AS WE MANAGE OUR financial life, we’re compelled to cope with heaps of uncertainty—which way the stock and bond markets will head, what financial misfortunes will strike, how long we’ll live and so much more.
But there are also ways we can exert a measure of control: spend thoughtfully, save diligently, keep a close eye on risk, hold down investment costs and manage our annual tax bill. To this list, I’d add one other key way to reclaim the advantage: have a good handle on who we are.
To that end, below are nine questions I believe we should all try to answer for ourselves. As you’ll see, the questions often probe the same issues but from different angles.
1. What does money mean to you? There are all kinds of possible answers: security, control, freedom, power. If you have a good grasp on your overriding financial motivation—and not just specific goals like retiring early or amassing $1 million—you’re likely to better understand why you make the decisions you do.
2. Are you more concerned with getting rich or not being poor? This is less an either-or answer and more about figuring out how much weight you put on each. Even if your overwhelming desire is to grow wealthy or avoid poverty, that doesn’t mean that wish should always guide your behavior. Instead, you should ask whether your intense focus is leaving you open to financial peril, such as carrying too little insurance because you’re so oblivious to risk or investing too conservatively because you’re so concerned about losses.
3. What’s your investment risk tolerance? This is obviously related to the prior question. The big problem: Risk tolerance isn’t stable, instead rising and falling with the financial markets. Still, this is a great time to ponder the issue, while 2022’s stock and bond market slump are fresh in our memories. In reaction to last year’s plunging markets, did you sell, sit tight or buy more?
Your behavior is likely the best indicator of your true risk tolerance, and it should guide your mix of stocks and conservative investments in the years ahead, even if recovering markets tempt you to take more risk. My suggestion: Think of your portfolio as two parts, one offering downside protection and the other giving you upside potential. How much safe money do you need so you feel comfortable with that portion of your portfolio that’s at risk of steep short-term losses?
4. What’s your personality type? Psychologists have identified five key personality traits: extraversion, conscientiousness, agreeableness, neuroticism and openness to experiences. We all have these traits in varying degrees.
Where do you stand? Fortunately, there are free online quizzes available where you can get the answer—and knowing the results may help to improve your money management. For instance, a 2023 study found that personality was useful in explaining folks’ willingness to invest in stocks, while a 2022 study uncovered a link between personality and those who are self-made millionaires.
For a different, more specifically financial lens on the same issue, check out the money scripts developed by Ted and Brad Klontz. As you do, think about how your past—especially the way you were raised—influences your behavior today. Just as many HumbleDollar readers likely score high on “conscientiousness” in the personality tests, I suspect many will identify as “money vigilant” among the four money scripts.
5. What behavioral mistakes do you make? When psychologists look at personality and behavior, they tend to take a bottom-up approach, focusing on the individual and his or her unique characteristics. By contrast, economists tend to be top-down, often analyzing large data sets as they look for commonalities that explain the behavior of a wide swath of the population.
For instance, economists have identified a slew of biases that influence our financial behavior. Which behavioral finance pitfalls do you fall into? You might peruse Greg Spears’s comprehensive list.
The same top-down view comes into play when economists look at happiness: They’re less focused on what makes any one individual happy or unhappy, and instead try to identify common factors that influence the life satisfaction of a large portion of the population. You can read about some of those factors in this article. Ask yourself: Are your actions hurting your happiness?
6. What are your bad habits? We all have weaknesses as well as strengths. That’s just the way humans are. Are your weaknesses—perhaps spending too much, eating or drinking too much, failing to exercise—threatening your future? If so, you should look for ways to combat your weaknesses by developing better habits. That’s not easy to do. But both Rick Connor and Dana Ferris recently offered some intriguing suggestions.
7. What do you value? Rather than simply articulate what you think you care about most, examine the way you use money, especially your discretionary spending. How do you divvy up those spare dollars among savings, purchasing possessions, buying experiences, giving to family and donating to charity?
Let’s say you save heavily. That suggests a concern with financial security. Meanwhile, if you devote hefty sums to buying experiences, that might indicate a greater curiosity about the world, and perhaps a desire to spend more time with others.
8. What gives your life purpose? What will give it purpose in the future? This can provide the motivation to make financial sacrifices today. It’s also an important issue as we approach retirement and ponder how we’ll use our remaining time. Mike Drak recently wrote about the Japanese notion of ikigai and how you can use it to identify your life’s purpose.
9. If you had five years to live, what would you change about your life? This is one of three questions posed by George Kinder, a founder of the life planning movement. I find it a powerful question because it forces us to consider whether we’re devoting our time to the things that matter most to us—which, if you’re like me, would include friends, family and pastimes you’re passionate about.
Jonathan Clements is the founder and editor of HumbleDollar. Follow him on Twitter @ClementsMoney and on Facebook, and check out his earlier articles.
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The first thing I think about is the privilege we have even be able to “think” about these things. Many, many years ago you’d probably grow up on a farm and continue to be a farmer the rest of your life. The quick check I did said “90% of the population was farmers in the 1800s.” You’d get up early in the morning, work on the farm all day, and when it was dark you were probably too tired to think about “financial planning.” So, the challenges have today are nice compared to figuring out if your crops would come in, cattle would avoid diseases, etc. The points above are amazing to even be able to contemplate.
To me the most interesting realization has been that when I was twenty, I had more time than money. That’s now reversed. It’s a moving target. At twenty money was very important me. Today I’d pay for extra “time.”
Another excellent article.
The one thing I don’t agree with is your assertion that psychologists take a bottom-up approach that focuses on the unique characteristics of each individual while economists take a top-down approach. While this may be true to some extent for Freudians, mainstream psychologists have long focused on generalizable characteristics. Cognitive behavioral therapy, which is the dominant form of psychotherapy, uses techniques that have been shown to be effective across a wide spectrum of individuals.
