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How it all pencils out–or at least, we hope so! (Our Big “Little” Move, Part 3)

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AUTHOR: DrLefty on 4/22/2026

I’ve written two recent posts about our decision to buy a new (to us) home and sell our condo. I appreciate all the comments and well-wishes I’ve received, but I’ve decided to be candid about one aspect of this big “little” move: It’s financially stressful at a period of life where that might not seem to be…prudent.

First, the nuts-and-bolts. The home we bought is more expensive than the one we’re selling (a little more than 50% higher if you go by both sales prices). We’re replacing a 3% mortgage we obtained in 2020 with one in the low 6%. We’re also taking on expenses for yard care, pest control, and other ongoing maintenance issues that come with buying an older house. And, significantly, we’re planning a substantial renovation (kitchen and master bath) almost immediately. Offsetting this somewhat is that we’re getting rid of $750/month of HOA dues and that our property tax increase will be capped because of California’s laws protecting seniors from major jumps when they sell/buy and move. In all, our monthly housing payment (just mortgage/taxes/insurance) will be about double what it is now.

So how are we going to manage all of this? I’ll first talk about the purchase and remodeling costs and then about the ongoing expenses.

Purchase and Remodel: We put 20% down on the home we bought. To come up with this rather sizable chunk of money, we took cash out of our high-yield savings accounts and maxed out our HELOC on our condo. When our condo sale closes in May, we’ll replenish the cash and pay off the HELOC. We have to pay one month of interest on the HELOC ($361) plus the loss of earned interest on the cash.

As for the remodel, we’ll pay for that with a combination of replenished cash from our condo sale and from withdrawals from my IRA. I don’t love paying taxes on the IRA withdrawal, but we see this as a one-time but necessary move. We will, however, keep a reasonable amount of cash liquid as an emergency fund.

Ongoing Expenses: Despite my 2025 retirement and my husband’s retirement plans, we still think it will all work out. With our current income (my pensions, my husband’s pension from his former state job, his salary), we were living very comfortably with relatively low housing costs and plenty of disposable income. There will be less of that going forward, but in the short run, here’s how we plan to make ends meet:

  • My husband is going to semi-retire on October 1 rather than retire entirely. His employer has already approved him moving to 50% time then. So while we’ve have less income, his current income won’t disappear completely.
  • I’m planning to file for Social Security next year at my full retirement age of 67. He’ll still wait until 70 so that one of us can max out the benefit (unless something changes with SS payouts, of course).
  • We are cutting our financial support to our adult daughter–not completely, but substantially. We’ve been telling her for several years of our retirement time line, and we’ve conveyed to her in writing our intent to reduce our support gradually between now and October 1. If she can’t make it on her own, she’s welcome to move back to Davis and live in our guest cottage as long as she needs to.
  • If she doesn’t use the guest cottage (because she’s able to increase her earning/manage her spending to live more independently in San Diego County), we’ll use the cottage as a source of income–either Airbnb or a longer-term tenant. I mentioned in the first article that the previous owner was making over $40K/year as an Airbnb host. Our college town is a great market for these kinds of rentals. We’re not going to decide about how exactly we want to deploy the guest cottage until after our remodel is done, as we’ll be using some of the space ourselves during that period, especially the kitchen.

My Social Security benefit will make up the difference between our condo payment and our new house payment. There is still the matter of my husband’s income being cut in half (and eventually disappearing when he fully retires), but the reduced support to our daughter and/or income from the cottage should help that balance out somewhat, and he’ll start drawing his own Social Security in several years plus will get a small pension from his current employer (not public sector, for the record).

We’ve also agreed that if the budget is tight between now and when we both take Social Security, we’re OK with taking a bit out of our IRAs each year. This will be less painful, tax-wise, after his income drops. We think that reducing our balance in advance of RMDs (which for us are still more than nine years away at age 75) makes some sense, especially if it funds continued travel and other fun activities during the “go-go years” of retirement.

So that’s how we hope it’s all going to work. I’d be lying if I said it doesn’t make me a bit anxious. I liked having cash on hand, I liked having a lower house payment with a good interest rate, I liked not touching our retirement accounts, and I liked having a comfortable enough income that we don’t have to watch our spending that much. This will be an adjustment, but we think it will be worth it. At the end of the day, why did we save all that money in retirement accounts and keep cash available if it wasn’t to do something like this? So now we’re doing it!

