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He Said I Wasn’t Very Nice

"Living out in the country seems to have solved that problem. We moved into our (at the time) newly built home the week of Thanksgiving, 2018. I had my FIRST solicitor knock on our door this week. After seeing if I knew who he was (apparently an "influencer" well known on Facebook), he started his spiel. I politely cut him short and explained my "children" were in their mid-forties and had selfishly denied me any grandchildren, so I didn't need the books he was selling. I then offered him a bottle of water and wished him well."
- Mike Lynch
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Leverage

"I suspect part of the discomfort is that this wasn’t clearly an emergency, nor was it clearly discretionary. It fell into that messy middle ground where reasonable people could justify either spending cash or borrowing. The other thing that struck me is that avoiding debt and avoiding regret aren’t necessarily the same thing. You may sleep better without the loan, yet still feel a twinge as you watch the accounts slowly recover. Sometimes the financially optimal choice and the psychologically satisfying choice aren’t the same."
- Mark Gardner
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Many seniors think we paid for our Social Security benefits based on the FICA taxes we paid. Let’s dispel that myth- we didn’t

"That is correct, as I pointed out in my second post. You called it actuarial gain...I called it "interest earned and the benefits that inured to the SS Program because of people like my father, who, after working a lifetime and contributing to the SS system, died without collecting a penny of their benefits.""
- Mike Lynch
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How well off are Americans compared to the rest of the world? Fun facts.

"There is no question that merely being BORN in the United States of America makes you a privileged person, from a global financial perspective. As has been demonstrated for generations, however, what you do with that privilege determines your "success," however you define it. As for me, thank you, Lord!"
- Mike Lynch
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How financially illiterate are Americans?

"I learned from my parents who barely finished grade school but were reasonable and realistic."
- Nick Politakis
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Risk Adjusted: The Family Ledger 

"Mark, definitely a hard learned lesson on perspective was imparted to you that day."
- Mark Crothers
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…..taxes and you

"So true that the states need to get their money from somewhere. That said, I'll take my higher Texas property taxes any day over the nearly 10% income tax I was paying in the extremely poorly run state we left over 10 years ago. That state also has a similar sales tax to Texas on top of that. Tipping (which is generally getting out of hand everywhere) is no different based on visits back to the poorly run state. The lower annual car registration tab fee in Texas vs the poorly run state is also a bonus."
- Dunn Werking
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What Addiction Couldn’t Take: My Sister’s Story

"Thank you Catherine for such a thoughtful and compassionate comment. I was particularly struck by your observation that every human being is more than the tolls of a disorder. That was very much at the heart of why I wanted to write about Tory. I didn’t want her to be remembered for her addiction. I wanted her to be remembered for her kindness, humor, accomplishments, and the love she gave to others. I also appreciate your reflections on the financial costs that families often quietly absorb over many years. Those costs can take many forms, from direct financial support to countless small acts of kindness and assistance that arise from love and concern. As you point out, they accumulate gradually, often alongside hope that things will improve. Thank you as well for sharing your thoughts on tough love. Every family’s situation is different, and there are rarely easy answers. If there were, far fewer families would be carrying these burdens. Most of all, thank you for taking the time to reflect so deeply on Tory’s story and for bookmarking the SAMHSA number. If it helps even one person or family find support, then sharing it was worthwhile. "
- Andrew Clements
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Fixing Social Security is not that hard, here’s how

"I found https://www.fisherinvestments.com/en-us/insights/market-commentary/the-politics-and-practicalities-of-the-social-security-trust-fund useful on this topic."
- Mark Gardner
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HD Reader’s Demographics

"Glad to be of service! Ha! Just calling them as I see them."
- Mike Lynch
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Interesting insight

"I wonder about this, too. I find I can live on my Social Security income alone (admittedly, it would be a spartan lifestyle), but I've reached the age of RMDs. I spend part of my RMD and save/invest the balance. At the same time, the boom you've described is growing both my investment and retirement accounts - in spite of all the bad news we're pounded with each day. One of my two kids is doing very well for himself. The other was doing fine until all the wheels fell off - job loss, divorce, kid expenses, etc. I can be a financial backstop as needed and within reason, but not forever. In your second to last paragraph you refer to Boomers not being immortal. That's all well-and-good, the end comes to us all. But I intend to keep living as well and as long as possible - so the Boomer wealth transfer will need to wait!"
- Jeff Bond
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A Sunday Thought About Money

