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AUTHOR: Jonathan Clements on 4/04/2025

Earlier this week, I asked readers, “If you could go anywhere in the world on your next trip, where would it be? If you could savor any experience, what would it be?”

I didn’t offer my own response—because I didn’t have one. At this point, I don’t have a strong urge to go to some exotic locale or try some new experience. On the other hand, there are places and experiences from my past that call to me. But which would I most like to revisit?

When I asked myself this question, my mind raced through various turning points in my life—getting into Cambridge, joining The Wall Street Journal, the birth of my children, meeting Elaine. But probably because of my physical deterioration over the past 10 months, my brain settled on a 5k (3.1 mile) road race I ran in July 2007—an event that necessitated some plane tickets and race entry fees, but for which money really wasn’t a central element.

What made the race special? It wasn’t pleasant, it wasn’t the fastest 5k I ever ran and it wasn’t among the dozen races I won over the decade or so that I was a fairly serious amateur runner. But the race was a family affair, plus the physical exertion was such that it’s seared into my memory. Indeed, I can remember the details of the race in a way I can’t recall any other I ever ran.

It was July, and I was down in Key West, Florida, visiting my father, then age 74, who lived there full-time for the final 15 years of his life. My two kids were with me, and my sister Tory drove down the Keys to join us. All five of us ran that day’s race, held as part of a week of events to celebrate Ernest Hemingway, who made his home in Key West—and made its bars famous.

I’ve always preferred morning races. This one, however, was held in the evening. The temperature was still a blistering 95 degrees when the race started, and the humidity was beyond oppressive. I’ve never run a race in worse conditions.

Almost immediately, the lead group of runners fractured. There was a dozen in the front group, and the second group—which is where I found myself—was about as large. I figured I was in 20th position and headed for a disappointing finish.

As we turned left off Whitehead Street toward the naval dock, the two groups came back together and I started working my way through the pack. After a circuit of the dock, I found myself in fifth place, sitting on the shoulder of a lanky, bearded runner, trying to match his pace. We left the dock behind and turned back on to Whitehead. There were six-tenths of a mile to go.

I gestured to the runner ahead of us. “He’s in third,” I said to my companion, who seemed far stronger than me. “You should go get him.”

“I’m cooked,” he said.

It was a reminder that I wasn’t the only one suffering. I grunted, picked up the pace and decided to give it a shot. I quickly found myself closing in on the runner ahead, who perhaps was also wilting in the stifling heat and humidity. I was tempted to sit on his heels and take a brief rest, but didn’t want to give him any reason for encouragement, so I accelerated.

For that final stretch, I had a feeling I’ve never had before or since—a sense that every muscle in my body was working in concert. It’s a sensation I can still recall. Sometimes, in my daydreaming, I’ll relive those closing yards sprinting down Whitehead. I finished third in 17:30, far from my best time, and yet I doubt I’ve ever raced harder.

Afterward, there was a post-race party in the garden of a nearby guesthouse that was one of the race sponsors. With the running over, the weather seemed a whole lot less suffocating and the evening turned magical.

I sat with my family by the sea, drank the free beer and watched the sun disappear. Less than two years later, my father would be struck and killed by a speeding driver. That 2007 visit wasn’t the last time I’d see him, but the memory also isn’t tinged with sadness, like some of my later memories are.

That brings me to today’s question: If you could relive any experience from your life, what would it be?

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Martin McCue
4 months ago

I’d love to re-live the first six or seven years of my children’s lives, preferably unsaddled with job obligations and mandated travel and with lots more time to bond than I had back then. (But I’d take it even if I did have to endure some of those obstacles again.)

William Dorner
4 months ago

As Always Jonathan another great story. Family is the best. I have been too very many great places, but I think the best are family related, a Cruise with the whole family having great fun and being together for dinner every evening. As much as I would like to spend a month in Kauai, we chose to have an extended family gathering in June 2025, and expect all will have a great time. Keep up your exercise program and best you can and hope for extended life and a miracle. I think you are well prepared for the future. Thanks again for all your great articles.

john
4 months ago

my greatest experience was illegal in all states when it occurred
and remains so to this day. i do however, thank you for the smile
that will remain with me for quite some time…

Art Felgate
4 months ago

What a great memory, Jonathan. I, too, was a competitive distance runner earlier in my life, and I have known similar race emotions.
One of the greatest experiences I would relive is backpacking for three months across Europe, in my 20s, right after the Berlin Wall fell and Eastern Europe opened up to visitors. It was an exhilarating journey!

