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The old adage “money can’t buy you happiness” is a concise articulation of a simple truth: there are much more important things in life than the accumulation of riches. A reminder of the shortcomings of wealth can be a positive step toward embracing other, more meaningful uses of our time rather than focusing on the value of one’s portfolio and constant low-level worry about the markets. And, after all, we all love a little list.
So what are these intrinsic values, and what do they really look like in real life?
Meaningful Relationships: The People Who Still Answer Your Calls:
They know your terrible singing voice, they saw you cry over a burnt pizza, and they still haven’t filed a restraining order. That’s true, priceless commitment.
Health: The Ability to Get Up Without Grunting:
A morning where your knees don’t sound like a popcorn machine and you can touch your toes (even briefly) is a monumental health victory.
Purpose and Meaning: Finding the Right Netflix Series:
You’ve committed. You’re invested. You know the characters better than your actual neighbors. It may not save the world, but it gets you through Tuesday.
Autonomy and Mastery: Opening a Jar on the First Try:
The fleeting, glorious moment where you conquer a piece of factory-sealed glass. You are a titan. You are the master of friction. You earned that pickle.
Gratitude and Presence: The Uninterrupted Hot Shower:
The simple, exquisite joy of not running out of hot water, not being interrupted by a doorbell, and finding the perfect water pressure. You are here, and the steam is glorious.
So there we go. If you can tick all the boxes on the intrinsic value list, you’ve totally got your life together. Personally, I’m still working on the Netflix series—I’m rubbish at long-term commitments.
The best time of my day is when I eat a late lunch, next to the window in my kitchen, and read a few of chapters of the Bible. I’m on the fifth time through and just started the New Testament. I discover something new every time.
Check out Detectorists or Canal Boat Diaries for wonderful television.
Great list.
Thanks. I needed that.
And may I add that my life hardly had any of your list until my relationship with Christ. Then the peace in my heart allowed me to move forward and appreciate all of your list except we don’t have Netflix
I’m certainly with you on the Netflix.
Latest Netflix watches:
The Diplomat, Season 3
Death by Lightning
Coming Nov. 20: A Man on the Inside, Season 2 (can’t wait!)
We seem to have similar tastes. We finished Diplomat, and have 2 episodes of DbL to go. We have not watched A Man on the Inside, but will add it to My List. Thanks, Dana
We discovered The Diplomat the day I read an article about the season three release. We took all of a week watching all three season. In the new format where content is spread all over the place we have struggled to find much great content. The Diplomat is the closest to the quality of This is Us which is our standard for great writing and acting, but still a ways off.
I’m a sucker for the Great British Baking Show. It’s a competition but the contestants are all so supportive of each other. It’s lovely. Plus I get ideas for new things to bake! I’m eagerly awaiting the next season of Black Doves, but it doesn’t look like it will be released until sometime next year.
Might I suggest “Escape to the Country” on Britbox? I watch very little TV, preferring books, but that is interesting and soothing.
I’ll check it out – thanks for the suggestion!
Bake-off is one of the very few series I actually enjoy watching…it just finished in Ireland, ten months until I get to watch it again 😔
100% agreed Cecilia. Great British Bake-off is a fantastic show. Noel Fielding is an absolute gem.
I’m totally with you, Dana, on the first and last ones. Death by Lightning is a new one for me, so I’ll have to check it out.
Great list! For me, I’d also add having endless opportunities to learn, grow, improve, etc. someone can probably suggest a pithier phrase…
Mark, you had me at “meaningful relationships”. When Chrissy didn’t immediately throw me out of the house, after hearing me sing for the first time, I felt like I struck gold.
Some of these echo your list in a different form, but . . .
When the car starts
Food in the fridge or pantry
Chocolate ice cream
Meeting friends for lunch
Social support
Happy kids/grandkids
The outdoors
A new and exciting vacation spot
Occasionally picking up the tab for a group
Marital happiness
Music
The smell of freshly mowed grass
The taste of a fresh tomato straight off the vine
And not many items on your list cost a lot of $
Grandchildren.
Good list!