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The World’s Least Useful Financial Adviser

"William, that voice is a persistent devil. In the lead-up to retirement it was second and third-guessing every decision I was considering as I tried to piece together a retirement income — it got to the point where I couldn't sleep properly. It kept waking me with questions that had no clear answers."
- Mark Crothers
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Moving is Expensive!

"We moved 5 years ago and there is only one expense I would add to your list: Dumpster rental. Best money spent by a longshot!"
- Michael01670723
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Farrell Behavior

"Back in 2008, I was in an unusual situation that worked out well for me, ironically. In November, 2007, I joined a major fraternal financial services organization, affiliated with a major Protesant religious denomination. I had just sold my insurance agency, and was recieving my payout over a 3 year period, at roughly $70k a year. The first year was paid out in 12 installments, so as I was building my book of business from 11-2007 through 12-2008, I had a base of income in addition to the commissioins earned from product sales and bonuses earned. If any of you had advisors in those days, you may recall they were nowhere to be found and rarely heard from. from roughkly 2008-2010. This created a perfect storm for me, in that I was offering to serve their financial services needs as their portfolios were blowing up and theur advisors had abandined them. I gaithered clients hand over fist and by the end of 2008, I had built a substantial book. Even better, the clients I gathered stayed with me through their renewals in months 13 and later. 2009 was another banner year for me, in which I qualified for performance bonuses again. In 2010, I realized a lifelong dream, when I joined The American College and began a 15 years career teaching in the CFP, CLU, ChFC, and finally the RICP curricula. My students benefitted greatly because unlike traditional college professors who rarely have any real world expereince, I had been in financial services for 38 years and I was not teachuing theory. Over my 15 years career my peers and I taught and trained thousands of well educated financial sercices professional, most of whom will serve hundreds of client families, across the US. In 2013, I "met" The Bogleheads, through a friend with whom I rode motorcyles. He was a physician and actually lived on the street where John Bogle lived, in Bryn Mawr, PA. I also had a number of Vanguard employees as students, and one of them gifted me an autographed book on Mutuial Funds, authored by John Bogle. I moved all my accounts to Vanguard and used Vanguard funds in my 403b, and never looked back. Prior to retiring, I used the traditional Vanguard 4 Fund Portfolio. As I approached retirement in 2024, I purchased a series of annuities to be paired with my social security, using roughlky 40% of my fortfolio, and used them as the Bond porttion of my portfilio. Today, my 60% equity portion is 00% invested in VTI and VXUS, 80/20. Our income is almost 40% income tax free, since the annuities were funded with Roth dollars, and of course, our Social Security has a COLA feature. Our guaranteed income is over 120% of our retirement expenses, and our portfilio is there for late in life emergencies like LTC for my wife, and legacy funding. (I have a very rich LTCi policy myself, and our annuities have a LTC benefit that increases the payout by 50% for up to 5 years, for either of us. I wasn't able to buy an LTCi policy for my wife because she didn;t qualify.) I have seen any number of posts on HD where annuities are disparaged, and for those who don't like or want them, more power to them. In our case, they are doing exactly what they were purchased to do...provide a guaranteed stream of income, for life, for both my wife and me...and making the volitilty the market irrelevant. Like most HD contributors and readers, I am a huge proponent of a broadly diversified portfolio of low cost ETFs or Mutual Funds. I do not time the market, and either does anyone else,,,sucessfully. Wall Street is a shell game and the house always wins, especially when it is treated like a casino. Although not a popular opinion among many who think they are smarter than their record would indicate, I believe the market is moved by three components...Greed, Fear, and Stupidity...and I refuse to play. Continued success in your investments and retirement!"
- Mike Lynch
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My sister’s will and what it taught me.