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Andy Morrison
10 days ago

Even with decades of consistent saving and careful planning, the transition from saver to spender is such a psychological challenge when we retire. 🤞🏻

William Dorner
18 days ago

Congrats on a plan that makes sense for you both. Plan A looks great to me, and if it needs tweaking, you can handle it all.

DAN SMITH
18 days ago

Dana, two years ago I penned an article about our rather impulsive decision to build a new house. We took our cash reserves right down to zilch to make it happen. I didn’t like that, but I also knew I could hit the IRA if there was an emergency. Today the cash reserves are back to our pre-spending spree level, and we have no regrets. You guys are going to love the digs, as well as the custom renovations. 
I hope the best for your  daughter. Life can be overwhelming.

Sandra
18 days ago

Congratulations! I admire your fortitude and glad you found what you desire. I’ve enjoyed reading about your journey. As you are aware, newer isn’t necessarily better. I live in a community with an HOA and I get frustrated with some of the boards decisions. Every year the fee increases, and sometimes it’s significant. On a positive note, the financials are healthy, planning out for large expenses like painting and road paving, etc. I live in condo in a gated community (not guarded, nor pretentious) and there are also cottages and triplexes in our neighborhood. I bought when the market was very competitive and ended up with a downstairs unit (we only have 2 stories) and the noise from upstairs drives me bonkers. I wanted a cottage or end unit of a single story triplex, and none were available at the time. There are some cottages currently on the market, and I’ve contemplated purchasing one, although leery of the extra purchase price and larger HOA fee. Your post has me thinking! I am confident my condo will sell quickly, as it’s an upgraded end unit and they sell quickly
I’d still have the HOA, although I feel very safe here and not sure a neighborhood without one is good for me. 🤔

baldscreen
18 days ago

Dana, I am enjoying reading about your move series and hope you will keep writing about it. I am pulling for you that you will be able to pay off your mortgage early like we did. Chris

Laura E. Kelly
18 days ago

Dear Dr. Lefty,

Having two pensions and a probable inheritance and social security and life insurance and LTC insurance and an ADU that could yield rent AND a sizable pile of retirement savings would make me feel very good about my retirement plans! 

Another thing that you might take for granted but is a blessing is that you have an interested, capable spouse who is not only on the same page as you about your planning but is actively helping “the team” by being able to change his full retirement date.

I agree with: “At the end of the day, why did we save all that money in retirement accounts and keep cash available if it wasn’t to do something like this? So now we’re doing it!” Clichés like: “You only live once” and “You can’t take it with you” come to mind. Have fun with your new old house and (eventually) your new new kitchen and master bath!

Michael1
20 days ago

A plan can stray from conventional wisdom and still be a solid plan. Yours sounds well thought out. Thanks for a great series and good luck!

Rick Connor
20 days ago

Dana, Congratulations on your home purchase. Thanks for the 3 part series, I’ve enjoyed reading about your journey. I wish you lots of luck and happiness. We went through a home purchase/rental/sale journey over the last few years. Your honesty is inspiring and I think I’ll take a crack at writing about it.

I had some technical thoughts about loans and taxes, but, as always, Bill Perry covered it in his comment below.

B Carr
20 days ago

How much of a hitch in your planning would occur if one of you were to die early, say like in January 2027? Or to suddenly need LTC for several years or more?

Mike Gaynes
19 days ago
Reply to  DrLefty

That’s a massive consideration.

mytimetotravel
20 days ago

I wish you lots of luck. I was very happy to enter full retirement with no mortgage…

Jeff Bond
20 days ago
Reply to  mytimetotravel

I agree. It makes retired life much easier to have no monthly house payment. Property taxes and insurance bills are painful enough, and I’m happy we eliminated the monthly P&I payments a long time ago.

R Quinn
20 days ago

Anxious? If I were in your position I would be a basket case. You are doing everything backwards, but you know that and have your reasons for doing so. Best of luck.

Beyond the money my concern would be just maintaining an older home- perhaps I’m influenced by watching too much HGTV.

Even though our HOA fee has gone from $700 to over $1,000 in eight years, the comfort of not worrying about maintaining a house is worth it.

