Elder Care—Not
Richard Connor | Apr 23, 2024
I KEEP SEEING THEM—overly complicated, overly expensive investment portfolios. The most recent belonged to a widow in her 70s, with modest earned income, Social Security benefits and about $5,000 in taxable fund distributions for 2023. She was someone I helped during the recent tax-filing season, when I was volunteering at an AARP TaxAide site in Monmouth County, New Jersey. Her portfolio held about a dozen mutual funds, most of which I’d never heard of. It included a bond index fund from a large insurance company that charged 0.5% in annual expenses. It tracks the same index as Vanguard Total Bond Market Index Fund (symbol: VBTLX), which charges just 0.05%, or one-tenth the fee. Moreover, the Vanguard fund can also be purchased as an ETF (BND) with a 0.03% annual fee. In 2023, our widow had two mutual fund sales. They seem to have been chosen so they resulted in no taxable gain—a benefit to the taxpayer. But interestingly, the proceeds provided just enough money to cover the $2,500 annual fee that the financial planner charged. It seems her portfolio is worth around $200,000, so the $2,500 she was charged apparently represents a 1.25% annual fee, which is on top of the fund expenses she incurs. The financial planner listed on the statement is part of a large financial planning firm, with more than 20,000 financial professionals nationwide and $1 trillion in assets under management. I imagine that, for a busy financial planner, this woman’s account ranked pretty low in importance. When I explained to the client what the statement represented, she quietly admitted she didn’t understand how her money was invested. More important, she said she couldn’t get the planner to return her calls. She asked how to go about finding someone new. Last year, I also wrote about the…
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Rick Connor | Aug 25, 2024
My wife and I just had our wills and POAs redone. We changed our domicile form PA to NJ a few years ago, and it was recommended we have them updated. I was surprised how different some of the documents were from state to state. For example, NJ has an 11 day period before a will can be probated, starting form the date of death. PA does not have that. The Medical POA and Advanced Directive was very narrative driven; our PA versions used tables of conditions and check marks for selecting treatment or not. The estate attorney said our PA documents were valid, but the biggest issue was the language that defined the conditions under which our grandsons would inherit, in the unlikely, and sad, event that one of our sons predeceased us. The PA will set up a PA trust . The attorney felt this would add a lot of complication and force the will to be also probated in PA. One consideration in a generation-skipping inheritance is at what age does the heir get control of the money in trust. I was a bit surprised that there are numerous opinions on this. Our original wills specified the age of 25. Lot of folks thought that was too young. Some recommended 35, others 30. Maybe we are optimist, but I think the world of our grandsons (currently 11, 9, 4, and 20 months), and was quite confident they will be outstanding adults at 25, like their parents. We finally settled on 28. Hopefully this part of the will never is exercised. I fully understand this decision is very much dependent of the heirs. I have friends who are trustees for adult siblings that struggle with life. But I wonder what do other HD readers think is an appropriate…
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Richard Connor | May 15, 2023
RECENT HUMBLEDOLLAR articles have addressed issues of aging, including defrauding the elderly, end-of-life considerations and preparing our homes to age in place. It must be the season for worrying about the elderly because I’ve also had their welfare on my mind, thanks to several recent events. First, a friend’s 93-year-old mother fell down a flight of steps in her home. A faulty handle came loose from a door at the top of a staircase, and her momentum propelled her backward. My friend’s mom is still spry, mentally sharp, pays all her bills on time and lives independently. Luckily, she suffered no serious injuries, but she was badly bruised. In discussing the event with my friend, I asked about the status of his mother’s estate documents, such as her will, and financial and medical powers of attorney. He said that his mom came from a generation that didn’t discuss money with their children, and that she was reluctant to involve him. Later that same day, at my local volunteer tax preparation site, I came across two returns that raised concerns. Both were for clients in their 80s who had modest incomes comprised of Social Security, small pensions and required minimum distributions from their IRAs. Both had statements from major financial institutions that showed complex portfolios and dozens of transactions. The first client, a widow, had more than three dozen short-term capital gain sales, about 40 long-term capital gain transactions and 10 pages of dividend details. Her portfolio had dozens of mutual funds, individual stocks, and environmental, social and governance (ESG) funds. There also were several single-country emerging market funds and seemingly duplicate municipal bond funds. Many of them had high annual fees and front-end loads. The statement showed she paid approximately $2,000 in fees. This seemed to me and my tax prep…
Read more » Retire to Paradise?
