Have any of you had to do guardianship for a relative with dementia? I would be interested to hear anything you think we would need to know if this might become necessary for Spouse’s mom. Thanks, friends. Chris.
I hope the situations with our two mothers don’t reach the point of a court-ordered guardian or conservatorship, but I wouldn’t hesitate if that was best for our moms. I hope all the parties can be at peace with your arrangement until it is over.
Ed, I hope so too, for your sake. It has been awful. We are hoping the worst is over. She will lose money on her house, since she only bought it 2 years ago, before we knew things were as bad as they were. Luckily Spouse and brother were able to intervene before she lost all her money like her sister did. C
I would like to update everyone on what we went through, maybe it will help someone:
Spouse and their brother reluctantly filed for guardianship for mother in December, about the time she moved into assisted living. She had told Spouse she wanted to sell her home, but then told another family member she did not want to sell. In her state, her wishes trump POA. She needed to sell the home to pay for care. She was also having many problems with paying bills and someone needed to take over.
They went through an elder care lawyer and had to list her assets. Temporary emergency guardianship took a couple of weeks to grant. When they sold her home and car it had to have approval from the court. Final guardianship was granted last week. They had 2 doctors notes saying she needed to be in assisted living and was unable to do her finances anymore.
We thought Spouse was going to have to post a bond since we are out of her state, but it was waived. The cost of the elder care lawyer was about $4k and mother will have to pay it. Spouse and brother will have to make a report to the court every 2 years. It has been a time. Chris
Chris, thank you for taking the time to share this. Navigating all of that while also watching your mother-in-law lose her independence must have been incredibly difficult. The fact that you pushed through all the legal complexity for her sake says a lot. Wishing your family some peace now that the hard part is behind you.
I hope the situations with our two mothers don’t reach the point of a court-ordered guardian or conservatorship, but I wouldn’t hesitate if that was best for our moms. I hope all the parties can be at peace with your arrangement until it is over.
Ed, I hope so too, for your sake. It has been awful. We are hoping the worst is over. She will lose money on her house, since she only bought it 2 years ago, before we knew things were as bad as they were. Luckily Spouse and brother were able to intervene before she lost all her money like her sister did. C
I would like to update everyone on what we went through, maybe it will help someone:
Spouse and their brother reluctantly filed for guardianship for mother in December, about the time she moved into assisted living. She had told Spouse she wanted to sell her home, but then told another family member she did not want to sell. In her state, her wishes trump POA. She needed to sell the home to pay for care. She was also having many problems with paying bills and someone needed to take over.
They went through an elder care lawyer and had to list her assets. Temporary emergency guardianship took a couple of weeks to grant. When they sold her home and car it had to have approval from the court. Final guardianship was granted last week. They had 2 doctors notes saying she needed to be in assisted living and was unable to do her finances anymore.
We thought Spouse was going to have to post a bond since we are out of her state, but it was waived. The cost of the elder care lawyer was about $4k and mother will have to pay it. Spouse and brother will have to make a report to the court every 2 years. It has been a time. Chris
Chris, thank you for taking the time to share this. Navigating all of that while also watching your mother-in-law lose her independence must have been incredibly difficult. The fact that you pushed through all the legal complexity for her sake says a lot. Wishing your family some peace now that the hard part is behind you.
Mark, thank you for your kind words. C