"I am so jealous...my kids haven't had kids, so my best grandparents' years are going to waste. I thought your grandparents might enjoy this comedy from Kathleen Madigan. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8LeOMMqvwLI&t=8s. The grandparents' part starts at 1:45."
- Mike Lynch
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He Said I Wasn’t Very Nice

"Living out in the country seems to have solved that problem. We moved into our (at the time) newly built home the week of Thanksgiving, 2018. I had my FIRST solicitor knock on our door this week. After seeing if I knew who he was (apparently an "influencer" well known on Facebook), he started his spiel. I politely cut him short and explained my "children" were in their mid-forties and had selfishly denied me any grandchildren, so I didn't need the books he was selling. I then offered him a bottle of water and wished him well."
- Mike Lynch
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Leverage

"I suspect part of the discomfort is that this wasn’t clearly an emergency, nor was it clearly discretionary. It fell into that messy middle ground where reasonable people could justify either spending cash or borrowing. The other thing that struck me is that avoiding debt and avoiding regret aren’t necessarily the same thing. You may sleep better without the loan, yet still feel a twinge as you watch the accounts slowly recover. Sometimes the financially optimal choice and the psychologically satisfying choice aren’t the same."
- Mark Gardner
Read more »

Many seniors think we paid for our Social Security benefits based on the FICA taxes we paid. Let’s dispel that myth- we didn’t

"That is correct, as I pointed out in my second post. You called it actuarial gain...I called it "interest earned and the benefits that inured to the SS Program because of people like my father, who, after working a lifetime and contributing to the SS system, died without collecting a penny of their benefits.""
- Mike Lynch
Read more »

How well off are Americans compared to the rest of the world? Fun facts.

"There is no question that merely being BORN in the United States of America makes you a privileged person, from a global financial perspective. As has been demonstrated for generations, however, what you do with that privilege determines your "success," however you define it. As for me, thank you, Lord!"
- Mike Lynch
Read more »

How financially illiterate are Americans?

"I learned from my parents who barely finished grade school but were reasonable and realistic."
- Nick Politakis
Read more »

Risk Adjusted: The Family Ledger 

"Mark, definitely a hard learned lesson on perspective was imparted to you that day."
- Mark Crothers
Read more »

…..taxes and you

"So true that the states need to get their money from somewhere. That said, I'll take my higher Texas property taxes any day over the nearly 10% income tax I was paying in the extremely poorly run state we left over 10 years ago. That state also has a similar sales tax to Texas on top of that. Tipping (which is generally getting out of hand everywhere) is no different based on visits back to the poorly run state. The lower annual car registration tab fee in Texas vs the poorly run state is also a bonus."
- Dunn Werking
Read more »

What Addiction Couldn’t Take: My Sister’s Story

"Thank you Catherine for such a thoughtful and compassionate comment. I was particularly struck by your observation that every human being is more than the tolls of a disorder. That was very much at the heart of why I wanted to write about Tory. I didn’t want her to be remembered for her addiction. I wanted her to be remembered for her kindness, humor, accomplishments, and the love she gave to others. I also appreciate your reflections on the financial costs that families often quietly absorb over many years. Those costs can take many forms, from direct financial support to countless small acts of kindness and assistance that arise from love and concern. As you point out, they accumulate gradually, often alongside hope that things will improve. Thank you as well for sharing your thoughts on tough love. Every family’s situation is different, and there are rarely easy answers. If there were, far fewer families would be carrying these burdens. Most of all, thank you for taking the time to reflect so deeply on Tory’s story and for bookmarking the SAMHSA number. If it helps even one person or family find support, then sharing it was worthwhile. "
- Andrew Clements
Read more »

Fixing Social Security is not that hard, here’s how

"I found https://www.fisherinvestments.com/en-us/insights/market-commentary/the-politics-and-practicalities-of-the-social-security-trust-fund useful on this topic."
- Mark Gardner
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Manifesto

NO. 33: WE HAVE two great financial advantages: time and our income-earning ability. To grow wealthy, we should take a slice of each month’s earnings—and invest it for as much time as possible.

