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DrLefty

Dana Ferris, known here as DrLefty, retired in July 2025 after 35 years as a university professor (applied linguistics and writing). She is the author of many academic articles, chapters, and books and is also a weekly columnist for a San Francisco Giants fan site. When not working or writing, she enjoys exercising, cooking, and traveling. She is the mother of two adult daughters, and she and her husband live in Davis, California, where they first met as undergraduates at UC Davis. You can read her Giants content here, and her Amazon author page is here.

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Estrangement & Estates

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AUTHOR: DrLefty on 7/10/2025
FIRST: David Lancaster on 7/10   |   RECENT: GaryW on 7/12

Today’s the Day!

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AUTHOR: DrLefty on 7/1/2025
FIRST: Ben Rodriguez on 7/1   |   RECENT: Mark Eckman on 7/12

2025 Retirement Countdown by Dana/DrLefty!

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AUTHOR: DrLefty on 1/1/2025
FIRST: Rick Connor on 1/1   |   RECENT: MikeinLA on 5/31

Stay or Go, and How Do We Know? By Dana/DrLefty

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AUTHOR: DrLefty on 5/2/2025
FIRST: mytimetotravel on 5/2   |   RECENT: Rob Jennings on 5/14

Am I Really Married?

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AUTHOR: DrLefty on 5/6/2025
FIRST: stelea99 on 5/6   |   RECENT: DrLefty on 5/14

Today's the Day!--Well, Sort Of (by Dana/DrLefty)

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AUTHOR: DrLefty on 4/1/2025
FIRST: Ken Cutler on 4/1   |   RECENT: luvtoride44afe9eb1e on 4/5

A Rental House?—By the Numbers (by Dana/DrLefty)

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AUTHOR: DrLefty on 9/11/2024
FIRST: William Perry on 9/11/2024   |   RECENT: DrLefty on 9/15/2024

A Rental House? Questions to Consider (from Dana/DrLefty)

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AUTHOR: DrLefty on 9/9/2024
FIRST: Michael1 on 9/10/2024   |   RECENT: Mark Eckman on 9/12/2024

Final Arrangements: A Learning Curve

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AUTHOR: DrLefty on 8/18/2024
FIRST: Jonathan Clements on 8/18/2024   |   RECENT: parkslope on 8/22/2024

Aging in Place: Count the Cost(s)

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AUTHOR: DrLefty on 6/22/2024
FIRST: baldscreen on 6/22/2024   |   RECENT: DrLefty on 6/23/2024

Comments

  • We actually have a fiduciary named as our executor—not because of an estrangement situation but because we’ve structured our trust in a way that certain family members might not be happy about. I didn’t want to impose that fraught dynamic on another family member, so our estate will pay an objective third party to handle it.

    Post: Estrangement & Estates

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  • My parents got divorced when I was 30, and my father pretty quickly remarried. It was my stepmother’s third marriage. She resented any reminders of my father’s life before her and did everything she could to distance me, my kids, and my siblings from my dad over the final years of his life (they were married 7.5 years before he passed). I never her saw her again after my dad’s memorial service, and she passed away a few years back. He left his estate all to her.

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  • That sounds very hard but also like you did the right thing for yourself.

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  • That’s very sad, Jan. I’m sorry to hear that you had to grow up without those family connections and happy to hear that your in-laws were able to provide it for your kids. People with tight-knit, healthy families don’t understand sometimes how much other people can miss out on.

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  • I think your attitude is the best one: It’s not my money, and it’s not my place to decide whether my estranged sibling deserves an inheritance. I can imagine other siblings (not necessarily yours but in any family) not feeling quite as gracious, though—we’ve been here and Sibling hasn’t; Sibling’s caused all of us pain, so why are they being rewarded for their bad behavior? Again, if it’s not my money, then it’s not my business, but I can see how the feelings would be complicated.

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  • Absolutely—care for yourself rather than preserving a potential inheritance. That’s a gift to your loved ones, as well—the gift of knowing you’re cared for and safe and not having your heart in your throat every time the phone rings. We went through similar dynamics with my mother-in-law and her husband (she also had Alzheimer’s). It can be downright traumatic.

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  • Clever title. 😉 I’m not especially interested in a paying side hustle now that I’ve retired, though there are things I could do if I chose to. But I can absolutely see how I could fill up my time to the point that I’m not enjoying retirement as much as I’d imagined. It’s flattering that people still want me to do stuff, but I don’t want to have the same levels of responsibility that I had as a working person.

    Post: Framed by his Side Hustle?

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  • I asked ChatGPT to write a professional biography of me a couple years ago. It got a lot of things right, but it also:

    1. Said I got my PhD at UCLA. I went to USC. Those are fighting words.
    2. Attributed a book to me that I didn’t write. The title was in the neighborhood of something I might have written—but I didn’t.
    I used this as an object lesson for my writing students as to why they couldn’t outsource their work to AI.

