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• Wise words, Mark. Your coffee must be extra good today! You’re absolutely right about the overlap. I’m reminded of a 90-year-old friend who is currently agonizing over whether to stop funding alcohol rehab and legal bails for his 65-year-old son. While his 'Cool Head' wants to lock the money away in 'Option 3' (Emergency Only), his fatherly heart keeps pulling him back into 'Option 2' (Housing and Subsidy). It’s a stark reminder that a 'Heartache' can eventually cloud the 'Head'—and that some family relationships simply cannot be managed by a spreadsheet. My thought exercise is a vain effort to feel a degree of control in a random world of life.

  Post: Warm Heart Cool Head and Cold Cash

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• Very interesting approach. My concern is the empty SNT with future funding means it essentially kicks the 'Cool Head' can down the road. It imposes the emotional and logistical burden of these difficult decision-making processes on another family member or the successor trustee. I’m wary of leaving behind a complex 'safety net' that requires someone else to do the heavy lifting I wasn't willing to finish myself.

  Post: Warm Heart Cool Head and Cold Cash

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• That is the heart of the 'overthinking.' While we’d love for money to be a pivot point for a better life, the reality of medical or mental health struggles is that they often move independently of a bank balance. Giving money can provide a 'floor' (housing/safety), but it doesn't always provide a 'ladder' (upward mobility). My goal is to prevent a total crash without throwing good money after a situation that the recipient isn't currently equipped to change. The additional challenge is the structural reality of the 'K-shaped' economy: few opportunities are available for those with personal health or legal crises.

  Post: Warm Heart Cool Head and Cold Cash

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• Reaction to anonymous downvotes is subjective—hurtful for some, instructional for others, and ignorable by many. Since we can’t know with certainty what prompts someone to cast a downvote, we are left with how we choose to engage with one another. I believe the best path forward is to focus our own energy on responding kindly, civilly, and intelligently—or perhaps choosing no response at all.

  Post: The “Mean Girls”/Junior High Bullies at HumbleDollar

  Link to comment from January 9, 2026

• Whether a comment is 'innocuous' is often subjective. Because text lacks tone, people might hear an unexpected tone while reading quickly and react based on their current state of mind rather than the writer's intent. A simple 'thanks' can be interpreted in many ways—as a genuine thank you, a polite dismiss 'noted,' or even 'I agree.' Since fewer than 1% of visitors actually engage, I believe we should be as welcoming as possible. We shouldn't place any restriction on how people 'leave their mark' or ask them to explain anything.  Let me quote Elaine again, from her "Letter from Elaine" posting on November 22, 2025 'My husband Jonathan often spoke to me about the overall kindness, civility and intelligence of the HumbleDollar community.  Please do not prove him wrong.'

  Post: The “Mean Girls”/Junior High Bullies at HumbleDollar

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• Well said. The comprehensive Guide has the answer to our fear of stock market drops, in the subsection of Human > Investing Better "We should keep in mind that, while a rising stock market may make us richer today, a falling market will likely leave us wealthier in the long run. To take advantage of tumbling share prices, we should rebalance our portfolios..."

  Post: Real vs. Imaginary Returns – Part II

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• Dan's open secret: ElderBeerMen

  Post: The “Mean Girls”/Junior High Bullies at HumbleDollar

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• Mrs. Elaine M. Clements's comment on 12/28/25 "I monitor this website regularly, as does Mr. Sheremeta."

  Post: The “Mean Girls”/Junior High Bullies at HumbleDollar

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• Jonathan's defense of anonymous downvotes was made clear multiple times in his replies to articles similar to this. You can find one here. While 'Great suggestion!' seems innocuous, it can create a false sense of consensus. Some may strongly disagree based on nuances that are too complex to debate in a comment thread, making even a simple compliment feel like a barrier to a more critical discussion.

  Post: The “Mean Girls”/Junior High Bullies at HumbleDollar

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• Mark, it’s official: you’re cured of the old place. You’ve traded your prior preoccupation for a much-deserved post-occupation. Welcome to the greener side of the hill.

  Post: The Grass Is Definitely Greener.

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