Truths

NO. 76: TAX DEFERRAL lets you use dollars that’ll eventually go to Uncle Sam to earn extra gains for yourself. An example: If you invested $1,000 at 6% a year and paid 22% in taxes every year, you would have $3,944 after 30 years. But if you put off the 22% tax bill for 30 years by funding a tax-deferred retirement account, you’d end up with $4,700, or 19% more.

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NO. 75: WE'RE HAPPIER when we count our blessings. All of us have reasons to be happy—we just need to keep those things in mind. If we spend a few minutes pondering our friends and family, the lovely things we own and the great experiences we’ve had, we can squeeze more happiness out of our past spending and get more joy out of each day.

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SKEWNESS. The most a stock can lose is 100%, but its potential gain is unlimited. Every year, a minority of stocks with huge returns skew the market higher, so most stocks end up trailing the averages. The irony: The big winners make beating the market seem easy—and yet betting on a handful of stocks will likely result in market-lagging performance.

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Manifesto

NO. 33: WE HAVE two great financial advantages: time and our income-earning ability. To grow wealthy, we should take a slice of each month’s earnings—and invest it for as much time as possible.

Spotlight: Spending

Money, Happiness, and Choice

FOR DECADES, RESEARCHERS have been looking at the link between money and happiness. The findings? In short, it’s a mixed bag.
To be sure, there are ways that money can boost happiness, and below are some ideas to consider. But there are also obstacles to contend with. We’ll look first at the obstacles before turning to the recommendations. 
The most significant challenge is the fact that—to a great extent—our happiness level is hard-wired into us.

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Quinn questions the value of a seven inch matzah ball in a $33 bowl of chicken soup?

A few days ago Connie and I went to a unique NJ restaurant for a light dinner.
We each had a root beer, we shared a pastrami and turkey sandwich and one bowl of matzah ball soup. The bill was $108 before tip. Now you know why Harold’s NY Deli is unique. 
Have you concluded it is a upscale, white table cloth place or just a rip off? Now, the rest of the story. 
The sandwich is so large they give you six extra slices of bread to break it down.

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A Record Journey

I went on a little shopping spree last week for some new tunes, ordering some records from a reputable online music store. Like a little kid who just ordered PlayStation 5 from Amazon, I’ve been anxiously tracking my order on the fine United States Post Office website.
I cannot make the following story up. 
On 8/11 I placed my order.
On 8/12 the retailer delivered my records to the USPS origin facility in Louisville KY. 
So far so good.

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Reflecting on life experiences. Money well spent. How about yours?

It has been written here and elsewhere that there is more value in using your money for experiences instead of buying stuff. I fully agree. 
Experiences with family and friends are most important especially as you get older, but beyond those, what experiences stand out for you? 
Most of our traveling was after we retired. We isolated funds for that purpose. While working, our travel was limited to business events, mostly employer paid. That’s how I had dinner at Mar-a-Lago Club.

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Flexing the Retirement Spending Muscle

Suzie and I are packing a travel bag right now. Later this morning, we’re off to the Fermanagh Lakelands, a two-hour drive from our holiday home. We’re staying for three nights in a fancy hotel that’s also the wedding venue for the daughter of a very close friend. We’ll be attending the festivities there. I’m looking forward to the wedding, except, of course, for the suit I’ll have to wear.
I’m particularly interested in seeing the bride in her wedding dress because,

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A Rant about the Price of Gas, Part II: Live Experiment

Let’s all collectively do a real time experiment regarding my recent post/rant about the price of gas.   Facts :
1) Israel attacked Iran last night.
2) Refineries were NOT hit.
3) The Strait of Hormuz remains open
4) according to Google, it takes about 5-7 weeks for oil from the Middle East to arrive in the US
5) as I write this,  the price of oil has gone up 8.67 % since yesterday.
How long will it take,