    Post: A spooky and alarming thing relating to the two AI articles posted:

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  • I really enjoy cooking and got even deeper into it during the pandemic—things were shut down for a long time here in California. We’d pick up takeout from our favorite local place about once a week because we wanted it to still be in business when things opened up again, but otherwise it was all me. I’m not entirely sure that I always save money by cooking over eating out—depends on the cuisine and the restaurant—but I completely agree it helps with healthier eating and portion control.

    Post: The Value of Scratch Cooking in Retirement

    Link to comment from July 11, 2025

  • This is cool. Thanks! Now that I’m retired and supposedly have more spare time, one of my immediate goals is to get more conversant with AI tools for things like financial and travel planning.

    Post: Using AI to create a robust investment plan

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Articles

Misplaced Trust

Dana Ferris   |  Oct 3, 2024

WHEN I WAS A YOUNG adult, my parents sat me down and explained that I might at some point inherit money from my grandfather’s trust, which had also helped put me through college. My grandfather passed away in 1984, and his wife—my father’s stepmother—became the trust’s beneficiary.
My father was an only child. The trust stipulated that, if his stepmother died before him, he would receive two-thirds of the trust, while my two siblings and I would share the other third.

Final Countdown

Dana Ferris   |  Aug 22, 2024

I’VE DECIDED UPON MY retirement date: July 1, 2025. We just passed the one-year countdown point, so I thought I’d share some of my ideas and plans for my final year in the workforce.
This countdown idea, of course, isn’t original with me. Indeed, there are apps that you can put on your phone to count down the time until retirement. I was primarily inspired by a retirement blogger named Fritz Gilbert. He’s way more decisive than I am.

Count Me Out

Dana Ferris   |  May 10, 2024

MY ALL-TIME FAVORITE movie is the Coen brothers’ 2000 classic, O Brother, Where Art Thou? At one point, Holly Hunter’s character, Penelope, declares, “I’ve said my piece and I’ve counted to three.” Her estranged husband, played by George Clooney, understood from long experience that once she had “counted to three,” her mind couldn’t be changed.
Last summer, I wrote an article that explored the decisions my husband and I are working through about our retirement date and location.

My Father’s Daughter

Dana Ferris   |  Jan 30, 2024

MY LATE FATHER SPENT his entire career, from the time he dropped out of college to marry my mother until the day he died at age 61, in the insurance business. My father was also a huge fan of the San Francisco 49ers, our hometown NFL team.
Last year, the 49ers cruised through the playoffs, led by the team’s dynamic young quarterback, Brock Purdy. But then, in the NFC Championship game against the Philadelphia Eagles,

When and Where?

Dana Ferris   |  Sep 6, 2023

A LOT HAS BEEN written, here at HumbleDollar and elsewhere, about the “when” of retirement. Not surprisingly, there are strong opinions.
For example, I’m a member of a Facebook group where the overwhelming consensus is, “Don’t work one single day longer than you absolutely have to.” Of course, many people don’t have the luxury of choosing their ideal retirement date because life intervenes: They get let go from their job or experience health issues that dictate the answer to the “when” question.

Scoring Points

Dana Ferris   |  Aug 30, 2023

I’M NOT SOMEONE WHO enjoys spending money on luxury travel. I’d never pay cash for a business class airline ticket or a hotel suite. Nonetheless, on a recent trip to Spain with my husband, we flew business class and had suites in all four hotels we stayed at.
We also visited lounges in every airport before our flights, had access to executive lounges at two hotels where we could get free meals, snacks and cocktails,

Improving My Habits

Dana Ferris   |  Jun 13, 2023

THE PROLIFIC MR. QUINN recently wrote that people who were irresponsible in one area of their life, such as failing to return shopping carts, also tend to be irresponsible in other areas, like managing their finances. He’s probably right. Still, I’ve had times when, even though I’m a “responsible person”—I’ve had a successful career, my kids lived to grow up, and so forth—I nonetheless had pockets of disorder in my life.
For me, the two biggest areas of chaos were managing money and maintaining a healthy diet and exercise regimen.

Buying Time

Dana Ferris   |  Jun 4, 2023

“I’D BE HAPPY TO JUST come here every year,” I told my husband. We and our two daughters had arrived on Maui 72 hours earlier. It was May 2000—and our first trip to Hawaii.
We’d signed up for a timeshare presentation in return for discounts on tours and activities. By the time we got to the meeting, I’d fallen head over heels in love with the place. The timeshare salesperson had an easy time persuading me to buy.

A Better Plan

Dana Ferris   |  May 9, 2023

MY HUSBAND AND I WERE late bloomers when it came to estate planning. Though we took care of the basics when we became parents, such as purchasing term life insurance and naming a guardian, we never had a professionally executed will and trust until 2016, when we were in our late 50s.
Observing my in-laws, now in their 80s, made us realize how important it was to get our own estate-planning house in order.

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