Today marks the one-year anniversary of my retirement after a 35-year career as a university professor. Since I wrote it about it several times leading up to that day, and another one after six months, I thought I’d add some thoughts about the first year “out” has gone for me.
Overall, it’s been great. Maybe my biggest surprise has been how little I miss my job. My identity was so intertwined with my academic career for so long that I worried I’d have one of those loss-of-identity depression spirals that you read about.
Uh…nope. Not even close.
OK, probably the biggest surprise is that I’m writing this from a different home than the one I wrote from on January 1. As I’ve shared here, we had a whirlwind three months, March through May, in which we bought a new (to us) home, sold our condo, and moved in.
Because of basically three months being eaten up by buying/selling/moving, I didn’t make as much progress on some of my first-year goals as I might have otherwise. I did get most of my academic writing projects done (a handful more still in progress), I did some substantial volunteer work for our church, and I finished up my service on the HOA board at our former home. We had a fairly robust social calendar and are building new friendships; our new neighbors have been very welcoming, and we look forward to getting to know them, too. But I haven’t really deepened any hobbies (I still cook, I still work out, and I still write, but I wouldn’t say I’m any better at those than I was a year ago), nor have I explored volunteer work outside of our church yet.
Financially, once I got through a couple of glitches with receiving my pensions and the stress of rolling over funds from my 403B/457 to my IRA, things have gone smoothly. This next year will be more challenging, as my husband drops to 50% time on October 1 and our housing costs are higher than they were in our condo. But as I wrote before, we have a plan for that.
I think the most interesting thing about the year ahead is what will happen after I finish up my academic writing projects. How will I structure my time once I don’t need to be at the computer doing that? What new things will I try? I know this fall we’ll have renovations going on, and once that’s done, we will look for a puppy. But it all feels rather mysterious to me.
I had the first year planned like a military operation, but even then, there were unexpected developments. Now, I think I’ll just expect the unexpected! And maybe that’s where the real fun and adventure lies.
When I retired–5 years ago–I went right into full-time care-giving for my husband. He died two years ago, and it was about 9 mos-1 year after that that I felt like I was done with active grief work, and turned towards experiencing retirement. For others who might be on this kind of delay, I can only suggest giving yourself time to both grieve and recover, to not “should” yourself into a particular timetable, and then to be intentional as you start to get involved in making a new life. I have just moved halfway across the country, so I know I again need to take my time in creating a new retired life in a new location.
This is a great point. Not everyone gets to craft their “ideal” retirement because of family caregiving needs or even their own health issues. It’s a good reminder to be grateful for the good times.
I hope your move and your “new retired life in a new location” brings you opportunities and joy that you maybe can’t even imagine right now.
Thanks for posting from your one-year-in perspective. My own post-retirement schedule planning occupies a lot of my thinking space. Does any part of your busy schedule stem from a feeling that you need to be busy? Or from a long list of things that make you happier to be doing?
Interesting question, Ed. I wouldn’t say I have a need to be busy, but I do have a need to do something. After decades of being ridiculously overscheduled and overcommitted most of the time, I’m beyond tired of feeling that way. I want stuff to do but not TOO much.
Most of the stuff I’m doing now is because I want to, but I do struggle with not wanting to say no to people. I’ve always been that way, and now that I’m retired, people feel like they can ask for more of my time with some impunity. It’s nice to be valued, I guess, but it still requires some careful decision-making.