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Spotlight: Crothers

Smoke and Mirrors with a $1 Million Portfolio 

Everyone wants more security for their retirement savings, and outside of Social Security, the most reliable way to achieve this is often the much-maligned annuity. The main issue for many people is losing control of a large chunk of their retirement pot—they simply don't like the idea. But what if you could get some of the security an annuity provides without giving up control of your cash? No solution is perfect, but this idea might be of interest. I recently read about the perpetual withdrawal rate, a strategy that back-testing has shown will never run out of money. You could mentally set aside a portion of your portfolio and use the 2.5% perpetual withdrawal rate to act as a substitute for an annuity, possibly to fund your essential expenses. You would still have full control and full market upside, but with much more confidence in the money's ability to last your lifetime. You could then use a guardrail strategy for the balance of your portfolio to fund your wants. Research has shown this flexible approach can support a higher withdrawal rate than the original 4% rule. The result would be a portion of near-guaranteed income combined with a higher, more flexible withdrawal rate for your discretionary spending. How would this work with the commonly used million-dollar portfolio example? Imagine you needed an extra $10,000 of essential income beyond your Social Security payments. You could apply the Perpetual Withdrawal Rate (PWR) to $400,000 of your portfolio to generate this secure income stream. Then, with the remaining $600,000, you could apply a dynamic withdrawal strategy, starting with a 4.5% withdrawal rate. This would provide you with a discretionary income of $27,000. Combining these two amounts gives you a total of $37,000, or 3.7% of your original portfolio. While this is a small…
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What If You Don’t Want to See the World?

From my readings on this site, I seem to be in the minority on a particularly popular and expensive retirement pastime: foreign travel. Over the years, I've traveled a fair part of the world, from wide-ranging business travel throughout Europe and extensive global leisure travel on every continent other than, strangely enough, the Americas (except for the Caribbean). I still travel. For instance, I was in the Canary Islands just off the coast of North Africa for a 60th birthday celebration in February, and I'm meeting a friend from London in Spain for a week in late September. Suzie and I are currently organizing a trip for next August to see a total solar eclipse. But my enthusiasm for foreign travel has waned these last few years. Part of it, I think, is a subtle shift from the thrill of novelty to a deeper appreciation for more settled pursuits. After years of navigating airports, packing suitcases, and adjusting to new time zones, the sheer hassle of foreign travel has started to feel less like an adventure and more like a task. With so many popular destinations becoming increasingly crowded, the quiet, more peaceful moments seem harder to find. It strikes me that most would think this is a most inconvenient time to be losing interest in travel. After all, I'm only 58 and just recently retired. This is supposed to be the time! Get to it! Travel through the go-go years, the world's your oyster! But my travel now seems to have evolved alongside myself, tied to more purposeful and personal reasons. I have no real enthusiasm for destination travel. It has to have a meaningful reason now. Another example to illustrate my point, I'm thinking of visiting my cousin in Australia who recently lost her husband. I think it's…
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Hitting the Pause Button

New Year’s Eve is the ultimate reminder that the clock never stops. As we prepare to flip the calendar, it’s natural to look back at the year, and the decades, gone by. We often focus on what we want to change in the future, but rarely do we consider which part of the journey we’d actually like to keep. Youth has many advantages—health, strength, vigor, and vitality. Everything feels possible, and you're certain you know what's right and wrong in the world. Sure, there are downsides: the struggle to forge a career, juggling money problems, and the exasperation with managers who don't see what you see. But overall, being young is intoxicating. Being older has its own rewards. You're typically settled into a career, equipped with the life experience to weather the setbacks that come with being human. Money causes less anxiety, and somewhere along the way, you've figured out what actually makes you happy. Here's a thought experiment for the final hours of the year. If you could look back through your lifetime and hit pause at any age, freezing yourself there indefinitely—what age would you choose? Why that particular moment? For me, it would be right now at 58. I have financial stability, a mediocre sprinkling of wisdom, and a high dose of contentment, all while my health still holds up. It took decades of work to reach this equilibrium, and I’m in no rush to move past it. So, as we head into 2026, what about you? When would you hit pause?
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Wealth: A Short List on How to Recognize It

