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At a time when American society has become increasingly polarized, I can’t think of a more propitious time to look at an example of how respect, civility and friendship can flourish and overcome dissenting factious opinions.
There is no finer example of this than the friendship that existed between former Supreme Court Justices Antonin Scalia and Ruth Bader Ginsburg, who eventually became to represent two branches of the Supreme Court. Affectionately known as R.B.G by her supporters, Ginsburg was known to have anchored the liberals. Scalia, “The Lion of the Law” led the conservatives.
These two became the best of friends based on their devotion to the Constitution; although built on different interpretations—bonding over a shared love of opera, love of country, good food and wine, and their childhoods in New York.
This enduring friendship helped them form a mutual respect that extended far beyond the courtroom. Their families became friends too—the soft spoken but powerful Ginsburg—and the gregarious, witty Scalia. In remembrance of these two titans of the law, it might inspire us to Look at this remarkable and yes, cordial, relationship.
Ginsburg’s most famous quote is “Fight for the things that are important to you, but do it in a way that will lead others to follow you.” Scalia is noted for remarking, “Call us the odd couple. She’s a very nice person. What’s not to like? Except for her views on the law.”
Because they were ideological opposites, their relationship was considered improbable. They didn’t compromise those beliefs for each other, but they didn’t let it cause animosity or disrupt their friendship.
Thank you for this Marjorie, it was good. I agree with your sentiment. Chris
Chris, how thoughtful you are to take the time to comment, in view of your recent bereavement.
All sympathy to you and your family. You have a generous heart.
Thanks for these words of encouragement, Marjorie. Since we humans tend to bond with those who share our beliefs, it’s sometimes hard to maintain relationships with those who think differently. But finding what we have in common, whether it be growing up in the same city, a love of travel, or sharing interest in each other’s families, we can always find things to draw us together. This story about an odd couple is a great example.
Linda, you remind me of a friend whose patience and courtesy were extended to all. Even the dull and ignorant— for they have their story too. We can’t let it blind us to what their virtues are..
Marjorie, a refreshing relationship story to read that many of us probably didn’t know. Thanks for producing an article that reflects a positive outcome between two high ranking individuals.
Thanks Olin. Opposing. Viewpoints can mesh
and lead to common ground.
The odd couple here reminds me of the mutual respect Tip O’neill and Ronald Reagan had for each other and could put aside their party differences at the end of the day and enjoy a drink together. As you say, I too hope to see more common ground.
Good question, Mr. West.
Humble Dollar’s Forum section has experienced a change.
I fear you’re right. But I have a plan to get the political genie back in the bottle. I’m not going to let this site degenerate into yet another place where uncivil discourse reigns.
My comment, incidentally, is not a criticism of Marjorie’s post. I read her piece as a plea for tolerance triggered by some of the nonsense getting posted on other Forum threads.
I for one, am looking forward to HD getting back to a peaceful daily read. Lately, all I want to read is the daily insight at the top of the home page.
Agreed Olin. There’s enough turmoil to get through without instigating more. There’s a lot of peace to be found in silence.
Thank you.
What the hell happened to Humble Dollar? I thought it’s objective was around sharing personal finance topics.
Marjorie, Toledo used to be represented by democrat Lud Ashley in Congress. After his death, George H. W. Bush said in a statement that he and Barbara Bush “mourn the loss of a very close friend” and said Ashley “might well have been my very best friend in life.”
Different philosophies but a common love and respect for the country. I still want to believe that we agree on more than we disagree.
Thank you for your comments, Dan. Sometimes a higher level of understanding helps in reaching agreement, allowing us the maturity we all seek throughout our lives.
Thank you for reminding us of the two titans of the law and their willingness to build friendship despite differing opinions! Your post reminds me of the great honor of sharing a table with R.B.G. at a reception in D.C. about 8 years ago. I only wish I could have met Justice Scalia in person, as well, instead of just seeing the two sitting next to each other from my seat in the orchestra pit during an opera performance. What a fantastic role model they were!
Gesa, thank you for your heartening comments. A coincidence—I too was attending a reception in D.C. where I saw RBG as she was ascending a staircase. I never met Scalia either but their story is inspiring.
I’m reminded of these words.from Desiderata:
” As far as possible without surrender, be on good terms with all persons. Speak your truth, quietly and clearly.”
I always enjoyed looking at the various collars and jabots worn by Ginsburg in contrast to the Stark black justice robe. They ranged from the demure to the elegant. It was her way of signifying her bearing as a woman, and rightfully so.