Dennis, thank you for writing this! I was a medical person and lost my wife almost five years ago to dementia. I thought I would be prepared, but I found I wasn't. I'm not sure if one can truly prepare for that loss. I have found that the memories, friends, children and staying busy all help me to get along. Looking at old pictures and reading old notes helps also. The memories are the best! I do believe that realizing what a blessing a good partner is helps us to make the most of the time we have with them. It sounds like you have nailed that!!! The best. Bob
Greg, I have been reading the book, The Good Life: Lessons from the World's Longest Scientific Study of Happiness, by Robert Waldinger and Marc Schulz which is their book about the Harvard Study. It's a great book and as Andrew said, you make a nice connection. Thank you. Bob
I have used Vanguard for 12 years and Vanguard Personal Advisor for about 3 years. They do help with RMDs and QCDs and they did identify that a Form 706 had not been filed after my wife's death. I have been very satisfied. Bob
Doug, good job taking care of your parents. My wife died due to complications of dementia four years ago. I was able to take care of her at home myself until the last five months when I had to have in home help. My wife and I had always been very close, but we became much closer during the time she required my help. My experience as a caregiver was as you describe, it felt like an honor and privilege. Even when she didn't know my name or that I was her husband, she knew I was someone who loved her and was caring for her. Circumstances vary for everyone, but for us, me and my wife, it was a life changing experience and I am glad I didn't miss it.
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Dennis, thank you for writing this! I was a medical person and lost my wife almost five years ago to dementia. I thought I would be prepared, but I found I wasn't. I'm not sure if one can truly prepare for that loss. I have found that the memories, friends, children and staying busy all help me to get along. Looking at old pictures and reading old notes helps also. The memories are the best! I do believe that realizing what a blessing a good partner is helps us to make the most of the time we have with them. It sounds like you have nailed that!!! The best. Bob
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Rick, thank you for writing this. Your article and the discussion it has generated are really educational. Thank you. Bob
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I am sorry for the loss of your wife. Bob
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Greg, I have been reading the book, The Good Life: Lessons from the World's Longest Scientific Study of Happiness, by Robert Waldinger and Marc Schulz which is their book about the Harvard Study. It's a great book and as Andrew said, you make a nice connection. Thank you. Bob
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I have used Vanguard for 12 years and Vanguard Personal Advisor for about 3 years. They do help with RMDs and QCDs and they did identify that a Form 706 had not been filed after my wife's death. I have been very satisfied. Bob
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Doug, good job taking care of your parents. My wife died due to complications of dementia four years ago. I was able to take care of her at home myself until the last five months when I had to have in home help. My wife and I had always been very close, but we became much closer during the time she required my help. My experience as a caregiver was as you describe, it felt like an honor and privilege. Even when she didn't know my name or that I was her husband, she knew I was someone who loved her and was caring for her. Circumstances vary for everyone, but for us, me and my wife, it was a life changing experience and I am glad I didn't miss it.
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I'm sorry for your loss.
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