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AUTHOR: Edmund Marsh on 8/15/2025

Planning often costs nothing but time. Even then, the hours we devote to it can buy us buckets of happiness. Some plans may go no further. No matter. There’s no harm done. We’ve spent no money and taken no risk. 

A personal financial plan, on the other hand, can be costly–whether it’s implemented or not. For instance, if we don’t do what we know we ought, actions like making a Roth conversion or moving money out of a high-fee mutual fund, we could find our finances treading water. Or, if we follow a poorly-conceived plan, we might even go under.

My wife and I hope to sidestep both pitfalls as we put the money plan for our senior years into motion. But I’m finding I can’t avoid facing the emotional cost of changing the habits and thinking I’ve developed over years of nurturing our retirement savings.

Dripping in. I recently cut back on my work hours as I phase into retirement. Along with my work schedule, however, my paycheck also got pruned. That means less salary for all purchases, including new shares of stock. 

Even so, my wife and I have no logical reason to feel pinched for money. Currently, my part-time pay covers the usual expenses for my family’s frugal lifestyle. There’s even enough left over for low-key leisure pursuits, like the limited travel that keeps us close to our elderly mothers. My employer also pays the bulk of my health insurance premium. And I have an array of other benefits, including a generous allowance for paid time off.

Meanwhile, our finances are underpinned by investment accounts at all-time highs. We can’t take credit for their growth. Our heaviest lift was plunking part of each paycheck into index funds during decades of a mostly soaring stock market. Those steady deposits have swelled into the money pool from which we’ll pull our future living expenses. For now, those funds are untapped, but could be used for any purpose.

Yet, despite my lengthy list of financial blessings, since shifting to part-time I occasionally feel less wealthy. I know my sense of lack stems from a slimmer paycheck. No, I don’t hunger for more spending money. I just wasn’t prepared for my reaction to the skinnier contributions now dripping into my stock-index funds.

Before moving to part-time, a chunk of my paycheck was diverted to buy stocks in my Roth 403b. By comparison, it now seems like just a bit, even though it’s still big enough to get the company match. In addition, I expect my employer will continue to add an annual bonus into my tax-deferred 403b. I also invest the money I deposit into my Health Savings Account (HSA). 

But I miss the thrill of saving back a wad of cash to purchase the promise held in a new batch of stocks. Shaving a few cents off a cup of coffee with the senior discount just doesn’t give me the same kick. I know, I know. Some folks are never content.

Flowing out. I suppose my emotions will adapt to my new reality, just in time to take another hit as I move into the next phase. I aim to hold my work hours in the physical therapy clinic steady for at least two years. Then, at age 65, I’ll either stay the course or drop off the regular schedule to PRN status, working only when called upon. Or, I may heed my wife’s wishes and promote myself to full-time retiree. 

For me, full retirement means no payday, aside from a paltry pension I’m eligible to collect at age 65 ½. Therefore, my wife and I will look to our savings for most of the money to pay bills, until I begin drawing Social Security at age 70. We’ll also get a smaller, but helpful amount from my wife’s Social Security check, which she expects to start in two years when she hits age 62. Her instinct is to wait, but Mike Piper’s Open Social Security calculator advises claiming it early. 

Assuming I do retire in two years, we’ll rely chiefly on our investment portfolio to cover 4 ½ years of expenses, until my Social Security begins. That means selling stocks to generate spending money for the first time. Or, we might pull from the “bond” side, instead. The source could range from the simple freedom of a stash of short-term bonds or bond funds and cash to the commitment of an annuity. Either way, we’ll be dipping deep into savings that have yet to be disturbed.  And even after my Social Security adds a nice addition to the pot, my wife and I are counting on those savings to pay for the retirement we anticipate enjoying. 

My rational self is nodding his logical head at our spending strategy. Makes sense–it’s the reason we socked the money away, after all. But his emotional sidekick feels rising anxiety thinking of rafts of money flowing out of our portfolio, rather than in. The question is: Am I confident our income plan can take the hits that are sure to come our way?

Staying Afloat. True, I can’t predict the future, but I’m reasonably certain that over the next three decades a slew of companies will fail, inflation will rise and I may still be alive. How will my wife and I cover these challenges? 

For starters, we invest in thousands of companies across the globe through low-cost index funds. So when some businesses go belly-up, we’ll still own stock in those that are thriving. Stocks also offer the best chance of beating inflation, so that our portfolio holds its value decades from now, even if our dollars don’t.

Still, much of my optimism for our future results lies in our past behavior. My wife and I have never taken risks with our spending by treading too close to the limit of our paycheck. Or  plunged into debt to satisfy this week’s burning desire to buy. We can’t take full credit for that, since we’ve avoided the troubles that befall many families. Even so, I suspect we’ll continue to make choices that give us a margin of financial safety.

In similar fashion, we’re not calculating the highest withdrawal rate we think our portfolio will bear as a starting point for selling stocks. Instead, we plan to leave a comfortable cushion untouched by ordinary spending, ready to absorb the financial shocks that may come our way. We’re thankful to have that choice, and know many families don’t. 

