Sundar Rao Sundar retired after a four-decade career as a research and development engineer. He lives in a 55-plus community. His interests include investing, digital painting, reading, writing and gardening. In addition to his Forum posts and comments, shown below, be sure to check out his writer's page where his articles are listed.
Sad news about T. V. Narayanan, a writer for HD
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AUTHOR: smr1082 on 5/22/2025
FIRST: Andrew Forsythe on 5/22 | RECENT: smr1082 on 5/25
Assisted Living - How will you choose?
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AUTHOR: smr1082 on 5/11/2025
FIRST: mytimetotravel on 5/11 | RECENT: smr1082 on 5/17
Going Against the Grain
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AUTHOR: smr1082 on 4/25/2025
FIRST: Dan Smith on 4/25 | RECENT: smr1082 on 5/3
Three bucket strategy for financing retirement
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AUTHOR: smr1082 on 3/27/2025
FIRST: Jonathan Clements on 3/27 | RECENT: smr1082 on 4/23
What should be our % cash allocation in investment portfolio?
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AUTHOR: smr1082 on 11/6/2024
FIRST: Brent Wilson on 11/6/2024 | RECENT: Ben Rodriguez on 4/2
Senior Care Crisis - Are we prepared?
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AUTHOR: smr1082 on 3/4/2025
FIRST: Nick Politakis on 3/5 | RECENT: smr1082 on 3/10
Dump the 60/40 and target date funds for 100% stock plus annuity portfolio?
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AUTHOR: smr1082 on 2/5/2025
FIRST: David Lancaster on 2/6 | RECENT: L H on 2/19
Lessons you have learned from articles by Jonathan Clements
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AUTHOR: smr1082 on 1/22/2025
FIRST: Randy Dobkin on 1/22 | RECENT: Bear Seiver on 1/28
When should one give up financial control?
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AUTHOR: smr1082 on 12/11/2024
FIRST: eludom on 12/12/2024 | RECENT: Rick Connor on 12/15/2024
What life lessons would you like to pass on to the next generation?
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AUTHOR: smr1082 on 11/17/2024
FIRST: Winston Smith on 11/17/2024 | RECENT: smr1082 on 11/27/2024
Dream Retirement: Is It Fading Away?
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AUTHOR: smr1082 on 10/31/2024
FIRST: Dan Smith on 11/1/2024 | RECENT: neyugn on 11/5/2024
How would you prepare for the staggering cost of in-home care if you ever need it?
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AUTHOR: smr1082 on 9/10/2024
FIRST: baldscreen on 9/10/2024 | RECENT: parkslope on 9/15/2024
When you retire, should you move your retirement savings to IRA or leave it in 401K plan?
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AUTHOR: smr1082 on 8/11/2024
FIRST: Nick Politakis on 8/11/2024 | RECENT: smr1082 on 8/17/2024
How to protect your retirement savings from scammers?
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AUTHOR: smr1082 on 7/29/2024
FIRST: Rick Connor on 7/29/2024 | RECENT: Margaret Fallon on 8/7/2024
Signing up for pre-planned funeral services: Is it worth it?
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AUTHOR: smr1082 on 7/23/2024
FIRST: baldscreen on 7/24/2024 | RECENT: smr1082 on 7/28/2024
Perils of market downturns early in retirement
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AUTHOR: smr1082 on 7/19/2024
FIRST: Sanjib Saha on 7/20/2024 | RECENT: Ormode on 7/22/2024
What Financial/ Life advice would you give a 2024 college graduate?
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AUTHOR: smr1082 on 6/29/2024
FIRST: Ed Wong on 6/29/2024 | RECENT: Ben Rodriguez on 7/2/2024
Lump sum Vs Monthly Payment - Which pension option is better?
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AUTHOR: smr1082 on 6/21/2024
FIRST: steve abramowitz on 6/22/2024 | RECENT: Michael Flack on 6/28/2024
DURING A PROJECT meeting at my old employer, a member of our team was constantly raising questions without offering any solutions. Afterwards, the team leader commented, “This guy always thinks his cup is half empty. Nothing will ever satisfy him.”
We’ve all known such people. Is there anything wrong with their attitude? It depends. My boss told me during my first week, “Never be satisfied with the status quo. Find ways to improve everything.
MANY FOLKS CLAIM TO be ready for retirement, both financially and psychologically. But they’re often surprised to discover that the reality is different from what they expected.
I started planning well in advance of my 2023 retirement. I read dozens of books on the subject, and talked to many classmates and friends who’d already retired. Of all the books and videos that I reviewed, one talk on YouTube stood out: a TEDx Talk by Dr.
WHEN I LOOK BACK at my career, I see that the key to my long tenure with one employer was my desire to learn new skills and help expand the business. That mindset, I believe, helped me survive multiple rounds of layoffs.
I’m hoping that same mindset will help with retirement.
Many retirees say, “I just want to relax. Get rid of the alarm clock. No more classes or schedules for me.” While that feels good for a while,
DURING A GATHERING of retired friends, the topic of wills came up. Many had completed their wills and had their finances in order, while others were working on updating their wills. But there were several who hadn’t even started thinking about it. One of them said, “As a retiree, I’m just starting to enjoy my freedom and have some fun. It’s too stressful to think about death. I’ll get to it someday.”
