Game Changer
Don Southworth | Aug 24, 2021
I FELL IN LOVE with baseball in 1965. My parents were in the midst of divorcing. I found sanctuary listening to San Francisco Giants’ games on the radio. I put on my batting helmet and pretended I was Willie Mays swinging at every pitch or diving on my bed catching imaginary lines drives. Willie had a magical year and, although the hated Dodgers nosed us out in the end, a lifelong passion was born. I preached on miracles when I applied for fellowship as a minister. Jesus’ acts were nowhere to be found in baseball. Still, the story of the 1969 “miracle” New York Mets—and this 11-year-old’s awe—were central to my message. Baseball was an annual sermon then because, for fans like me, it is a magical, mystical game that has meaning far beyond runs, errors and base hits. The 1989 film Field of Dreams, a story about fathers, sons, baseball heroes and ghosts coming out of a cornfield in Iowa, highlighted the spirituality of the game. Major League Baseball recently played its first game at the Iowa cornfield where the movie was made. The Yankees and White Sox entered the field through the corn and played before an intimate crowd of 8,000. Millions more watched on television. It was the highest-rated regular season game in years. The game ended dramatically when Tim Anderson of the White Sox hit a walk-off home run into the cornfield to win the game. Ironically, Anderson has never seen Field of Dreams. He was born after the movie was made. Like many young ballplayers, especially those of color, the storyline of old-time white baseball players coming back to life doesn’t really resonate. Baseball has become too slow and too boring for more and more people. It’s become an old man’s game. Players like Anderson…
Read more » Living With Insecurity
Don Southworth | Dec 30, 2021
HOW DO YOU STAY centered when markets plunge and volatility is off the charts? One of the ways I cope is by pulling out a wonderful financial book to reread. In 1951, Alan Watts wrote The Wisdom of Insecurity: A Message for an Age of Anxiety. But his message is as timely today as it was then. “There is a feeling that we live in a time of unusual insecurity…. Human beings appear to be happy just so long as they have a future to which they can look forward—whether it be a ‘good time’ tomorrow or an everlasting life beyond the grave.” Needless to say, there isn’t a chapter about stocks, mutual funds or financial planning in the entire book. Watts was an American Buddhist teacher who encouraged people to do everything to be aware and conscious of the present moment and not spend so much time planning for a future that never truly materializes, at least in the way we think it will. Given the trillions of dollars we spend on “security” in this country—financial, internet, home and homeland, to name a few—we don’t seem to do a good job of living in the insecure todays and tomorrows that are part of life. Planning and preparing aren’t bad things, of course. But what happens when the things we put our faith in start to break down? I preached a sermon in January 2009 titled The Wisdom of Financial Insecurity. I reflected on the financial bloodbath we’d experienced in 2008. My retirement portfolio dropped 36% and, despite making regular contributions for the previous five years, it was worth less than it had been at the end of 2003. My wife was also in the midst of her second bout with breast cancer. I needed some reminders that, when the…
Read more » Found Money
Don Southworth | Sep 24, 2021
IT’S ESTIMATED THAT up to $3 billion of unclaimed property is recovered every year. But another $49 billion is lost and still waiting to be claimed. How much of it is yours? Whenever I check if I’m due anything, I always come up empty. But the memories of found money keep me checking and hoping something pops up. Who can ever forget finding that surprise dollar bill in the pocket of your recently washed jeans when you were 11 years old, and the extra candy bar or two you bought? My wife Kathleen and I have had two unexpected windfalls we’ll never forget. The first was when I was in seminary and money was tight. Our car was stolen and totaled. I was happy to take the insurance settlement. But my wife discovered a special law that allowed us to file a claim and maybe receive restitution from the man who stole our car. I told her not to waste her time. Thankfully, Kathleen didn’t listen to me and, two or three years later, we received a completely unexpected check for $8,000 paid from the criminal’s earnings. Listening to Kathleen’s “I told you so” multiple times was a small price to pay. The second surprise came when we were walking the back streets of Capri. We had celebrated Kathleen’s successful second battle with cancer and my new job by taking our first vacation to Europe. During the two-week tour of Italy, we meandered away from our tour group and spotted a pile of euros on the ground. There was nobody around and no police station nearby. I ran into the closest bathroom to count our new-found treasure: 800 euros, which at the time was worth $1,250. We didn’t know what to do. We felt terrible that someone had lost all…
Read more » California On Our Minds