Assuming we do avoid financial calamity, will I one day lament following a money plan that’s leaner than it might have been? Maybe, but I doubt it. Instead, I hope I’m content knowing we kept a measure of worry at bay by keeping close to the money habits that landed us where we now stand.

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Richard Hayman
21 days ago

Being in retirement for nearly a quarter century, I experienced plenty of turmoil in the markets. Fortunately, my financial advisor was very good at keeping me from panicking.

The only major change “I” directed was reducing equities early in 2015. I know I left some money on the table, but I was able to sleep well at night.

The point is slow and steady protects you having an imperfect plan.

Worry if you will, but you have nothing to fear.

The other half of the equation is health. It’s not going to get better. Do the adventurous trips first. Lazy cruises later. Then enjoy the grandkids as you help them become adults.

It’s a wonderful trip well earned.

We missed some bucket items due to several life changing health issues. We didn’t see that coming. Small regrets.

Last edited 21 days ago by Richard Hayman
R Quinn
20 days ago
Reply to  Richard Hayman

Do the adventurous trips first. Lazy cruises later. Then enjoy the grandkids as you help them become adults.”

True, very true. Words of wisdom and a summary of our retirement to date. My one small bucket regret is not getting to Iceland … yet.

David Lancaster
20 days ago
Reply to  R Quinn

At the end of your time on the Cape go to Logan and Bon Voyage. You can return to Logan and then drive back to NJ

William Dorner
23 days ago

Well done, you can keep calm, but also remain vigilant. After 20 years out at 80, I can assure you, all will not go according to plan, but at the same time the fact that you planned, will get you where you want to go. One thing we did learn, is we spend more per year in retirement than when I was working. Luckily, we saved and invested well, so now you will spend instead of save, that is a major change and will take some getting used to. That old 60/40 portfolio, is now 85/15, 80% index funds, mostly S&P 500, 5% other and 15% cash to tide you over in down years in the market. Bonds never helped me enough, and seemed to have too many poor years. So far so good. Best to you in retirement, make it a most delightful time.

tshort
23 days ago

Ed – your post reminds me a lot of how I felt when my wife and I were staring down retirement, particularly the part about having frugalista tendencies and a conservative approach to money management and spending. Longevity in both our families, a large enough portfolio to make the math work, and lots of thoughts about things we wanted to do once we had all of our time to ourselves (‘time millionaire’ I call it).

Based on what you wrote, I get the sense that you have more than enough saved and invested to see you through a ripe old age without any need to worry about making it. Of course, that depends a lot on how you’re invested and the decisions you make now and in the next 10 years.

I’d recommend sitting down with your wife and talking through what you want the next 30-40 years of your life to be like as if money didn’t matter. Do this without putting any limitations on yourselves financially (or otherwise, assuming you’re both in good health). I mean really allow yourselves to go wild with it. See where that takes you and write it all down in whatever format makes sense to you.

Then you can go through it and start evaluating what’s on it. Do you really want this or that thing you put on your vision list, or was that just a fantasy wish? Identify what’s important, what would make the first 10-20 years of being retired meaningful to you.

Then go back and through and determine how much it would cost to realize that vision.

We are now spending a good 50% more than we were when were both working. At first this was not easy. We needed to run the numbers in such a way that we could feel comfortable with spending the level we’re now spending, and know that if needed we could adjust our spending any time we wanted.

On a more tactical level, you may want to look into setting up a bond ladder to stave off SORR risk. This is a way of ensuring you have money ‘coming at you’ each year from a secure, stable source that isn’t subject to the market’s buffeting.

Remember, retirement is a journey. You can change your mind about your discretionary spending any time you want. Good luck. Enjoy!

David Lancaster
23 days ago

Hey Ed,

When considering your plan, don’t forget the income that your investments are kicking off.
I retired six years ago, and my wife five. Our portfolio has always been +/- 5% of 50/50 stocks bonds. Over those 5-6 years our average annual return has been 7.5%. We have been able to continue our (frugal) pre-retirement spending (frugal enough that we never have had a budget) including much travel (even international) and our portfolio has continued to increase. This even despite the horrible stock AND bond markets of 2022. So relax and enjoy your extra free time.

PS When it comes to determining where to tap or portfolio I perform a quarterly net worth, and use Morningstar’s portfolio X-ray with the premium membership and prune from any assets in excess of our allocation. I harvest enough to keep a year’s worth of cash in my mutual fund company’s money market fund to get a higher interest rate. Only keep a couple of grand in our credit union account due to the poor interest rates.

Good Luck!

Last edited 23 days ago by David Lancaster
Ken Cutler
24 days ago

Ed, not surprisingly, it sounds as though you have a very solid and well thought-out plan for your particular situation. You have plenty of room to maneuver as well when life throws you curveballs. This week a curveball that came my way made me realize I’ll need to do some serious course corrections…not just financial.

Rick Connor
24 days ago
Reply to  Ken Cutler

Ken, best of luck with whatever curveball life threw at you. Please know your friends at HD are thinking about you and your family.

