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Over the years, Suzie and I have approached clothing from fundamentally different financial philosophies. The clearest indicator lives in our walk-in dressing room: 36 feet of hanging rails for her, approximately four feet for me. We also share two 12-drawer dressers. Four of those drawers are mine. I’m told this is generous.
Then there is one of three spare bedrooms, currently serving less as a guest room and more as a textile archive, complete with vacuum-packed clothing. Suzie hasn’t thrown out a good dress, or any quality item, in at least thirty years. They don’t leave. They just get compressed and catalogued, like a fabric-based natural history museum.
From a balance sheet perspective, this was always a high-cost habit with no liquidation strategy. That has recently changed.
My daughters introduced Suzie to an online marketplace called Vinted. Out of curiosity, she photographed a vintage dress and listed it. It sold within hours for $75. The moment that notification pinged, and later when the funds landed in her digital wallet, something shifted. A dormant asset had just turned liquid.
A spark was ignited. Suzie now eyes those clothing rails not as a wardrobe but as inventory, a carefully curated back catalogue of items she’d never quite admitted she wasn’t going to wear again at 60. The endowment effect, that behavioral quirk where we overvalue what we own, simply evaporated.
Here is the part I find genuinely fascinating. After years of careful saving we are comfortably retired, and we don’t need the money, not even slightly. Suzie recently spent a thousand dollars on her mother of the bride dress for our daughter’s upcoming wedding without blinking an eye. And yet she gets an enormous buzz from watching the Vinted cash trickle in.
Who would have thought that all those stressful years of sitting outside dressing rooms, carefully choosing the word “interesting” over “no,” when asked for my opinion would turn out to be an investment in our grandchildren’s futures? Two savings accounts are now the beneficiaries. That notification ping has become the most exciting sound on her phone, not because of the dollar amount but because it transforms past spending into present capital.
For thirty years those clothes sat on hangers representing money already spent, a past sunk cost. Vinted didn’t just sell the dresses. It resolved something. We are now past a thousand dollars in sales, and we have barely made a dent.
The spare bedroom still looks like a department store warehouse after a light reorganization. Thirty years of accumulation, and all it took to start letting go was someone willing to pay for the privilege.
I know this because I am now the one carrying the parcels to the post office. Apparently the Vinted business model includes free delivery, and it turns out I am the free delivery. I have gone from four feet of hanging rail to unpaid courier without anyone formally announcing the promotion. I am cautiously optimistic that a fifth drawer may eventually become available.
A sunk cost only stays sunk if you let it. The moment you treat past purchases as inventory rather than identity, you unlock liquidity you didn’t know you had, regardless of whether you need the money. The psychological return often exceeds the financial one.
Hi Mark, you have a great sense of humor. I cracked up reading, “Apparently the Vinted business model includes free delivery, and it turns out I am the free delivery.”
Hey, happy wife, happy life!
SCao, if my post managed to make even one person smile, it was worth every second I spent writing it.
Great article. My wife 60 feet and me 20 feet. Now go to your Master Bath, and count how many items your wife has, versus you have, it is like 200 to 40 or so! Life has it ways, glad to hear about your vintage success, we just donate any clothes. Smile.
William, you’ve hit the nail on the head on the product front. I’m old school — in the shower I have one bar of soap, period. My wife, on the other hand, has shower cream, shampoo, conditioner, and body butter (whatever that is 😄). One product versus four.
This article brought a smile to my face. Not only were most of you quite understanding of a woman’s love of nice things, but you also admitted you have your own “faults.” The Humble Dollar crowd is special.
Sonja, my wife Suzie worked part or full-time from the age of 17 right through to 57 — that’s 40 solid years of independent earnings. As far as I’m concerned, that earns her the absolute right to spend money on whatever she fancies, no questions asked. And if I’m being completely honest, it also gives me a very convenient excuse to buy sports equipment without a shred of guilt. Everyone wins!
I can identify with this story, but on a smaller scale.
Buying clothes, handbags and shoes makes my wife happy and she looks wonderful in the pretty and stylish things that she buys.
It does concern me, however, that she has given many items to Goodwill over the years that still have the sales tags on them! Ugh.
I am not without my own “faults” in this regard, however, as I presently have collected approximately 80 1/48 and 1/72 diecast metal modern military fighter jet models in the last 11 years (I am 81) that I absolutely love! I spend several hours of most days admiring them.
It makes me sad that I know that I must sell my beloved model airplane collection in the next few years ($ for my heirs) in order to prepare for my “last flight into the great beyond.”
David, they give you such great pleasure — surely you can hold on to them, or at least a selection of the ones that bring you the most joy? When my uncle passed away a few years ago, I inherited a marvellous collection of diecast military figures, painted in the uniforms of the 18th and 19th century. I have a small selection of them displayed in a diorama, and my grandson is absolutely fascinated by it.
Been there done that. I am 80 this year, and I split my entire coin collection mostly to the grands in 2015 but also the children. However ,I saved my birth year coins, so that folder of 21 coins represents them all! I suggest you keep 3 favorites, and maybe someone in the family will treasure those for years to come.
This made me smile. I suspect many of us have closets, garages, or attics filled with “sunk costs” that we’re reluctant to part with. Your story illustrates how quickly our perspective can change when someone is willing to pay for what we’ve been holding onto for years.
Andrew, we’re definitely all the same. I might be a minimalist where clothing is concerned, but I’ve got five tennis rackets, four badminton rackets, two pickleball paddles, and I’ve lost count of the table tennis bats. Every single one was purchased for a perfectly sensible reason — I convinced myself it would transform my game. Now I just need to convince myself to get rid of most of them, given that none ever quite delivered on that promise. Although, to be clear, that’s obviously down to the equipment — it couldn’t possibly be me.
Ah yes, the “ping”. Chrissy developed an affinity for Brahmin Handbags, acquiring about ten of the pretty purses. After a period of time, she has discovered that she only uses two or three of them, and has sold a few in order to finance some other of her wants. She feels a real sense of accomplishment when she brings the money in; sort of like how Sophie the Wonder Cat feels when she brings us a still living mouse.
Dan, I had to look up those handbags — Chrissy has great taste. The problem is, it’s exactly the kind of thing Suzie would love too. I’ve cleared my browsing history and I’m keeping my fingers crossed they don’t start popping up in Google’s targeted ads the next time Suzie’s online. If that happens, I’m blaming you Smith!
Always glad to help out, Mark. What did you say was Suzie’s email address?
I am in the same boat. In my case, my lovely wife also purchased so many pair of shoes and purses/bags. Sometime the same bags in various color (4-5). But this is women thing, I am thinking it is kind of cheaper therapy to make her happy. Happy wife happy family.
Hung, look at the economic legacy: she helped keep the retail sector afloat, one shoe and handbag at a time. A true heroine of the free market. 😉
Mark:
They have a category called “ties and bowties.” My law practice spans 43 years. I probably still have neckties that went out of style in the 1980s.With remote work and casual dress I kind of figured there wouldn’t be a market for used neckties
Michael, from my limited experience, there seems to be a market for absolutely everything. Last Christmas, my daughter bought a bowtie for her 30-year-old fiancé and he absolutely loved it. Personally, I was slightly embarrassed just being in his radius when he actually chose to debut it in public… with jeans and a casual shirt.