Of course I’m being a bit disingenuous as we maintain a house 300 miles away and it’s not easy or cheap and can be stressful- like now when we need to replace the front steps and they want $5,000 to do so.

Marilyn Lavin
20 days ago
Reply to  R Quinn

I’ve never dealt with an HOA, but I’ve watched my kids do so. My son was at one time president of his; you can’t imagine anyone more oblivious to maintenance problems! My daughter is at continual war with hers, but she doesn’t understand maintenance either; she’d probably call us constantly without the HOA

Our house is over 100 years old—it has presented some unique challenges like knob and tube wiring; our our vacation house is only about 30 years old, but the stain we used originally is now banned as unsafe for the environment. We had half the house sanded to bare wood and restained last year; will do the rest this summer. Houses are money pits; age really doesn’t matter much how old they sre, the We’ve never felt the need for an HOA is either place. We have identified excellent contractors and they have taken care of the problems at both houses.. Similarly, we’ve had no problem finding people who deal with snow and lawn work. I wouldn’t hesitate to buy an older house or to go it alone without the HOA.

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R Quinn
20 days ago
Reply to  Marilyn Lavin

Our vacation home was built in 1987 so it’s getting older. We installed central air around 2006. We had it checked last year and were told it was okay, but if it needed repair, the coolant was no longer made and it would required a new unit – $25,000 yikes 🤞

Marilyn Lavin
20 days ago
Reply to  R Quinn

Yup — stuff wears out and repairs can be pricey. But so far you’ve gotten 20 years with that a/c. I doubt a new unit will last that long. My son in law replaced his in a new house after 10 years.

i think Dana has the right attitude. She and her husband saved for retirement. Now that it’s here, she’s willing to spend on what seems her best alternative.

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Mike Xavier
21 days ago

Sounds like a through plan. Congratulations! And he’s lucky to get that phased retirement from work. Know there is also the physical toll of the remodeling, things won’t always go to plan. Just enjoy the moment and it will be well. Best wishes.

Edmund Marsh
21 days ago

What an honest post, Dana. Financial considerations aside, it appears you and your husband have come to a decision about your daughter and have a plan to move forward. You’ve written about that aspect of your life, and I’m happy to read you’re resolving it in a way that may bring you all more happiness. I wish you the best. Thank you so much for your writing here on the site.

David Lancaster
20 days ago
Reply to  DrLefty

Dana,

If your daughter moves into the guest house are you planning on charging her some amount of rent. In my mind this makes sense from two aspects:
1) It will continue to show her that life is expensive. With our son after high school he was working at a minimum wage job and living at home. Four years later when his classmates were graduating from college we informed him it was time to see how far that level of income would take him and what his life would be like. He moved into a house with some of his buddies, met his future wife, went to college and is on a great path going forward. We believe this move helped to accelerate his maturation.
2) Charging her some amount of rent would help replace some of the lost income you could have received by renting out the cottage, and help fund some of the renovations of the main house.

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Barb Westerbaan
19 days ago

Relationship havoc gets expensive. I agree with David that this is the wild card in your otherwise well thought out plan. The space CANNOT be used both by a tenant and your daughter at the same time and Murphy’s Law says you will need the rent income at the worst possible time.
If you haven’t already, find the number of $ you need out of the cottage. If you offer it to your daughter, then she will know what you are actually offering. You can decide if she matches it, or gets a discount.
Know your local laws about short and long term rental notices so if someone’s in the space when she needs it, you don’t end up with legal costs on top of the social stress of having an adult child in crisis.
When she and her pets leave, price in some down time before the next rental. Your next guests may be pet scent sensitive and there will be costs before reletting ( or your could promote your cottage as a premium pet friendly rental).

Marilyn Lavin
21 days ago

I don’t see any major problems with the plan. It should work, and adjustments are always possible. But you’ve lost me on the daughter front. I thought the one in SD was ok, and you also had one in the Davis area that was late to launch.

i envy your California property tax situation!!!!

Last edited 21 days ago by Marilyn Lavin
Mark Crothers
21 days ago

I’m obviously no expert, but I was wondering: Is there any mileage in getting a HELOC on the new property for the remodel and carrying debt at 8%, or whatever the rate is, rather than taking the immediate tax hit from an IRA withdrawal?