Richard Connor | Jul 23, 2021
I RECENTLY WROTE about how my wife and I downsized to our beach home. It had long been a dream of ours and we’re thrilled it came about. Right after the move, we climbed on a plane and experienced another common dream of retirees—living in an exotic tropical paradise. We visited our son, daughter-in-law, grandson and their Boston terrier in Nosara, Costa Rica. Nosara is a beautiful village and resort area carved out of the jungle on Nicoya Peninsula, part of Costa Rica’s Pacific coast. It’s known as a yoga center, for its gorgeous beaches and as a mecca for surfers from around the world. It has a large expat population and a great vibe. Andrew and Ashley had been living at our New Jersey shore home since May 2020, when COVID-19 drove them out of their Hoboken, N.J., apartment a few months after their first child, James, was born. This winter, they decided it was time for a bit of an adventure, so they rented a home in Nosara for 10 weeks. It’s worked out great for them. They’ve been able to work, found top-quality childcare, made friends from around the world and even learned to surf. The house they rented is gorgeous, has a beautiful pool and plenty of room for visiting grandparents. It’s a 10-minute walk from one of the most beautiful beaches I’ve ever seen. In the morning, we’d drink coffee on the veranda while watching monkeys lounge in a nearby tree, and then stroll to the beach to watch the kids improve their surfing skills. You often see articles about the best places to retire abroad. Central American countries are always mentioned, often for their inexpensive cost of living. International Living magazine recently rated Costa Rica as the No. 1 place to retire. The article…
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Richard Connor | Jul 22, 2021
MY WIFE AND I DO a mid-year and year-end financial review. This includes an updated family balance sheet, cashflow analysis, portfolio review and a review of retirement projections. I’m semi-retired and do some consulting when work is available. This income isn’t guaranteed, so I keep a spreadsheet that estimates our income and tax burden for the year. I usually update this quarterly to see if we need to submit any estimated state or federal tax payments. During our twice-yearly financial review, we discuss spending priorities for the next six months. Our 2021 mid-year review was less routine—because my wife retired at the end of June. We’ll most likely roll her company 401(k) into her IRA at Vanguard Group, at which point we’ll have to choose how to invest that money. The biggest issue, at least in my mind, is that for the first time we’ll have to start withdrawing funds from our retirement accounts. We need to decide which investments we’ll withdraw the money from and how much to withdraw.
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Richard Connor | Oct 24, 2023
WHEN I LAST REPORTED on our retirement journey, we’d decided to put our search for a second home on hold. Well, in the immortal words of Saturday Night Live’s Emily Litella, “Never mind.” We looked at many properties in several communities earlier this year, but we didn’t find anything we wanted to purchase. We decided on a cooling-off period, while we pondered what our next step should be. We kept a casual eye on properties coming up for sale, but nothing grabbed our attention. One Sunday morning in mid-July, my wife received a Zillow notification that a property in a desirable 55-plus community had just been put on the market. There was to be an open house that afternoon. We had nothing better to do, and it was a cloudy and rainy day, so we jumped in the car. To make the trip more enticing, we’d get to see two of our grandsons, ages seven months and three years old. We found two other open houses nearby that also seemed worth a visit. The first two homes we toured were single, ranch-style homes. Both were nice, and would have been great for a young and growing family. But they were more house and property than we need at this point. The last property was a townhome in a 55-plus community. It had a large first-floor master bedroom, upgraded kitchen, hardwood floors and a big two-car garage. The second floor had a large bedroom, bath, storage area, and huge loft area that could easily accommodate an office, sitting area and additional sleeping. The unit had a private deck looking out onto woods. The community had a pool, community center with fitness room, and courts for tennis and pickleball. The realtor running the open house lived in the community, and spoke glowingly…
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