The old adage "money can't buy you happiness" is a concise articulation of a simple truth: there are much more important things in life than the accumulation of riches. A reminder of the shortcomings of wealth can be a positive step toward embracing other, more meaningful uses of our time rather than focusing on the value of one's portfolio and constant low-level worry about the markets. And, after all, we all love a little list. So what are these intrinsic values, and what do they really look like in real life? Meaningful Relationships: The People Who Still Answer Your Calls: They know your terrible singing voice, they saw you cry over a burnt pizza, and they still haven't filed a restraining order. That's true, priceless commitment. Health: The Ability to Get Up Without Grunting: A morning where your knees don't sound like a popcorn machine and you can touch your toes (even briefly) is a monumental health victory. Purpose and Meaning: Finding the Right Netflix Series: You've committed. You're invested. You know the characters better than your actual neighbors. It may not save the world, but it gets you through Tuesday. Autonomy and Mastery: Opening a Jar on the First Try: The fleeting, glorious moment where you conquer a piece of factory-sealed glass. You are a titan. You are the master of friction. You earned that pickle. Gratitude and Presence: The Uninterrupted Hot Shower: The simple, exquisite joy of not running out of hot water, not being interrupted by a doorbell, and finding the perfect water pressure. You are here, and the steam is glorious.   So there we go. If you can tick all the boxes on the intrinsic value list, you've totally got your life together. Personally, I'm still working on the Netflix series—I'm rubbish at long-term commitments.
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Taste Bud Training

I confess. Sometimes I push the envelope of frugality so far it crosses into tightwad territory. I've recently taken a detour down that particular avenue with outcomes that, as I explained to my wife Suzie, were "not uniformly aligned with projected benchmarks." I've taken to calling it taste bud training. I'm a creature of grocery habit, same brands, same shelf, barely a second thought. So when my usual spaghetti was out of stock, I found myself actually browsing the pasta aisle for once. That's when I spotted the own-brand equivalent sitting there at 39 cents, next to the $2 packet I'd been buying without question for years. I took the plunge, and my spaghetti Bolognese tasted exactly the same. That small victory got me hooked on intentional own-brand switching. Own-brand butter, cornflakes, slightly wonky-looking fruit and vegetables all tasted fine, and the savings started rolling in. Dollars cheaper per shop. I may have mentioned it to Suzie on more than one occasion, the smugness was considerable. Naturally, I decided to step it up a notch. On my next visit I went out on a limb: own-brand porridge, balsamic vinegar, olive oil that came in $70 cheaper than my usual bottle, an XL bag of dry roasted peanuts, and a bottle of merlot from the basics wine range. Over $90 saved on a single basket of goods. Wonderful. Then the taste bud training kicked in, hard. The porridge was “different”, and I'm being charitable with that word. The olive oil didn't make the grade. The balsamic vinegar was sharp and deeply unpleasant. I consoled myself with a handful of dry roasted peanuts and a glass of wine. The nuts were small, oddly flavoured, and missing the satisfying crunch of my usual brand. As for the wine, it was a revelation. Not…
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The Illusion of Wealth

I was sitting on the deck of my holiday home, enjoying the morning sunshine and breakfast, when a deep rumble announced the arrival of an expensive, sporty car. It was my neighbour. He's a very nice man in his 40s who always dresses impeccably, with two well-turned-out kids and an immaculate wife – to all intents and purposes, a family living the dream. Contrast that with me: I drive a seven-year-old SUV with 70,000 miles on the clock, habitually run around in shorts and T-shirts, own three pairs of trainers, one pair of dress shoes, and exactly one suit. It's obvious there's no comparison in who's "winning the game of life"... or is there? About 18 months ago, a conversation started when I mentioned I'd just paid off the mortgage because my wife was retiring. My neighbour then spoke with pride about his ability to juggle credit cards, expertly transferring balances with 0% transfer rates. However, he also revealed a concern about his own mortgage. As is common in the UK, his rate was fixed for five years, and with two years left on his 1.25% rate, he couldn't see how he'd afford the jump to around 5%. That nice car, the designer clothes, the immaculate facade – they all come with a hefty, often hidden, price tag. While my neighbour projected an image of success, his confession about juggling credit cards and his anxiety over the impending mortgage hike painted a different picture. This isn't just about the obvious payments for the car or the latest fashion; it's the relentless pressure to maintain a certain lifestyle. The "keeping up with the Joneses" trap is real, amplified by social media. People feel immense pressure to project prosperity, even if it means accumulating significant debt. This pursuit often takes a quiet…
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