Once your husband retires and your household income drops, an IRA withdrawal to pay down that HELOC might be more efficient from a tax perspective. Maybe doing a quick analysis of that early tax hit versus the ongoing interest costs on a HELOC might be a worthwhile exercise. Although, since I’m not a US citizen, maybe I’m just talking rubbish lol

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William Perry
21 days ago
Reply to  DrLefty

I have always found that the year when your taxable income is decreasing requires more attention and planning as you typically want to avoid potential underpayment by having 90% of your current year (2026) tax paid in. Your cash needs from buying a more expensive home means you likely will prefer not lending the government money interest free by overpaying your 2026 tax via withholding.

Note the maximum loan for mortgage interest deduction purposes is $750K on the new mortgage.

While any HELOC interest will likely not be deductible because of the overall $750K mortgage limit the HELOC could also provide funds to allow your husband to max out his tax deferred retirement contributions in 2026 and thus reduce your 2026 tax if it is likely your 2027 taxable income will fall in a lower bracket. I like the thought of a HELOC on the new house and getting one in place while there are still strong wage earnings. I still keep a large HELOC that is mostly unused as a backstop to our emergency funds.

I hope the IRC 121 gain exclusion on the sale of your old home (condo) is such that the gain from sale will be excluded from both federal and state income taxes. I also note that most closing statements have fine print stating that it is also a substitute form 1099-S so to avoid a mismatch with what is reported on the sale by the title company to the IRS you should be sure to report the sale with the appropriate IRC 121 exclusion on your 2026 return. It is rare that I have seen the title company send you a separate 1099-S when the 2026 tax documents come out in early 2027.

I hope my thoughts help.
Best, Bill

baldscreen
18 days ago
Reply to  William Perry

Bill, thanks for the comment about the closing statement many times being a substitute for form 1099S. I will have Spouse check this for their mom’s house sale earlier this year. Chris

William Perry
18 days ago
Reply to  baldscreen

Good morning Chris,

While there are exemptions for certain sale transactions that are not reportable on a 1099-S by a title company many title company’s choose to report all sales in my experience. If they do report on a 1099-S then the title company is subject to the reporting rules in the IRS instructions. I suggest asking the title company if they will file a 1099-S for your sale. If it were my return where I had inherited a house that I then sold I would include the sale on my personal return regardless of if a 1099-S was issued or not which would start the statute of limitation regarding the transaction.

I would note that any potential IRC 121 gain exclusion availability ends upon the death of the owner. The beneficiary inheriting the house (or the estate) typically get a step-up in tax basis to the fair market value (FMV) on the date of death (DOD) of the owner. Typically, your sales costs and costs to prepare the house for sale combined with the DOD FMV eliminate any taxable gain.

A home is a typically a personal asset to those inheriting so in the rare instances where there is a taxable gain then the gain is taxable. The loss on the sale of a personal asset is typically not deductible. If the plan is to hold the house for an extended time after the date of inheritance then a timely formal qualified appraisal to establish FMV at the date of death is often a best practice to establish the tax basis.

Sale of such a inherited house would typically be reported as being held long term regardless of your actual holding period by reporting the date acquired as “Inherited” (or Inh’d) in the long term section on your tax return.

The most common tax mistake I saw, only a few times, was when the parent worry about transferring title at death caused them to inappropriately re-title the house to the beneficiary during the parent’s life via a quit claim. This caused the transfer to be a gift and not an inheritance.

The unfortunate tax result was a gift where the parent does not get a IRC 121 home sale gain exclusion (as they did not sell), the beneficiary does not get a step up in basis on the gifted house (they get the parents tax basis) and a form 709 gift tax return is required for the tax year the quit claim title transfer occurred reporting the gift at FMV. Needless to say this was never news I ever wanted to tell to anyone nor news anyone wanted to hear.

Why were these potential brand new tax clients, the inheritors, sitting in front of me three years after they sold Mom’s house? The title company appropriately reported the sale on a closing statement substitute 1099-S and they had just received a letter from the IRS computer system asking why the sale had not been reported on their then three year previously filed 1040.

Best, Bill

Rick Connor
20 days ago
Reply to  William Perry

Bill, you covered all of my technical thoughts, much more articulately than I ever could. The HD community is so lucky to have you.

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