JAY SCATTERGOOD
4 months ago

this is one I would not like to revisit it but it happened……..we had just returned from a great golf trip to Ireland and sitting with morning coffee watching the Today show at 8:45 AM 9/11/01 than it happened…….we recovered from this as we will from the Market selloff …..we are resilient and look forwards also learn from history

Patrick Brennan
4 months ago

In 2016, on a do-over trip to St. George, UT with my wife and 3 of our 4 kids, we had been visiting the parks and hiking in Zion. We decided to hike to Observation Point in Zion–about a 8 mile round trip hike to the best vantage point in the park. My kids left my wife and I in the dust (we were in our late 50s at the time), but we persevered to their surprise. When we got to the Point, it was almost like being in heaven. The view was spectacular and we just hung out for about an hour soaking it all in. On the way home, the stop and In N Out burger was also a slice of heaven. Nothing tastes better than food or drink after outdoor experiences like that. By the way, the trail to Observation Point has been closed for maybe 5 or more years now due to a massive slide.

John Yeigh
4 months ago

Life’s best experiences are “Dadding.” They came when our children were say 3-10 years-old. Every event (bike ride, hike, park, playground, pool, beach, sports game, wrestling with Dad or riding on my shoulders) was an adventure and exploration. Hugs were routine. This stated with apologies to Mom.

If defined to one single moment, my kids’ sport experiences culminated when each crushed it to qualify for college nationals and state finals – I cried.

However, children, as well as their sports activities, are all about “the journey.”

Steve Spinella
4 months ago
Reply to  John Yeigh

I don’t know. I find grandparenting is as great as parenting, but with a lot less angst :-). If (or when) something goes wrong, there comes a caring parent ready to take over! Last time we were watching them, the parents came back early to sit around and visit with us–even better!

Rob Thompson
4 months ago

It’s a tie between reliving our simple Air Force chapel wedding some 45 years ago(no video, minimal photos remain)….or….Go back through Air Force UPT (flight school) with my 42 years of piloting experience between the Air force and airlines. But there are numerous collages of brief moments with my better half and the kids at a quiet beach, a woodland scene, or along a lazy stream when I felt at peace with the world surrounded by the presence of God.

Tim Burkholder
4 months ago

Hitting Repeat…
I enjoyed reading your stories. When I started thinking about my repeat list the memory of our family vacation last June came to mind. I grew up in Gettysburg, PA and we returned with our children several times a year to visit my parents and family. Our children wanted to return on family vacation so they could repeat some of their favorite childhood memories and show their children. In June, the nine of us piled into a rental 15 passenger van and drove from Carmel, Indiana to Gettysburg. My wife and I rented a beautiful VRBO on what used to be the 9th hole of the Gettysburg Country Club (where my parents played golf with their friends and where we used to swim). We visited our favorite sites in and around Gettysburg National Military Park including Trostle’s Barn (with the cannon ball hole in the wall), the Visitor Center (where my father’s guide uniform is on display), Tommy’s Pizza, “The Narrows”, The Federal Pointe Inn (a 3 star hotel that used to be Meade Elementary where I attended grades 1-4 in the 60s and where my dad was head teacher in the 50s), and my childhood home. It was a wonderful trip and I hope we are able to hit repeat in a few years to make more memories with our children and grandchildren and to eat another delicious hamburger sub from Tommy’s.

moonwalkerdaughter
4 months ago

No one thrilling moment comes to mind but I’ve always wished to go back in time and experience one average day when my 3 children were under 5 years old and one average day when I was 12, our family was together and my grandparents were visiting our home.

mytimetotravel
4 months ago

I used to go up to Peaks of Otter on the Blue Ridge Parkway pretty much every year, escaping the heat and humidity in the NC Piedmont (the humidity drops off above 2,500 feet). I’d take US29 north through Virginia, turn left on VA43 and then I’d get my first sight of the Appalachian mountains. All the stress would go out of my body and my spirits would lift. I haven’t been up since 2013 – the concessionaire had changed and the food was terrible. The lodge used to be cheap and basic, I just looked at the current prices and it’s certainly not cheap any more.