"Thank you Jerry. Your experience highlights a lesson many families learn the hard way. When someone dies intestate, even relatively modest assets can become far more complicated and expensive to transfer than anyone expects. It's frustrating when legal fees and delays end up consuming a significant portion of what was intended to be passed on. Thank you for sharing your story, it reinforces why having a valid will is one of the simplest gifts we can leave our families."
- Andrew Clements
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Rethinking the “Right” Time for Social Security

"Thank you Marilyn. I love that story. It sounds like Social Security gave you the freedom to spend more time with your granddaughter, and that's a return that can't be measured by any break-even calculation. No regrets indeed."
- Andrew Clements
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The Boy Who Tried Hard: A Reflection

"Thank you Rick. I think that's one of the lessons I've learned as well. We rarely know the full story behind someone's journey or the challenges they may have faced along the way. If the article encourages a little more understanding and a little less assumption, then it was worth writing."
- Andrew Clements
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Adam Grossman on The Long View

"I just read the interview. It was very well done. Bravo Adam!"
- Howard Schwartz
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Billionaires, taxes and you

"I think you are correct. The median net worth of Americans is about $192,000 while the average is just over $1 million. So, at least half have a very different perspective, especially since that includes their homes."
- R Quinn
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Beefing Up Security

MANY OF US HAVE little more than a weak, reused password standing between our financial assets and a remote attacker—one armed with powerful tools and a database of passwords from security breaches. This is a losing battle. It’s the most likely way for weak computer security to put our finances at risk. Think this can’t happen to you? I’ll bet you have at least one password taken in a big security breach. A quick way to find out is entering your email address at Troy Hunt’s HaveIBeenPwned site. My address turns up in almost a dozen big cyberattacks. We are notoriously bad at creating strong passwords and remembering them. When you decide to create stronger, unique passwords for each site, you quickly discover that managing dozens of randomly generated, site-specific passwords by hand is a headache. Don’t fret. Password managers like LastPass, Dashlane and 1Password make short work of it. A password manager puts all your passwords in an encrypted vault, leaving you with just one password to remember. You want to make this password really strong and unforgettable. The password manager then fills in the right password for mobile apps and websites whenever you use them. What can you expect from a good manager?
  • Up-to-date access to your password vault on all devices, regardless of the device’s operating system.
  • Updates to your vault as you create new accounts or update existing passwords.
  • A random password generator that creates really strong, unique passwords. Those passwords will meet each site’s requirements for length and allowed characters.
  • A security challenge which guides you through the work of replacing existing poor passwords—those which are known to be compromised, weak or easily guessed, or which you’ve used more than once.
  • Emergency access to your vault by someone you choose, as well as password sharing with, say, family members for your Amazon Prime or Netflix account.
  • Two-factor authentication for extra vault security.
Some of these are only available in paid versions of the service. Despite knowing better, I procrastinated in evaluating password managers. That changed the day I tried to picture life for my spouse after I leave this vale of tears. I visualized the chores I handle: Banking, bill paying and investment management all involve online accounts. That brought my password problem into focus. A list of passwords in a binder, next to our wills, isn’t secure and it’s a pain to keep up. After experimenting with a free trial, I bought a family subscription. Moving my password vault from low-ranked to the top 1% took a couple of weekends. Each weekend, I’d spend an hour or two changing passwords, guided by the security challenge and with help from the password generator. Do this on your home PC or Mac, not an office computer. I started with high-value accounts: email, cellular carrier, and then banks and brokerages. Why email? Most web sites let you reset a password by emailing a link to the address on file. If hackers have access to your inbox, they’ll use it to access every online account. The cellular account is also important if you’ve enabled two-factor authentication that triggers text messages with secure codes. What if someone hacks into your password manager’s vault? If you pick a great vault password, the odds of this are low. But when you have all your eggs in one basket, you want to ensure that basket stays safe. That’s what led me to the YubiKey 5 series hardware keys. When you use a YubiKey with a password manager, the manager encrypts your vault twice, once with your vault password and again with a secret it gets from the YubiKey. For convenience, I’m using two models of YubiKey. I use YubiKey 5 Nano with my PC and Mac. Meanwhile, YubiKey 5 NFC stays on my keyring for use with my phone. The latter should work with an iPhone 7 or newer, as well as an Android phone with NFC (near field communication). David Powell has written software or led engineering teams for 35 years. He enjoys work, vegan fine dining, cycling and travel with his spouse. His previous article was Playing Defense. [xyz-ihs snippet="Donate"]
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Don’t Kick The Can Down The Road

"The man had priorities. Misguided, perhaps, but consistent."
- Mark Crothers
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Percentage that “age in place”

