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A couple of years ago, as I started to plan my retirement, I published an article called “When and Where?” Later, I followed up with a post explaining that I’d chosen the “when” (July 1, 2025) and that my husband and I were still thinking about the “where” but were inclined to stay put in the college town in Northern California where we’ve lived for almost 35 years.
One option we’ve been seriously considering is purchasing a home for ourselves with a floor plan that could accommodate our adult daughter, who’s struggled with unemployment and underemployment, if she runs out of options at some point. Our three-bedroom condo, while it has a guest bedroom and bathroom, is not really laid out well for long-term success in multigenerational living.
So for a while (going back as far as fall 2024), we’ve been looking around our area, specifically at homes with Accessory Dwelling Units (ADU) or with a separate wing or even downstairs ensuite bedroom with an upstairs–something that would allow some separation and privacy for all of us. But we wanted the home to be something we would like, too, and that would fit within our financial parameters. We signed up with a buyer’s agent in fall 2025 and got pre-approved for a new mortgage so that we could move quickly in case we found that perfect unicorn property.
We had almost given up on the idea of finding the right place in the town where we live. The housing market is tight and there just aren’t tons of options. We looked and looked at open houses and with our agent, but nothing seemed right–until one month ago today.
A house was listed on February 26. I saw the listing and our agent texted us about it, too. I wasn’t initially that excited. It has an ADU and it’s in a very desirable part of town, but it was old (more on that below), and, I thought, priced a bit high. But on February 28, we went out to lunch and then my husband said, “Is there an open house today?” There was, we went to it, came home, and my husband looked at me and said, “That checks all the boxes.” We texted our agent and went back with him the next day. He explained that given how popular that particular neighborhood is in our town, the property wasn’t actually overpriced. A few days later, we made an offer, actually bidding a bit under the asking price on our agent’s suggestion. The sellers countered, still below asking price. Our agent said it was a great deal and we should grab it. We were literally at a baseball game in Scottsdale, Arizona, when he called and said “Get on your phones NOW and accept the offer before the sellers get another one!”
So…we’re now buying a house and getting ready to sell our condo. We close on the house on April 6 and agreed to let the seller stay another month, so we’ll move there in the second week of May. I’m sort of out of breath at how quickly this is all happening. Even though we were looking/pre-approved, we’d just about given up on the idea, and our agent even admitted he didn’t think we were going to find something.
Here are the pros and cons of what we’re doing:
So it’s a “little” move (only a mile) but with big implications. Instead of drifting along comfortably in our condo, we’ll be moving, remodeling, getting a puppy, and possibly learning how to be Airbnb hosts. (We may also consider renting the cottage to longer-term tenants, but Airbnb allows us flexibility to use the space for our daughter if she needs it.)
I have lots of thoughts about what I’ve learned about buying, living in, and (hopefully) selling our condo, but I’ll save that for another day.
My, my… how exciting, congratulations to you both! My wife and I have been casually house-hunting ourselves, mostly in an attempt to escape our current half-acre yard. Casually, because it seems finding something suitable is far harder than it sounds — who knew that “less garden to maintain” would be such a niche requirement?
When we bought our current place years ago, we added a 2,000 square foot extension and did a major remodel, which involved knocking down most of the internal brick walls. I emerged from the experience a changed man, and not just emotionally. I can now tell you exactly what an RSJ (rolled steel joist) is, and why an acrow prop is your best friend when you’re removing a wall and would prefer the ceiling to remain where it is.
It’s quite the education. Enjoy every moment of
it!
Best of luck with your new/old home. My wife and I sold our home of 32 years in September and moved 15 miles away to a 55+ community. I wish we had done it 10 years ago.
Thank you! Yes, I think a lot of people realize that downsizing and moving is tough at any age and wish they’d done it sooner…
Sounds like you guys are going into the new place with your eyes wide open, just don’t let the stress of the renovations burn you out. And I know a great obedience trainer for the new puppy; I wonder if Kristine does zoom classes.
This is a rare instance where I wish we could post pictures, as I’d love to see your new digs.
Maybe we’ll have to take a road trip to AZ with the pup and have Kristine train him there!
Renovations are always stressful. We re-did our front yard and then our kitchen in our previous home–the kitchen in particular was quite a project, though the finished project was fabulous. As I said, this time we have the fortunate bonus of a guest cottage with a full kitchen that we’ll be able to use while the main kitchen is being re-done. And I’m trusting that all of this will be at least somewhat easier as a retired person than it was as a very stressed-out working person…we’ll see!
Congrats. I love the “very walkable” part. It’s great that you don’t have to depend on a car for everything. Sounds like a exciting new adventure!
I’m a big walker and very excited about that. We’ll be able to walk one direction to downtown (Saturday Farmer’s Market in the park, dinners, movies, coffee) or jig the other way to campus (there’s a gorgeous arboretum along a creek for walks). If we turn the opposite direction, it’s a couple blocks to a large park with an overpass leading to a greenbelt. One of the reasons I want a dog so badly is for him to keep me company on walks!
Congrats, Dana! I look forward to hearing more stories as you settle into the new home. I know that having contractors in the house while you live there can be a challenge – so look forward to hearing about how it goes. Maybe I’ll write about that sometime, too.
Thanks, Jeff. I’m a bit nervous about that part but trying to think of it as an adventure…
We are in our early 70s, are retired and had lived in a two story home for 37 years. Good friends built a retirement villa in a nearby beautiful area, and suggested we buy the last remaining lot and build too. Zero entry home, top of the line appliances and all outdoor maintenance provided sounded very attractive. But we balked at the price.