I’ve driven the whole length of the Blue Ridge Parkway plus Skyline Drive twice. I’d rather like to do it a third time, but I’ll have to rent a car. I was driving a rental the first time, in 1975, when I was expecting to go back to the UK in few months.

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mcgorski
4 months ago

There are many, but I’d say the first time we took our kids to Hawaii and walked out to a beautiful sunrise our first morning there with them – seeing a place like Hawaii through their young eyes was just magical. The surf, sun, gentle breeze and their energetic, happy voices.

Cheryl Low
4 months ago

What a great story!

I would relive any vacation with my dad. He was a brilliant man and a great storyteller. My husband and I would spend 3 weeks a year with my dad, stepmom, brother, and stepsister – one week at their citrus farm, one week at our home, and one week at a place on our bucket list. My dad was full of energy and loved a good joke. He would retell the good ones so many times that we numbered them. Sometimes, we’d just say the number and laugh. I still have the dining room table where we had lively discussions and laughs with family and friends – so many great memories.

DAN SMITH
4 months ago

There is lots of competition for my hit repeat button. My dad has been gone for 21 years. For at least the final 10 years of his life I would go back to the house where I grew up every week. I would do the chores that dad was beginning to have trouble doing himself. I’d clean the pool, trim the bushes, paint, and do random repairs and improvements. Then we’d go to lunch. Dad loved burgers and cold draught beer. Being a beer truck driver, I happened to know the best places in town for such delicacies. My customers treated my dad like royalty.
Sometimes my mom would join us, but usually she preferred staying home so that the boys could have some fun. My oldest daughter knew of these outings, and would call her grandma and chat the whole time we were away.
Yep, that’s the thing that brings a tear to my eye.

Patrick Brennan
4 months ago
Reply to  DAN SMITH

It’s the simple things, isn’t it Dan?

Mike Gaynes
4 months ago

Jonathan, I relive similar athletic moments to yours all the time. They happened on soccer fields all over America (plus one each in England and Hong Kong). I was a rank amateur by footballing standards, but once in a while my entire body came together in a coordinated fashion and I hit a shot just right… and it ripped into the top corner of the net.

Decades later, I still take a ridiculous pleasure in remembering that feeling.

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Kevin Lynch
4 months ago

Jonathan…your gift for writing continues to amaze. As someone else said, I felt like we were running stride for stride.

I was an avid runner in the early 1980’s, through the early 1990’s. I was inspired by my step dad, who I first met when my natural father died, in 1980. My step dad was a serious runner. He had determined that he loved to eat, but as a military man, needed to maintain weight standards. he discovered running and decided that by running, he could eat all he wanted.

By the time we met, in 1980, he had already accomplished a feat unmatched by many people. He ran in 10 consecutive Marine Corp Marathons, while living and working in Washington DC. He spent 24 years in the US Army and 16 years as a Capital Police office, working in the US Senate. I was living in Lakeland, Florida at the time and Lakeland was so named, because there were numerous lakes in town. Many of them were favored by runners as placed to run. He motivated me to be gin running, and over the years, I ran in numbers 5 & 10ks, a handful of 15 & 20ks, and 3 half Marathons. I can remember two races most clearly, a 5k in 1981 and a 15k in 1983. As you described Key West, I was envisioning my best time ever in a 5k, in Plant City, Florida, running through strawberry fields on both sides of the road, and running along Tampa Bay, in the Gasparilla Classic 15k.

My original purpose in taking up running was to lose weight, and in 1980-1981, over a 6 month period, I lost 65 pounds. I know today that the weight loss was primarily from proper eating, but the running certainly helped as well.

With that said…when I looked back at a moment of joy and happiness, that I would like to have the chance to repeat, that occurred in 1959. At the time, I was 8-9 years old and one of 5 children, of a United States Army Special Forces Soldier, who had served in WWII and Korea. On a Saturday morning, before the sun was up, my father and I got in the car, a 1957 Ford Fairlane, 4 door, and drove to a Lake in Bavaria Germany, called the Chiemsee. We spent the day there, just my dad and me. We went out on the lake in a paddle boat, and my legs barely reached the pedals. We ate breakfast and lunch there as well, before driving home, at the end of a long day I remember until this day, at age 74. In my lifetime, that is the only time I remember ever being alone, just the two of us. With a wife and 5 kids to provide for, and a military career spanning three wars, I am grateful for that day.