"Not necessarily. There has been a nursing care shortage for a long time that is rapidly being exacerbated by the growing number of elderly boomers who need health care. The current administration has also revoked asylum for workers from Haiti and elsewhere and is taking additional steps to limit legal immigration. A hospital staff nurse here in NYC averages about $125k and can make much more with overtime. Those salaries have an upward influence on less skilled healthcare workers. The norm for companies that provide home health care is to charge twice as much for their services as what they pay their employees. Thus, the top companies here charge about $40/hr."
- Slope
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Deeply Rooted

JUNE MARKS THREE years since my mum passed from complications of vascular dementia. It was a tough couple of years, watching her mind slowly fail and her world shrink a little more with each passing month. Anyone who has cared for a loved one in the late stages of dementia will know how difficult and disjointed even the simplest conversation becomes. The loops, the confusion, the frustration of trying to redirect someone you love from a thought they can no longer find their way out of. Mum had been comfortable, if lonely, in retirement. She was a widow for twenty-five years, and she often said with genuine surprise in her voice that she was better off financially than at any other point in her life. Not having to worry about money was a relief she never took for granted. But here's the thing: she never really thought about money either. She wasn't driven by possessions or status. She had what she needed, she was grateful, and she got on with living. Money was background noise to her, not the tune she danced to. What surprised me most came in her final year, when she was deeply confused and often entirely detached from reality. Among all the things her mind could have snagged on, the one conversation loop she returned to with unsettling clarity was money. She was convinced she had none. It made her anxious in a way that was painful to witness, a raw, childlike insecurity that seemed to rise from somewhere far deeper than conscious thought. I would reassure her, calmly and repeatedly, that her savings were healthy and there was absolutely nothing to worry about. I would joke about her bank balance making me jealous and she needed to go on a shopping spree. Sometimes it settled her. Often it didn't last more than a few minutes before the worry surfaced again. The memory care unit understandably discouraged residents from keeping personal cash, but I often broke that rule. Whenever I visited and could see that familiar agitation building, I'd press a few low value bills into her hand. Nothing significant, just the texture of something real. It worked in a way that words alone couldn't compete with. She'd look down at the money, close her fingers around it, and the tension would ease from her shoulders. She felt safe again, at least for a little while. Although, we often moved on to worrying about finding a purse to stash the bills in. For a woman who gave so little thought to money and nothing to status, I found it striking, strange even, that financial anxiety was what surfaced when the rational layers of her mind were stripped away. It made me think about what dementia actually reveals. It doesn't invent fears, it sometimes uncovers them. The fog clears away the learned, the sophisticated, the socially conditioned, and leaves something older and more fundamental underneath. At the time, I read up on this anxiety, there's some neuroscience behind it. Emotional memory, the kind wired to survival and feeling rather than fact, is stored differently in the brain and tends to be far more resilient. Dementia strips back the rational layers first. What it sometimes leaves behind is older, deeper, and harder to reach. In my mum's case, that something was the primal need to feel secure. She had grown up shaped by post-war austerity, widowhood, and years of careful budgeting on a single income. She would have been a young woman when rationing finally ended. In the world she grew up in, money wasn't abstract: it was coal for the fire and food on the table, shoes that lasted another winter without needing replacing. I think that connection between having and feeling safe wasn't a conclusion she'd reasoned her way to. It was lived, year after year, until it settled somewhere beneath thought entirely. Security and money had become inseparable, written into her long before she ever had reason to question it. I've thought about this a lot since we lost her. The concept of financial security isn't just something we think about, it seems to be something we feel, right down in the oldest parts of ourselves. It runs beneath logic, beneath personality, beneath even memory. My mum could and did forget my name on a bad day, but she could not shake the feeling that not having money meant not being safe. That instinct had been laid down so early and reinforced so consistently across a lifetime that dementia, for all its cruelty, couldn't fully reach it. To me, it says something profound about how deeply rooted our relationship with money really is. It seems to be wrapped around the core of our being. Losing my mum the way I did, piece by piece and conversation by conversation, was one of the hardest things I've been through. But in the heartbreak, she gave me this unexpected insight, pressed into my mind just as firmly as I had secretly pressed those bills into hers. Beneath everything we build and believe and become, there are feelings so fundamental they outlast nearly everything else. She reminded me that understanding our relationship with money isn't just a financial exercise, it's a deeply human one. Maybe it goes some way to explaining why we make choices that are sometimes irrational. And she did it, characteristically, without ever meaning to teach me a thing.
Mark Crothers is a retired small business owner from the UK with a keen interest in personal finance and simple living. Married to his high school sweetheart, with daughters and grandchildren, he knows the importance of building a secure financial future. With an aversion to social media, he prefers to spend his time on his main passions: reading, scratch cooking, racket sports, and hiking.
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The World’s Least Useful Financial Adviser

