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Lessons Learned from Taking Care of a 102 Year Old in Her Final Year

As I have written before in April of last year my wife and I decided to take in my 102 year old mother in law when her second husband, whom she married at 93, was sent to a nursing home. Amazingly that resulted in moving her out of their independent senior housing apartment.

Well she peacefully passed way yesterday morning at the age of just days past 103 1/4. As my wife’s cousin said in call yesterday, “ amazing, but she didn’t break the record of (my mother in law’s) aunt Edith (103 1/2 in 1988).”

I’ve always have read about what people have learned when reflecting on a loved one’s life when caring for them in their final days, and thought, yeah, right. However, I have found out it is true.

In the coming weeks and months I have decided to share some of these thoughts on what I learned and how it will hopefully, with a lot of help, change me as a person.

WARNING: These posts will have nothing to do with money as she always lived on very little.

But for the present time, it’s time for family to gather and celebrate a truly amazing woman’s amazing life.

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Dan Wick
1 year ago

I will celebrate with you what must have been a great life lived by your mother in law. I am glad you got to spend a year with her learning what must have been a treasure trove of experiences.

Chris (baldscreen)
1 year ago

I am sorry for your loss, David. I will be looking forward to your thoughts. We are navigating similar waters with Spouse’s folks, and their brother with ALS that I have written about here enters hospice this afternoon. I will say prayers for your family as you gather to celebrate the life of your mother in law. Chris

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mytimetotravel
1 year ago

I’m sorry for your loss, and great that and your wife cared for her this last year.

I am currently participating in a discussion group at my retirement community using “The Art of Dying Well” and will be interested in your thoughts.

Jack Hannam
1 year ago

We can learn a lot from our elders, if we would just listen to them. It is tragic when someone passes prematurely, but I have learned that when a loved one passes after reaching a very advanced age, it still hurts. I’m sure you will treasure those last days you had with her.

Marjorie Kondrack
1 year ago
Reply to  Jack Hannam

So very true. I lost my father suddenly when I was 13 and he was 40. It was tragic; but my mother