My father died March 1,1980, at age 53. He retired in 1974, after 30+ years in the Army, as the Command Sergeant Major of US Army Special Forces. He was the top Green Beret….but to me, he was the dad who made time for a day, alone, with just me, and paddle boats.

bbbobbins
4 months ago

A particular moment in a particular football match with my dad and brother. An afternoon pushing my baby niece around in a pram to give her parents a bit of a break. Any number of evening sits on the patio with family. Playing ping pong in a sports store with my now typically teenage niece (usually buried in her phone).

Lots of travel experiences I can probably replicate (although some may involve negotiating more crowds or selfie-hunters). Can’t replicate the people and who they (& I) were at that specific moment. Goes also for those lightning in a bottle fleeting relationships in my relative youth too.

Jack Hannam
4 months ago

I enjoy how you consider various deep questions, and turn them into questions for all of us to consider. I cannot relive any, but can attempt to sort of replicate the experience. I fondly recall various trips we took with friends in the past. We are older now, and some are no longer game for international travel, but I think if we simply travel to their locale and get together for companionship it would rekindle fond memories as we form new ones.

William Perry
4 months ago

There are many joyful and sad events in life. I am hard pressed to pick just one as they all have shaped the person I have become and how I think. The life lessons the tough events in my life have made me appreciate the really good and satisfying ones even more. Many of my good experiences would not have occurred but for being preceded by the tough ones.

Still one of the best experiences was getting to run and win my age 65+ group, in a local 5K fund raiser for a high school music program, with my only daughter as my running partner. While I finished first in my age group I was also second from the bottom as my age group consisted of just two people. My daughter did turn on her jets at the end of the race to finish ahead of me at the finish line but my memory of that day is a jewel in what I consider a great life.

Doing physical things and the following celebrations of success with people I love has been a common thread for me in my best experiences.

Thanks for the question.

DrLefty
4 months ago

This is a great question. Obviously my most consequential moments were my wedding in 1983 and the births of my two daughters, but my wedding was terrifying (all those people staring at me) and my deliveries were difficult, so I have no desire to relive those experiences.

My mind went several different directions: Watching my beloved San Francisco Giants win their first World Series of my lifetime on November 1, 2010. I have rarely been so completely, purely, blissfully happy. Seeing Bruce Springsteen in concert last Easter Sunday after decades of adoring him. Meeting my favorite Peloton instructor in London last summer. Seeing Hawaii for the first time.

But I think it would be something in my professional life, like hearing I’d been admitted with a full ride to my PhD program, having my first major journal article accepted, getting my first book contract, or being offered my first academic position. With retirement just a couple of months off, I’m feeling nostalgic and grateful for the good things that have happened.

Richard Hamilton
4 months ago

I didn’t have to think for long…..

I was home for the weekend visiting my parents – I was in my 20’s. I got up on Saturday morning and decided I could use the free day to change the brakes on my car. My dad was with me lending a hand. My Dad and I loved each other but we would bicker alot at each other as well. It always drove my mother crazy, she’d say, “can’t you two get along?” But the reality was we were getting along – we were just doing it loudly! Anyway, that day and weekend came and went.

Less than two years later my father would die of a heart attack at the age of 54. Now I’m 72 – I’d still give anything to bicker with my Dad in the garage one more time.

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Edmund Marsh
4 months ago

Great story, and I know it’s true, but it reminds me that you’ve written you would like to turn your hand to writing fiction again. It’s a loss that I suppose you won’t–you could write some great scenes.

I’m reminded of a couple of races I ran when I was in PT school. One was a 10k they held each year on the Naval Air Station in Jacksonville. Right off the bat my right foot and ankle started hurting. I’d never had this problem, and considered just dropping out and walking back to the start. But I kept hobbling along, and noticed that most of the pain was along the top of my foot. I stopped and retied the shoelace and that solved the problem. My foot recovered but not my attitude. My effort was sub-par, until I looked up about 200 yards from the finish to see an elderly couple ahead of me. Ageism kicked-in, I couldn’t face losing to the geriatric runners, so I kicked hard to pull ahead of them at the very end. I’m prepared to dodge stones from the older runners still hoofing it.

Another was part of a summer 5k series sponsored by a local running club, this one held in St. Augustine. I drove down with my friend Mary for the 7:00 p.m. race. Heat and humidity were at the top of the scale. When I arrived, I discovered I had forgotten my number. I wasn’t in the mood for a fun run, but I couldn’t let Mary down. She was just beginning to test herself against the endless pavement. I ran the race alongside her, offering encouragement to keep moving. She did finish, and it’s a good memory for me.