"William, that voice is a persistent devil. In the lead-up to retirement it was second and third-guessing every decision I was considering as I tried to piece together a retirement income — it got to the point where I couldn't sleep properly. It kept waking me with questions that had no clear answers."
- Mark Crothers
Read more »

Moving is Expensive!

"We moved 5 years ago and there is only one expense I would add to your list: Dumpster rental. Best money spent by a longshot!"
- Michael01670723
Read more »

Farrell Behavior

"Back in 2008, I was in an unusual situation that worked out well for me, ironically. In November, 2007, I joined a major fraternal financial services organization, affiliated with a major Protesant religious denomination. I had just sold my insurance agency, and was recieving my payout over a 3 year period, at roughly $70k a year. The first year was paid out in 12 installments, so as I was building my book of business from 11-2007 through 12-2008, I had a base of income in addition to the commissioins earned from product sales and bonuses earned. If any of you had advisors in those days, you may recall they were nowhere to be found and rarely heard from. from roughkly 2008-2010. This created a perfect storm for me, in that I was offering to serve their financial services needs as their portfolios were blowing up and theur advisors had abandined them. I gaithered clients hand over fist and by the end of 2008, I had built a substantial book. Even better, the clients I gathered stayed with me through their renewals in months 13 and later. 2009 was another banner year for me, in which I qualified for performance bonuses again. In 2010, I realized a lifelong dream, when I joined The American College and began a 15 years career teaching in the CFP, CLU, ChFC, and finally the RICP curricula. My students benefitted greatly because unlike traditional college professors who rarely have any real world expereince, I had been in financial services for 38 years and I was not teachuing theory. Over my 15 years career my peers and I taught and trained thousands of well educated financial sercices professional, most of whom will serve hundreds of client families, across the US. In 2013, I "met" The Bogleheads, through a friend with whom I rode motorcyles. He was a physician and actually lived on the street where John Bogle lived, in Bryn Mawr, PA. I also had a number of Vanguard employees as students, and one of them gifted me an autographed book on Mutuial Funds, authored by John Bogle. I moved all my accounts to Vanguard and used Vanguard funds in my 403b, and never looked back. Prior to retiring, I used the traditional Vanguard 4 Fund Portfolio. As I approached retirement in 2024, I purchased a series of annuities to be paired with my social security, using roughlky 40% of my fortfolio, and used them as the Bond porttion of my portfilio. Today, my 60% equity portion is 00% invested in VTI and VXUS, 80/20. Our income is almost 40% income tax free, since the annuities were funded with Roth dollars, and of course, our Social Security has a COLA feature. Our guaranteed income is over 120% of our retirement expenses, and our portfilio is there for late in life emergencies like LTC for my wife, and legacy funding. (I have a very rich LTCi policy myself, and our annuities have a LTC benefit that increases the payout by 50% for up to 5 years, for either of us. I wasn't able to buy an LTCi policy for my wife because she didn;t qualify.) I have seen any number of posts on HD where annuities are disparaged, and for those who don't like or want them, more power to them. In our case, they are doing exactly what they were purchased to do...provide a guaranteed stream of income, for life, for both my wife and me...and making the volitilty the market irrelevant. Like most HD contributors and readers, I am a huge proponent of a broadly diversified portfolio of low cost ETFs or Mutual Funds. I do not time the market, and either does anyone else,,,sucessfully. Wall Street is a shell game and the house always wins, especially when it is treated like a casino. Although not a popular opinion among many who think they are smarter than their record would indicate, I believe the market is moved by three components...Greed, Fear, and Stupidity...and I refuse to play. Continued success in your investments and retirement!"
- Mike Lynch
Read more »

My sister’s will and what it taught me.