As you might imagine,
IF SOMEONE TOLD ME 10 years ago that I’d end up living in a 55-plus community, I would have laughed. Our plan was to stay in the home we loved and age in place.
What happened? Our initial move to a 55-plus community was driven solely by convenience. My company transferred me to Atlanta in 2021. We wanted to downsize to an apartment, but finding one close to work was challenging. Our son pointed out that there was a 55-plus apartment community close to my workplace.
WE’VE ALL HEARD THE maxim that “without risk, there’s no reward.” Over the years, we’ve all taken countless risks—big and small, financial and otherwise—to get to where we are today.
Every activity has a risk associated with it, and that includes retirement. It’s best to be aware of these risks and, when prudent, take steps to limit them. Here are nine risks that retirees face.
1. Health. Even if we’re fortunate to enjoy a long,
DURING THE PANDEMIC, I started devoting more time to retirement planning. But I had more questions than answers. I called a friend who was a financial planner.
“Retirement planning is confusing,” I told him. “I have a lot of questions.”
He laughed and said, “The answer is money. What’s the question?”
While his answer was humorous, it reflected what most retirees already know: Money is crucial for a good retirement. While it isn’t the only thing you need for a happy retirement,
I WAS WORRIED ABOUT what we’d be giving up when, a few years ago, we moved to a 55-plus community in Atlanta. We downsized from a large home to a small apartment, plus all our neighbors were considerably older. It was obvious we had to adjust and start enjoying our unfamiliar environment or we’d end up miserable.
My wife and I made a conscious decision to slow down, and make every effort to get to know other residents and their life stories.
WHEN I VISITED INDIA after working in the U.S. for a decade, it struck me that people seemed happy, despite harsh living conditions.
How could that be? “People compare themselves with others,” my brother said to me. “That’s human nature. If they’re better off than their immediate community, they’re happy. It doesn’t matter how bad their situation may be compared to more prosperous countries.”
That made sense. I was making the mistake of applying U.S.
DECADES AGO, WHEN I was trying to save consistently for retirement, I found that my impulse purchases were standing in my way. Like many, I wanted feel-good stuff or the latest gadget, and I was willing to spend money to get it.
Once, I saw an expensive jacket in a store and badly wanted it. I was about to buy it when reality struck. I said to myself, “Let me think it over for a day.
I WAS FASCINATED with retirement planning during the final decade of my career. I read many financial books and focused on saving diligently. Yet, after retiring several months ago following a 39-year career as a research and development engineer, I had a rude awakening.
You can plan all you want, but then comes an unexpected situation that derails everything. As boxer Mike Tyson famously said, “Everybody has plans until they get hit for the first time.”
In the brief time I’ve been retired,
Comments
Dennis, This is an excellent forum question. There have been many forum discussions in HD on this topic, including this one: https://humbledollar.com/forum/assisted-living-how-will-you-choose/ After visiting more than a dozen CCRCs and assisted living facilities, I have short listed a couple of non-profits, and will do more research.
Post: Who Will Care for Us? by Dennis Friedman
Link to comment from June 9, 2025
Yours is a great story! I am sure your hard work and motivation to succeed were a big part of it.
Post: Sad news about T. V. Narayanan, a writer for HD
Link to comment from May 25, 2025
As many have said, my worries are (both myself and wife) : #1: Deteriorating health #2: Living alone. The others are not even close.
Post: What Worries You? By Jonathan Clements
Link to comment from May 19, 2025
Your advice "Celebrate what you can still do, and try to let go of what you can no longer do" is right on. There are plenty who are unable to do want you can do. A sense of gratitude helps.
Post: It’s The Little Things That Scare Me Now by Dennis Friedman
Link to comment from May 18, 2025
You had done some extensive research before selecting the right CCRC. Wonderful to hear this success story. I have visited about half a dozen CCRCs, and will continue searching.
Post: Assisted Living – How will you choose?
Link to comment from May 17, 2025
Selecting the right AL before we end up needing is critical. Your initial screening worked out well for you.
Post: Assisted Living – How will you choose?
Link to comment from May 17, 2025
Talking with some AL managers, I learned that only a small percentage of residents have Long Term Care insurance. Mostly they pay from their pocket. Because of this, they delay going to AL as long as possible and that could be too late. Article in link below makes some interesting points:
- Only 15 percent of those ages 65+ have long-term care insurance, and Medicaid is not a realistic option for most middle-income families.
- Yet, 80 percent of 65-year-olds will need long-term care at some point over their remaining life. About 40 percent will require high-intensity care for more than a year.
- Big misconceptions exist. Survey shows that 45 percent of respondents ages 65+ think that Medicare will pay for their LTC and another 9 percent think that their costs will be covered by private health insurance.
https://crr.bc.edu/do-older-adults-understand-healthcare-risks/Post: Assisted Living – How will you choose?
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Post: It’s The Little Things That Scare Me Now by Dennis Friedman
Link to comment from May 15, 2025
Your 4 questions are very important. I wonder if some others already in CCRC can answer these.
Post: Assisted Living – How will you choose?
Link to comment from May 14, 2025
Here is an article describing issues. This may not be typical, but good to be aware. I found the comments section very educational. https://finance.yahoo.com/news/couple-spent-840-000-moving-130400074.html
Post: Assisted Living – How will you choose?
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