OldITGuy
24 days ago

Ed — you have a very thoughtful and reasoned approach to your retirement financial plan. I have every confidence you and your wife will do very well managing and adjusting your financial plan, especially since you both have a long track record of success doing so. There’s an old saying in education that goes something like “the best predictor of future performance is past performance”. Do exceptions exist; sure. But generally I think it’s a fairly true statement. Please continue to update us on your journey into retirement. Gene

David Powell
24 days ago

You’re not alone in feeling that way in your rookie year. For my final 10 years of work, as our income unexpectedly rose, we amped up our savings rate. We stuffed gobs of money in a taxable account while maxing out traditional and Roth 401k contributions and annual HSA. We saved 20% of salary in a deferred compensation plan in case retirement started early (as it did for me).

We’re still saving in retirement but it took some time to adjust to each deposit having fewer zeros. I still get a kick out of seeing the share count rise each week, and the bump from quarterly dividends reinvested.

Your slow glide to full retirement, and a retirement income plan which has safety margin, should bring much peace through future market and economic chaos. Well done!

David Lancaster
23 days ago
Reply to  Edmund Marsh

Ed,
In relations to the other David’s reply above, it is good that you are performing a, “slow glide into retirement” based on your feelings regarding your finances with only a small tick down in paycheck. If you had jumped straight into full retirement you may have experienced too much financial angst to enjoy the freedom of no work at all.

Please feel free to use my theory in conversations with your wife when it comes to discussing your future moves towards full time retirement.😊

Dennis Friedman
24 days ago

Ed,
Nice article. It looks like you have a solid plan: gradually reducing your hours and then taking your Social Security at 70. That will make it easier to get used to living without a paycheck.

1PF
24 days ago

If I had retired before age 70 my plan was to take SS at age 70 to get my highest possible SS payment. To pay my expenses in the meantime, I’d withdraw funds from my tIRA. With the lower tIRA balance, my eventual RMDs would be lower.

I did work until 70, phasing to part-time in the last few years. To afford to retire to a CCRC I had to be so frugal on my teacher’s salary and careful with my investments that I worried I’d have trouble switching to spending. Happily, it was easier than expected (but not too easy). “This is what I planned and invested for” became my mantra.

1PF
24 days ago
Reply to  Edmund Marsh

I retired at age 70 from an independent secondary school. I’d been there for decades and loved it. For several years I’d worked part-time (quarter-time teaching and half-time academic staff work), and the final two years just the half-time staff work. If the pandemic hadn’t happened, I might have continued on, but that final 2020-21 year was exhausting for teachers, staff, and students.

R Quinn
24 days ago

You write, “Therefore, my wife and I will look to our savings for most of the money to pay bills, until I begin drawing Social Security at age 70” (4-1/2 years).

Why put yourself through those years of market up’s and downs, possible market risk and stress?

Sure the SS four years from now will be higher but your investments may be lower.

Seems like there is both an investment risk and longevity risk here. You know me, I’d take the bird in the hand approach.

R Quinn
24 days ago
Reply to  Edmund Marsh

If you are confident and comfortable in your decision that’s all that matters. Enjoy retirement.

DAN SMITH
24 days ago

Ed, your planning has paid off and I think you guys are in great shape. But telling someone not to worry is a little like telling a person who suffers from depression to stop being sad. It’s taken me a few years to get used to not seeing those elective deferrals going into savings, still, our net worth continues to grow, even with modest distributions. 
So, in the immortal words of  Bobby McFerrin, Don’t Worry Be Happy.

Rick Connor
24 days ago

Great article Ed. Transitioning from accumulation to decumulation was a bit of a psychological challenge. Phasing out of full-time work was a big help. Transitioning to retirement during a global pandemic, and making a decision to relocate to a higher cost of living region, just when interest rtes spiked, made our financial plan more complicated than we could have imagined 8 years ago when I stopped full-time work. We’ve transferred some of our equity wealth into real estate equity, but our plan still looks sound. I credit that to the kinds of financial behaviors and decisions you reference. When you build a plan with a good margin of safety, it allows you to make choices when life situations pop up. It sounds like you guys are in great shape.

bbbobbins
24 days ago

I think the emotional response is entirely understandable – if even the process of accumulating less is a concern then of course you’ll find the flip from accumulation to decumulation challenging at first.

That doesn’t mean you shouldn’t do it. There is one inescapable thing for everyone – mortality. And though the numbers on time are even more unforecastable than money we have to remember that far, far more people run out of time before they absolutely run out of money.

So trust in the planning you’ve done. Know that you aren’t suddenly going to change character and start chartering private jets to Vegas etc. And enjoy the best of what the new phase brings you.

baldscreen
24 days ago

Good post, Ed. We have had some of the same feelings you are expressing here since we retired 18 mos ago. It took time to get settled with our new income, but we are in a good place now. We are frugal, like you and your wife. The lower income is an adjustment, but I am still saving from it, it is just less than before. I consider it a win. I think your plan of going part time and then PRN is a good way to ease into things. Spouse did this too, since they liked their job. Chris

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