Your article also includes three examples of top-down psychological findings aimed at understanding human behavior in general.
https://www.pnas.org/doi/10.1073/pnas.2208661120
Thanks for the comment. I don’t have firm data to support what I wrote, but let me mention two things. First, while behavioral finance originated with psychologists Tversky and Kahneman, much of the subsequent notable work has been done by economists — Thaler, Statman, Odean et al — which is hardly surprising given it is indeed behavioral finance. Moreover, reflecting the field’s economic tilt, Kahneman’s Nobel was the Memorial Prize in Economics. Meanwhile, the research on money and happiness was arguably launched by economist Dick Easterlin in 1974. The field remained fallow for two decades before it was revived by economists like Andy Oswald and David Blanchflower. While I’ve seen psychologists touch on the topic of money and happiness using both large data sets and smaller studies (which always seem to involve undergraduates), I can’t recall a money-and-happiness study by an economist that didn’t involve a large data set.
I think it is fair to say that the research on money and happiness as well as that on cognitive biases is understandably cross disciplinary.
“Founded in 1982, the International Association for Research in Economic Psychology (IAREP) is the best association for all those interested in the areas where psychology and economics intersect. It has a wide international membership, drawn from psychologists and economists, but also from specialists in business administration, marketing, and consumer behaviour.”
https://www.iarep.org/
With all due respect, the fact that many psychology studies have been done with relatively small sample sizes in no way implies that the researchers were “focusing on the individual and his or her unique characteristics.” Rather, the use of small studies reflects the fact that recruiting subjects is often difficult and time consuming.
An addendum to this thread: For those who have WSJ subscriptions, this is an interesting read.
https://www.wsj.com/articles/sadly-many-happiness-studies-are-flawed-8871053
It offers insights on what we can and can’t say for sure about happiness, about psychology research and the problem with small sample sizes, and why we should maintain a healthy skepticism about all academic studies, especially older research.
The 2nd paragraph of point 3 indicates a split between what we think we value and what our behaviors show we value. This is revisited later in the article and is, perhaps, the most important aspect of the discussion: do we really know what makes us happy or do we need to inspect what we really have done?
I agree — we often have a vision of ourselves that doesn’t mesh with reality.
Very thought-provoking article. I have to confess that I got caught on the very first question for a while. I think that one – what does money mean to you? – should trigger a lot of deep thought. It probably merits a book by itself, though it could be psychology, religion or philosophy as much as finance or economics. (7 and 8, on our values and our purpose, got most of the rest of my time.)
That first question is the initial step in a whole iterative process. I was trying to find a good description of the method on the web, but came up blank. But essentially, I might ask, “What about money is important to you?” You might say, “Being able to provide for my family.” I would then respond, “What about providing for your family is important to you?” So it goes on (one hopes) until you get to your core motivation.
Since my life partner is a questionologist, I can add that one such iterative process for digging deeper is called The 5 Whys. https://amorebeautifulquestion.com/ask-why-five-times/ There is also the “And What Else” (AWE) process popularized by coach Michael Bungay Stanier. Rather than simply giving someone advice once they describe a problem, ask them “And what else?” a few times. Drilling down like that, that person often comes up with their own, best answer to the dilemma. https://amorebeautifulquestion.com/michael-bungay-stanier/
This reminds me of the process of deciding how to spend organizational money, such as at a church for instance. One person’s thoughts bump up against those of others, sometimes with a good bit of friction. It can require a lot of patience to reach an amiable conclusion.
I find that deciding how to spend organizational money is far different than how to spend mine. Understanding this difference is why I don’t trust anyone outside my immediate family to manage my assets.
Yet another excellent post from Jonathan!
It is material like this that keeps me visiting the website everyday.
Glad you liked it! It’s an article I really enjoyed writing — because it drew on things I’ve been reading about and thinking about for decades.
Thank you for the link back to Rick Connor’s good article. For some reason I had missed that one. He pointed out automating deposits, payments, investments, etc. Several years ago, I did that and then realized I didn’t even need to be here for things to continue on. (smile)
Sometimes I think about a world where everyone is exactly like me and think about what a dull world it would be. Financially organized and stable, but dull. All of the variable personality characteristics, habits, and foibles make financial planning very interesting, and sometimes very difficult.
One of the reasons Warren Buffett is so admired is that he isn’t ostentatious. He could be richer than he is if he’d stop giving billions away. When asked to describe Warren in one word Charlie Munger said, “Rational.” That’s my goal. To be at least somewhat rational.
Thanks for these excellent questions. Fun to ponder the answers, and I enjoyed the Knowing Me link (https://humbledollar.com/2020/06/knowing-me/).
But what about “knowing *us*?” What do people do when they and their spouse are different types with different attitudes towards money?
Overall my husband and I both fall into the “conscientious” camp, so that’s the good news. But as you mention there are other traits at play. I originally wrote up a longer comment outlining our different attitudes, but the details don’t matter. I just wanted to mention that when there are two different types in the equation, things can get more complicated than “knowing thyself.” I’ve found that even a paid advisor with a plan can have trouble bridging the gap!
Excellent point. Perhaps that’s why we see so many married people mentioning my money and his or her money or one racking up credit card debt and the other ignoring it. That kind of money marriage is beyond me, but apparently not that uncommon these days.
Thanks for the intriguing comment. I’ve never looked closely at the issue of “knowing us.” Perhaps there’s an article in that….
It would be interesting to see where the various HD participants fall with our answers to these questions. It might help explain which side of perennial disagreements we choose to champion—or don’t.
I just tried both tests and I was just where Jonathan expect HD readers to be.
If I had 5 years left to live, I’d change the 4% rule to the 20% rule.