the time, there was…
Read more » The Ties That Bind
Marjorie Kondrack | Jul 21, 2025
This post explores another aspect of Dr. Lefty’s exceptional article of July 10, 2025, “Estrangements and Estates”. Specifically that of Reconciliation. People are just beginning to talk about estrangement even though one out of four families —or 30% of American families have an estranged member, as cited in Dr. Lefty’s article. That’s a pretty big number. When someone severs ties, it’s not about a day that went wrong, or even one event that happened. It’s an accumulation of things that pile up and fester, and some trivial misunderstanding that no one even remembers can trigger an estrangement. There are many reasons for an estrangement. I think we can agree that toxic relationships might include drug abuse, violence, mental health issues, involvement in unlawful activities and so on. But there are other intolerable situations such as certain personality disorders that can drive a person to put an end to the relationship. Difficult childhood histories, abusive parenting—These get carried over into adulthood. Now, unfortunately, we also have polarizing political views. Business deals gone wrong or loans un-repaid are also archetypal. The list goes on. If reconciliation is your goal, both parties may have to settle for a different relationship. You can go home again but it may well be a different home.. The other person may never live up to your values or your standards. The question you need to ask yourself is do I really want this person in my life. If the answer is yes, remember It takes two to reconcile. There has to be enough love on both sides for the reconciliation to work. Love is fundamental to reconciliation. You may not forget but you can forgive. Love is a word that is bandied about. Too many people have a skewed idea of what love is—a misunderstanding of the…
Read more » SCOTUS AND THE ODD COUPLE
Marjorie Kondrack | Apr 15, 2025
At a time when American society has become increasingly polarized, I can’t think of a more propitious time to look at an example of how respect, civility and friendship can flourish and overcome dissenting factious opinions. There is no finer example of this than the friendship that existed between former Supreme Court Justices Antonin Scalia and Ruth Bader Ginsburg, who eventually became to represent two branches of the Supreme Court. Affectionately known as R.B.G by her supporters, Ginsburg was known to have anchored the liberals. Scalia, “The Lion of the Law” led the conservatives. These two became the best of friends based on their devotion to the Constitution; although built on different interpretations—bonding over a shared love of opera, love of country, good food and wine, and their childhoods in New York. This enduring friendship helped them form a mutual respect that extended far beyond the courtroom. Their families became friends too—the soft spoken but powerful Ginsburg—and the gregarious, witty Scalia. In remembrance of these two titans of the law, it might inspire us to Look at this remarkable and yes, cordial, relationship. Ginsburg’s most famous quote is “Fight for the things that are important to you, but do it in a way that will lead others to follow you.” Scalia is noted for remarking, “Call us the odd couple. She’s a very nice person. What’s not to like? Except for her views on the law.” Because they were ideological opposites, their relationship was considered improbable. They didn’t compromise those beliefs for each other, but they didn’t let it cause animosity or disrupt their friendship.
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