Don Southworth | Mar 4, 2025
I just returned from a six-day silent retreat. What in the world could that have to do with retirement and financial life? Maybe nothing or maybe a lot. I’ve been going on silent retreats for more than 20 years, ever since I became a minister and they were part of my spiritual and professional development. These days in my semi-retired lifestyle they are still part of both. One of my goals for the retreat was to write a draft article about moving to California for Humble Dollar. As I wrote last year, we had the unexpected gift of our first grandchild being born in November 2023. We decided when we visited her last spring that we would leave North Carolina and move to the Bay Area in California, which was our home until 2001 and is where our son and his family live. If you read articles about the best places to retire, North Carolina is near the top and California is near the bottom. Selling in California and buying - or even renting - in North Carolina makes smart financial sense. Doing it the other way? Not so much. We found a manufactured home last July that was in our price range and close to family. We made an offer below asking price. After some back and forth the seller said no. We soon found another home in the same neighborhood. This time we made an offer above asking but we were outbid. The first home we had bid on ended up being sold for less than our offer! We get daily real estate updates and went back to California in November to celebrate our granddaughter’s one year birthday and to look for houses all over Northern California. We decided to wait for the next house that comes available…
Read more » Stuck in the Sand
Don Southworth | Nov 30, 2021
MY WIFE AND I recently took our first mini-vacation since 2019. We traveled to the Outer Banks in North Carolina for a long weekend to celebrate our anniversary. The weather was perfect, the crowds were small, the food was delectable and the morning sunrise was spectacular. But none of these memories has stuck with me like the one that wasn’t so delightful. We spent a morning driving up the coast to enjoy the sights and sounds of the small villages and towns along the way, as well as the breathtaking vistas of the Atlantic Ocean. We were surprised when the two-lane road dead-ended on a beach. Four-wheel drive cars were invited to continue with hopes of seeing some of the wild horses who have roamed the beach for centuries. We own a four-wheel drive car, but I’d never driven on a beach before and my instincts were telling me, “Don’t do it.” We went ahead anyway. Within two minutes, we were stuck in the sand. Revving the engine and spinning the wheels made the situation worse, as did the non-loving words my wife and I exchanged. After finding no help in the owner’s manual, we got out to see what we could do. People driving by yelled, “Let the air out of the tires.” We got on our hands and knees to flatten out the sand around the wheels. We pushed special buttons in the car. Nothing worked. Eventually, someone stopped and offered to help push. I put the car in reverse and within minutes we were back on the road. The only wild horses we saw were on the postcards at the gift shop. But the experience hasn’t left me, probably because I often get metaphorically stuck in the sand. I’m guessing you do, too. Sometimes, it’s been in…
Read more » Words to Live By
Don Southworth | Dec 25, 2022
ONE OF MY FAVORITE end-of-the-year rituals is watching Turner Classic Movies’ annual memorial to those in the film business who have died during the past year. Each year, I’m reminded of people who have entertained and often strongly influenced me. It’s four bittersweet minutes of smiling, crying and reliving memories. Movies, and especially holiday movies, have been as important in inspiring and teaching me as any scripture I’ve ever read and any sermon I’ve heard or given. Two actors who died in 2022 were in two of my favorite movies. Virginia Patton, the last living adult actress from the best movie of all time, It’s a Wonderful Life, died in August. She played George Bailey’s sister-in-law, Ruth Dakin Bailey. James Caan, who played Buddy’s biological father Walter in Elf, died in July. Like most characters in holiday classics, they taught us lessons about love, selfishness, generosity and greed—lessons that can be helpful in all parts of our lives, including our financial lives. Caan played the stereotypical self-centered businessman who had lost the spirit of the season. Patton had a small role in the movie with a handful of lines. She lets George know that the main reason his brother Harry married her was to go into plastics, where he could make lots of money. He does; George doesn’t. Most of us didn’t make a lot of money this year if we were invested in the stock and bond markets. (I’m not sure about those in plastics.) I find the last few weeks of the year are a time of complex emotions and to-do lists. A time to celebrate, to remember, to mourn, to plan, to share and reflect on what’s come and what we hope will come next. No matter which holidays or movies we embrace. My contemplation this year,…
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