We found a lovely well built 54 year old brick ranch style home for about half the cost, only a few miles away. No zero entry, but one level. I wasn’t so much concerned about discomfort from climbing stairs, but rather the fall risk. We moved into it six months ago. No HOA, but we hired trustworthy folks to handle all exterior maintenance. A good friend is a retired general contractor who gave it his seal of approval, and we check with him for advice on whom to call for any issues.
I think you and your husband, and your new dog will enjoy your new home. Congratulations!
That sounds great! I hope you’re enjoying your new home. The one we’re buying is single-story. It does have one step leading to the front door, and we may do something about that in the coming years. Overall, I think it will be OK for this phase of life, and our master bath remodel will take “universal design” into account. Like you, we’ll hire someone for the yardwork/tree care and have good handypeople on call.
Congratulations, Dana—this is an interesting development and based on what you’ve shared I think it will turn out to be a good move. We’ve had a successful multigenerational living arrangement for over eight years with our fully employed but not highly compensated adult daughter. Hopefully if you go that route with your daughter the new housing compound will be a great solution.
Old? A small part of my youth was spent living in a house built in 1789.
Is your new place single story?
Maybe the “old” comment is because I live in California. There aren’t houses from 1789 here, at least not that I know of!
It is–I should have mentioned that! We did look at some two-story homes but never could convince ourselves it was a good idea at our age.
Stopping by to say congratulations. Sounds like a great location. Best of luck with the alterations.
Thanks, Kathy!
We toured our first CCRC last month (down in San Diego County), and I thought of you. We really liked it. I’m sure we’ll still put deposits down on one here in Davis and maybe another in San Diego. Despite this purchase, it still seems like a good idea for the future.
Don’t know what the wait lists are like in California, but here you would be the perfect age to get on one. At most places there’s no need to accept an apartment when you get to the top of the list unless you’re ready, but do check for that.
Sounds great!! I’m glad you’re prioritizing getting the puppy. It’ll assure you get to know your neighbors very quickly.
We’ve never lived in a place with an HOA, and our house was built in 1917. My husband has a good contractor on his speed dial, so not a problem. We also use a service for snow removal (not a problem for you) and yard maintenance. I don’t think our costs are greater than HOA dues and we control what and how things get done.
ADUs seem to be getting increasingly popular—we have neighbors with a setup much like you describe. I suspect it has added a lot of value to their property.
Congratulations!
Thanks, Marilyn! I’m sure we’ll do the same with “good contractor on speed dial” and a yard service.
Interestingly, our agent tells us that in our market, ADUs are a turn-off for some buyers. I don’t really understand that, but I guess it’s like having a pool in the backyard–some people really want one and others don’t want the hassle. But I’m retired and have time and energy now, so I’m not afraid of learning to be an Airbnb host if that’s what we decide!
Dana, I was really happy to read about this new adventure of yours. It sounds like a lot of work, but will be worth it in the end, though. Looking forward to reading about your ups and downs as things progress. Chris
Thanks, Chris–we’ll keep you posted!
How exciting!
I will, of course, need to know all the details. And we do offer training courses near Phoenix :-).
I’ll definitely keep you posted. I’m very excited to get a pup.
Hi Dana,
Great to be “hearing” from you again.
I’m curious about your experience with the new changes post the class action settlement with National Association of Realtors with the seller no longer needing to pay both agents. I hope you could write a brief post about this after you have sold your condo so you can address the experience from both the buyer and seller side.
Good idea. We have the same agent for both sides, and we’ve discussed this with him, so I’ll have thoughts.
Perspective is interesting. The house is old- built in 1965. Our first house was built in 1918 and our second in 1929. They are both still standing 😎
Our condo where we live now was built in 2019, and the house we moved from in the 1980s, so we’re going backwards in time! I grew up in a house built in the 40s, but that turned into a teardown after my father died and it was sold.
Congratulations, Dana! It sounds wonderful and now that you aren’t preparing for classes, I’m sure you’ll find that the home improvement and maintenance projects will keep you busy, in a good way, during these first few transitional years of retirement, not to mention the care and training of a new dog 😉. My very best wishes. I’m looking forward to hearing about the inevitable new adventures.
Thanks, Linda! I’ve thought more than once how stressed I’d be about this if I weren’t retired. This all happened pretty quickly, and there are lot of moving parts between buying, selling, and talking with contractors about remodeling.
It’s definitely going to be a change in focus, but hopefully in a mostly energizing way.
Dana, thanks for the update. This new move seems to position you well for increased social connection — the neighbors, the vibrant community, the Airbnb, even the new puppy. In that sense, it seems like a smart move. It would seem responsible too, by being affordable, walkable, and potentially helpful to your daughter. Maybe even by being a dwelling in which you can successfully age in place? Your writing conveys much enthusiasm for the purchase even considering the cons. My hope is for you to enjoy your new home and associated projects, and to think of them as fruits of your saving and career.
Thank you! It’s interesting that you mention the “social connection” because that was one issue that gave us some pause. In the condo community we live in now, there’s a good social scene, and we’re quite connected–lunches out every couple of weeks, a monthly cards night, a monthly wine-tasting group, etc.–and we’d feel sad to give that up. But we realized that we’re only moving a mile away, and we can still join any or all of those activities and keep those relationships going as much as we and they want to. And hopefully we’ll meet new neighbors quickly. I have a friend here in town who knows a couple of the people on our new street, and they’re already planning a “welcome to the neighborhood” gathering for us. Isn’t that nice?
Dr.Lefty, first time commentor here on HD. Please keep contributing posts. I have really appreciated your articles on your parents and children. I truly hope you and your husband will enjoy your new home and never regret your decision. I look forward to reading more of your posts in the future.
Nancy
Hi Nancy! That’s so kind of you. Thanks for the good wishes on the new home. Thank you for commenting.