"Thank you Jerry. Your experience highlights a lesson many families learn the hard way. When someone dies intestate, even relatively modest assets can become far more complicated and expensive to transfer than anyone expects. It's frustrating when legal fees and delays end up consuming a significant portion of what was intended to be passed on. Thank you for sharing your story, it reinforces why having a valid will is one of the simplest gifts we can leave our families."
- Andrew Clements
Read more »

Rethinking the “Right” Time for Social Security

"Thank you Marilyn. I love that story. It sounds like Social Security gave you the freedom to spend more time with your granddaughter, and that's a return that can't be measured by any break-even calculation. No regrets indeed."
- Andrew Clements
Read more »

The Boy Who Tried Hard: A Reflection

"Thank you Rick. I think that's one of the lessons I've learned as well. We rarely know the full story behind someone's journey or the challenges they may have faced along the way. If the article encourages a little more understanding and a little less assumption, then it was worth writing."
- Andrew Clements
Read more »

Adam Grossman on The Long View

"I just read the interview. It was very well done. Bravo Adam!"
- Howard Schwartz
Read more »

Billionaires, taxes and you

"I think you are correct. The median net worth of Americans is about $192,000 while the average is just over $1 million. So, at least half have a very different perspective, especially since that includes their homes."
- R Quinn
Read more »

Beefing Up Security

MANY OF US HAVE little more than a weak, reused password standing between our financial assets and a remote attacker—one armed with powerful tools and a database of passwords from security breaches. This is a losing battle. It’s the most likely way for weak computer security to put our finances at risk. Think this can’t happen to you? I’ll bet you have at least one password taken in a big security breach. A quick way to find out is entering your email address at Troy Hunt’s HaveIBeenPwned site. My address turns up in almost a dozen big cyberattacks. We are notoriously bad at creating strong passwords and remembering them. When you decide to create stronger, unique passwords for each site, you quickly discover that managing dozens of randomly generated, site-specific passwords by hand is a headache. Don’t fret. Password managers like LastPass, Dashlane and 1Password make short work of it. A password manager puts all your passwords in an encrypted vault, leaving you with just one password to remember. You want to make this password really strong and unforgettable. The password manager then fills in the right password for mobile apps and websites whenever you use them. What can you expect from a good manager?
  • Up-to-date access to your password vault on all devices, regardless of the device’s operating system.
  • Updates to your vault as you create new accounts or update existing passwords.
  • A random password generator that creates really strong, unique passwords. Those passwords will meet each site’s requirements for length and allowed characters.
  • A security challenge which guides you through the work of replacing existing poor passwords—those which are known to be compromised, weak or easily guessed, or which you’ve used more than once.
  • Emergency access to your vault by someone you choose, as well as password sharing with, say, family members for your Amazon Prime or Netflix account.
  • Two-factor authentication for extra vault security.
Some of these are only available in paid versions of the service. Despite knowing better, I procrastinated in evaluating password managers. That changed the day I tried to picture life for my spouse after I leave this vale of tears. I visualized the chores I handle: Banking, bill paying and investment management all involve online accounts. That brought my password problem into focus. A list of passwords in a binder, next to our wills, isn’t secure and it’s a pain to keep up. After experimenting with a free trial, I bought a family subscription. Moving my password vault from low-ranked to the top 1% took a couple of weekends. Each weekend, I’d spend an hour or two changing passwords, guided by the security challenge and with help from the password generator. Do this on your home PC or Mac, not an office computer. I started with high-value accounts: email, cellular carrier, and then banks and brokerages. Why email? Most web sites let you reset a password by emailing a link to the address on file. If hackers have access to your inbox, they’ll use it to access every online account. The cellular account is also important if you’ve enabled two-factor authentication that triggers text messages with secure codes. What if someone hacks into your password manager’s vault? If you pick a great vault password, the odds of this are low. But when you have all your eggs in one basket, you want to ensure that basket stays safe. That’s what led me to the YubiKey 5 series hardware keys. When you use a YubiKey with a password manager, the manager encrypts your vault twice, once with your vault password and again with a secret it gets from the YubiKey. For convenience, I’m using two models of YubiKey. I use YubiKey 5 Nano with my PC and Mac. Meanwhile, YubiKey 5 NFC stays on my keyring for use with my phone. The latter should work with an iPhone 7 or newer, as well as an Android phone with NFC (near field communication). David Powell has written software or led engineering teams for 35 years. He enjoys work, vegan fine dining, cycling and travel with his spouse. His previous article was Playing Defense. [xyz-ihs snippet="Donate"]
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Manifesto

NO. 74: WHATEVER the nightmare scenario—recession, inflation, deflation—the answer’s the same: We need stocks to notch long-run gains, with enough bonds and cash to survive the rough spell.