But the memories that cling closest are the circumstances leading to my first date with my wife. I was a physical therapy student intern at the Roosevelt Institute in Warm Springs, Georgia, along with a number of other rehab students. Fourteen of us lived together in the large, Victorian “Physio House” on the wooded campus, with me the oldest at age 35.

I fell into the habit of hanging out with Renee on Friday evenings as she waited until Atlanta traffic thinned-out for her drive to spend the weekend with family in North Georgia. During one conversation that drifted into opinions on social matters, she looked at me intently and suggested I should meet her classmate Sharon, that we have a lot in common. I didn’t think much of it, but tucked away the information.

Four months later, hanging out in Cartersville, Georgia waiting for my PT license so I could start my first job, I started accepting offers of blind date setups from friends near Atlanta. Two dates later, I figured I could do better on my own. I had stayed in touch with Renee, and hadn’t forgotten about her friend. I liked Renee, and figured a friend of her’s was a woman worth meeting. I called and asked for Sharon’s number. After checking with Sharon, Renee passed along the code that changed my life.

It took me two tries to connect, but I’m glad I made the second attempt. I can still remember her friendly, playful voice as she tested out the strange man who had chanced a telephone call to the woman “he should meet”. Meet we did, and Sharon called her brother in California afterward to tell him “I’ve met the man I’m going to marry”.

I didn’t find out until later that Sharon and Renee were not close friends. Rather, they butted heads as they took opposite sides of social issues. Renee figured these two deserve each other, and she was right.

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Ken Cutler
4 months ago

There are lots of experiences I’d love to be able to relive, for varied reasons. Still, two of the very best days of my life are when my children were born. I was present with Lisa when our first child, my daughter, was born. I’d been a little concerned I might feel uncomfortable, having heard stories of squeamish men. It wasn’t like that at all. When my daughter’s head emerged and I saw her tiny eyes looking around at the outside world for the first time, it was a magical moment that’s seared on my brain. When my son was born two years later, I was again enthusiastically present for the magical event. When Dan emerged, the attending doctor inexplicably shouted “It’s a girl!” My brain instantly processed that I was now the father of two daughters, but a split second later my error-detecting circuit kicked in and I pointed out to the doctor a bodily feature he’d obviously missed. 

Linda Grady
4 months ago
Reply to  Ken Cutler

😆

Edmund Marsh
4 months ago
Reply to  Ken Cutler

Funny story–embarrassed physician.

David Lancaster
4 months ago

If you could relive any experience from your life, what would it be?

What immediately popped into my head was being with my maternal grandfather in his back yard. I received my middle name from him, a physically similar, and inherited his green thumb. Needless to say we were very close. He died when I was a sophomore in college.

Before I was born my grandfather had used fill over the years to terrace the sloping landscape. I can still see the levels in my head (the house burned the first year I was out of college and living nearer to the other coast, and the house torn down and the land cleared into what is now an empty lot). First there was the sitting/patio which we had outdoor barbecues. Separated by a low loose stone wall was the grassy area with the perimeter lined with iris. The next level was his greenhouse whip to me as a young child was a cocoon in which we spent hours. Across from the greenhouse was his grape vines. The next level was his garden with the squash plants planted in old tires. The final level was a unkept area which was bordered by the Suagus river (really just a stream) where we would pull out trash others would throw in and would get lodged by his property.

In the summers each of us grandchildren would have a week alone with my grandparents, the thought of which is cherished, as I felt like I was the center of the universe. When my mom would call my grandmother and ask what I was doing the answer would invariably be, “ he’s playing (really gardening, potting in the greenhouse, or clearing the river) in the back yard with your father.”

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Edmund Marsh
4 months ago

I spent summers with my grandfather as well–great memories.

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Newsboy
4 months ago

Jonathan – I felt like I was running stride-by-stride with you in this 5K – what an exceptional narrative. Thank you for sharing this experience.

My takeaway is that it’s our toil in pursuit of a worthy goal that tends to stay ingrained in our brains, long after the achievement of the stated objective fades from memory. This reality compliments your regular advice about focusing retirement discretionary spending on memorable experiences, not material goods.

Cervantes said it well: “The road is always better than the Inn”

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