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Wade Pfau has put me in a funk. Are you dealing with the stages of retirement?

Wade Pfau has an interesting article on RetirementResearch.com about the non-financial aspects of retirement and the various stages. 

In it he states, “Mid-retirement often reveals the cracks beneath the surface. Six months to a year in, many retirees face the “most dangerous day,” when the novelty wears off and the emptiness of unscheduled time sets in. Without purpose or structure, days can feel repetitive. This is when boredom or unease can set in, sometimes leading to unhealthy patterns.”

Since this never happened to me, I was wondering if others found it a challenge. I never thought of retirement as a novelty, but rather the next phase of a journey anticipated for decades and for most of us unavoidable in any case. 

My view is that our personalities don’t change just because we retire. I also think some people create unrealistic expectations for retirement and thus set themselves up for a letdown. 

Are these real concerns?

Missing work and perhaps status with it?

Fewer friends because others still work?

Spending 24 hours more or less every day with a spouse or partner? 

Finding things to do or feeling the need to do so?

Frankly, I look forward to a little boredom, days with nothing to do, days without a doctors appointment or car repair, or shopping or sometimes even golfing.

Of course, I have been at this retirement thing a long time and according to Pfau we are in the “Late Retirement: Facing Decline and Legacy.” stage.

Now that is depressing. I’d rather fancy “take life one day at a time” and shorten your planning horizon. 😎

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DrLefty
11 months ago

Well, I’m about 4.5 months in, so maybe I don’t quite qualify for this discussion yet, but here are a few things I’ve noticed so far.

  1. The abundance of time has discombobulated me a bit. Because I don’t feel the same urgency I used to—no classes to teach, fewer deadlines to meet—I can put things off. I haven’t quite hit a rhythm yet.
  2. People are definitely asking me for more time/tasks than they used to.
  3. I deliberately agreed to several academic projects during this first year of retirement—a third edition of one of my books, due next July, journal articles with younger colleagues (former students/mentees) based on my last two research projects—thinking that some semblance of work would ease my transition after 35 years of a professor. Honestly, I’m starting to resent it a little bit. I’m motivated to finish all of it up by next July 1 (my one-year anniversary of retirement) so I can be really retired.
  4. I’ve been removed from text chats and email lists with my former colleagues, and I couldn’t be happier about that. Every now and then something will flit across my mind: “I wonder what’s happening with X?” And then “I don’t really care that much.” I could find out if I wanted to. But I really don’t. It hasn’t been hard at all to let go of being in the loop and feeling needed.
Michael1
11 months ago

We’re all different, and I understand how some of the issues on the list can arise for people, but happy to say I’m four years into retirement with no issues or complaints.

Mike Gaynes
11 months ago

I refuse to say I’m retired, but given my limited work hours, any outside observer would say I’ve packed it in. Workwise, anyway. Certainly not lifewise. I sang in competition last weekend (barbershop), act in local theater whenever I can pass an audition, referee adult soccer, deliver for Meals On Wheels, and hit the gym maybe twice a week. Travel has been deferred by a family illness, but we’ll get to that when the time comes.

Yet with all that, I feel a bit lazy, and more than a bit guilty when I’m just camped in front of the TV watching a game. Wonder if I’ll ever get past that.