Truths

NO. 42: IT’S HARD to distinguish skill from luck. Suppose that, after all investment costs, there’s a 45% chance of beating the stock market each year. Over a dozen years, probability suggests that, out of a million investors, 69 “investment geniuses” would beat the market in all 12 years. But were these stock pickers truly skillful—or just very lucky?

humans

NO. 14: WITH EVERY dollar we spend, we’re seeking to tell others how we want to be perceived. The big house says we’re financially successful. The Prius says we’re environmentally aware. The theater subscription lets others know we’re cultured. The irony: Even as we use money to signal our success to others, we can end up damaging our financial future.

think

FIXED COSTS. Our fixed monthly expenses include items like mortgage or rent, car payments, insurance premiums, utilities and groceries. The higher these costs, the less we'll have for savings and for discretionary spending. The latter includes things like vacations, concerts, eating out and hobbies—typically the spending that brings the greatest happiness.

How to think about money

Manifesto

NO. 74: WHATEVER the nightmare scenario—recession, inflation, deflation—the answer’s the same: We need stocks to notch long-run gains, with enough bonds and cash to survive the rough spell.

Spotlight: Borrowing

Losing Interest

“ONLY BORROW TO BUY things that’ll appreciate in value.” This was a popular piece of financial wisdom in the 1980s, when I started writing about personal finance. But I can’t recall anyone saying it in recent years. Does that mean this wisdom is no longer wise?
Financial habits have obviously changed. I might make just a single cash machine withdrawal each month, because I put almost every expenditure on my two credit cards, which I use to buy groceries,

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Quinn had his credit score lowered. I view credit cards as a necessary evil

Credit cards certainly help drive our economy and drive some people into financial ruin. 
As I stated more than once, my philosophy of personal finance is simply save first, spend the rest but never carry a credit card balance. 
My American Express card was recently cancelled by Amx. It was a business card and they said since I no longer ran a business I couldn’t keep it. Even though I had the card since 1986, I had to apply for a new one which I did and was approved virtually instantly.

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Credit Card Debt.

American credit card debt just broke the trillion dollar level.  Taking on  debt, “ bad” debt, credit cards , auto loans and similar, is a like attending a raucous party ,  taking in too much alcohol , etc.
The aftermath , paying off high interest loans, is like the worst hangover, ever. It can take decades to recover from it.
Often,  too much alcohol can kill you, quickly or long term, * alas , debt can kill you,

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Disney or Bust

AN ARTICLE PUBLISHED in The Wall Street Journal told the story of Americans in their 30s who are spending heavily and piling on debt as we leave the pandemic behind.

One family with an income of $80,000 in Lincoln, Nebraska—where the cost of living is low, with housing costs 22% below the national average—had $20,000 in credit card debt and $160,000 in student loans.

They used stimulus checks to work down their credit card debt.

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Pay No More

IF YOU PUT DOWN less than 20% on a conventional home loan and you’re still paying private mortgage insurance (PMI), do what I did: See if you can get those pesky PMI payments eliminated.
I purchased a home in September 2017 for $341,000. The interest rate was near 4% and I put down roughly 10%. Why not put down 20%, so I could avoid PMI? My thought: If I can borrow money at an interest rate below 5% and get a reasonable rate of return elsewhere,

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A Contrarian View of a Mortgage 

Suzie and I are visiting family and enjoying the Victorian grandeur of the coastal towns of southern England, in particular near Brighton where my brother-in-law recently purchased his first home. He’s been expressing nervousness about the new experience of having a mortgage. While chatting during the evening I’ve tried to soothe his mind with a version of this, I admit, slightly left-field argument. It seemed to help him and I thought I’d share my thoughts.
When my wife Suzie retired in June last year,

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Spotlight: Wasserman

Training the Mind

WITH THE SURGE of urbanization in the 19th century, many folks became concerned by the seeming rise in bad behavior. This behavior could be illegal—such as theft—or legal but undesirable, like alcohol abuse. Nascent social sciences, including sociology and psychology, developed two alternative theories. “Moral Deficit” theorists said people engaged in bad behavior because they were internally “weak.” You might have seen a movie scene where a hysterical person is slapped with the admonition to “get a hold of yourself.” Or you might be familiar with the approaches of The Salvation Army and YMCA, both of which use Christian principles to teach people how to strengthen their mind, body and spirit. On the other side was “Moral Purity,” or the belief that temptation could bring down even the strongest person. These theorists advocated attacking supply rather than demand, most famously by initiating Prohibition. Over a century later, our debates seem all too familiar. For the “war on drugs”—or any other “war on…”—what’s the best approach? Do we address demand through education or, instead, should we attack supply by going after its purveyors? Or do we just conclude that the behavior is innate and not worth resisting? Like many social concepts, these same principles can be applied to microeconomics and even personal finance. Why do we overspend? Are we weak, with an uncontrollable desire for admiration that impels us to buy all the trappings of success? Or are we simply inundated with too many nudges to spend, and can’t resist the siren call of consumerism? Even more confusing, what’s the solution? Perhaps a better approach is that of another early reformer, Jane Addams. As part of the settlement house movement, Addams avoided focusing just on the isolated bad behavior. She advocated looking at the whole person, even the whole society, to see…
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Pay to Play

EVEN IN OUR consumer-driven society, some things are looked down upon if bought. One of those things is companionship. I’ll leave the topic of sexual intimacy for another day. What I’m talking about here is paying—directly or indirectly—for social interaction. We might buy a younger colleague lunch simply to have somebody to dine with. We might continue therapy long after we’ve finished exploring the issues that prompted us to sign up. We all have a need to connect with others and thereby have our own existence validated. It’s a basic human need and yet, if folks admitted they pay to have such companionship, many would cluck their tongues and argue it’s not genuine friendship. People would then feel shame and not do it. But in truth, we all need human interaction and we all pay to have it—one way or another. For more than 15 years, I’ve belonged to the same United States Tennis Association (USTA) team. In that time, we’ve had a core group of guys playing together. Record-wise, all we have achieved is new heights of mediocrity. We’ve played in 100-degree heat and near-freezing cold. We’ve all sidelined ourselves with embarrassing injuries. For those losses and discomforts, we must pay ever-rising USTA membership dues and player registration fees for each league we compete in, plus we split the cost of tennis balls. And I wouldn’t have it any other way. I love tennis. But it’s the interaction with the guys—the jokes about how lousy that shot I made was or how incredibly lucky my opponent was to eke out a 6-1, 6-1 win—that I’m really paying for. We text like schoolboys before and after matches, inventing words like “pushdink” or WOOF (winner off of frame) that become our inside jokes. The COVID-19 lockdown exposed and exacerbated a hidden…
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Under Attack

THE FINANCIAL SITE MarketWatch has been running a series about the lives and budgets of Americans who retire abroad. My wife Jiab and I—who moved from Texas to Spain—were one of the first couples featured, along with a husband and wife who now live in Chile. Both articles made clear there were plusses and minuses to such a move—experiencing new things, but also being away from family—and that we weren’t advocating this for everyone. From some readers, we got positive affirmation, follow-up questions and many “good luck, but that’s not for me” comments. What surprised me, however, was the amount of hostility, which mostly came in three forms: BWAs (“But what about…?”). Some people rejected the articles because all facets weren’t explained. “You don’t mention hunting, which I like” or even “You didn’t fully explain the tax impact of living abroad,” along with the suggestion that we must be tax dodgers. Did these readers really expect an article of under 1,000 words to explain every nuance? BIBs (“But I bet…”). These were the commenters who accused us of hiding facts, such as we probably lived in a cramped “shoebox” or had to use witch doctors for health care. PAPs (personally attacking people). The worst launched into ad hominems against us and the other couple, accusing us of being “disloyal” to our country, that we must “love living in the 1800s” and even “abandoning” our children. This wasn’t just skepticism. Some readers clearly went straight into attack mode based simply on the notion of retiring abroad. All this made me curious. People who read financial websites are clearly seeking to be better informed. Many of the attackers also admitted to traveling little outside the U.S. Why the strong reaction? Coincidentally, Forbes recently ran an article that sheds some light on the answer. Jonathan Look Jr. explains…
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No Point Shouting

TEACHERS SHARE space with people who aren’t as knowledgeable or understanding of a subject as they are. Sometimes, students will display incredible depths of ignorance. Most students try, but there are some who are unwilling to meet a teacher even halfway. Worst of all are the insolent ones. Proud of their ignorance, they dismiss the subject—and the teacher—with not-so-veiled disrespect. You know what a good teacher does in the face of all this? She takes a moment, squelches all her frustration and even anger, and tries again. Jonathan Swift observed more than 300 years ago that, “Falsehood flies, and the Truth comes limping after it.” Imagine his reaction to today’s instantaneous, million-multiplying falsehoods that travel at the speed of social media? We’ve all been faced with the sneer of the doubters, adamant about their misinformation. Unfortunately, most of us aren’t good teachers. We shout, we question the person’s intelligence, we throw out gratuitous insults. We could ask for the source of their information. Instead, we opt for rhetorical questions like, “How can you be so stupid?” We need to be good teachers. Spewing venom, even as a return shot, does nothing to educate the ignorant person. In fact, it drives them (and perhaps you) further from learning. It may feel good, but it’s really a prideful display of our supposed superiority. This only tends to escalate the situation. You may say you don’t have time for such lost souls. But that’s like a doctor saying he only treats the healthy and has no time for the truly sick. If you’re out of patience, just walk away. Spewing bile only leaves the other person more entrenched and more difficult for the next person to persuade. You already know this. Everyone does. No one has ever experienced a change of heart after…
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Aftermath of a Scam

IT ALL STARTED WITH a purchase alert. With so much account hacking, we have alerts on our phones for every new purchase, so we can immediately respond if there’s an unauthorized transaction. What we didn’t know was that disputing charges can be so Kafkaesque. My wife Jiab asked if I had just purchased anything online from Walmart. I had not. There were two suspect charges, each for about $50, simultaneously charged to our Chase and Capital One credit cards. Chase required only a five-minute call for the charge to be reversed and removed from our account. Capital One said it was happy to tag the purchase as disputed. We then called Walmart to stop delivery of the two purchases, but the representative said the goods had already been shipped and couldn’t be recalled. Strangely, both purchases were being shipped to us and not to another address, which is what we thought scammers would do. Two days later, FedEx delivered the goods—two children’s jackets and a large dresser. I heard the thud of the delivery at our door late in the evening, so I ran outside in hastily donned sweats and socks. I told the FedEx guy to take them back as they weren’t our purchases. He said he couldn’t cancel the delivery before it was processed and that wouldn’t happen till tomorrow. The next day, a second FedEx guy came to our door with another delivery, a legit one. He said the first FedEx guy lied and could have taken the stuff back but just didn’t want to. As for him, he couldn’t take them back because the fraudulent delivery was from FedEx Ground and he worked for a different division. He did explain that the scammers gave our actual address to not give away their location, and had probably…
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Talking Money

APRIL IS FINANCIAL Literacy Month. If that doesn’t excite you, imagine how your children feel. Still, consider this an opportunity to begin or reinforce your kids’ financial education. Many of my students told me one of their parents was into “finance,” but when I asked how the parent handled the family money, students would just shrug and say that was all they knew. Children don’t like a straight-up lesson, especially from a parent. The trick is to make it seem casual and as blended into everyday life—theirs, not yours—as possible. Here are nine ideas for a wide range of ages, from elementary to high school. Choose the ones that fit your scion: When shopping, compare two items, like two shirts with different prices. Ask your child why the more expensive shirt costs more. What do you get for the extra money—and is it worth it? Even better, have your child ask the sales clerk. Ask your know-it-all tech-savvy child to help you set up some money management software. You can then have your child help you “test” the software with one of your child’s accounts, whether it’s a college fund, credit card or bank account. You might monitor the account together for a couple of months to see how the software works, and maybe have a conversation or two about financial issues along the way. If you have a 529 or other college savings plan, include your child in monitoring its growth and how the balance compares to the current cost of college. Maybe have some strategy sessions on how to pay for college, which might involve looking at U.S. News & World Report's list of best value schools. Take a look at some mutual funds or individual stocks related to your child’s interests, which could be anything from fashion to…
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