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Looking back, it’s remarkable how much of my life depended on one government issued card.
My twin brother Nick and I had no way of knowing that becoming permanent residents of the United States would eventually lead us to careers we never expected, a business we built together, financial independence and, ultimately, an early retirement. At the time, though, it just seemed like another piece of paperwork.
After spending much of our childhood in England and Bangladesh, our family settled back in Maryland. Returning to Britain no longer seemed likely, and because Nick and I would soon no longer be considered dependents, it made sense to apply for permanent residency. So, in 1979, we submitted the paperwork.
Neither of us appreciated what that decision would mean.
A green card doesn’t guarantee success. It simply gives you the opportunity to pursue it. Looking back, I realize how easily life could have unfolded differently. Had we remained in England, I doubt Nick and I would have entered the landscape industry. We almost certainly wouldn’t have built the business that eventually allowed us to retire comfortably. Opportunity still required hard work, but first there had to be a door to walk through.
When we graduated from college in late 1983, our futures were anything but certain. My degree in Wildlife and Conservation Management offered few career prospects, and those that existed paid very little. Nick’s degree in Animal Science and International Agriculture didn’t open many doors either. We were educated, but not exactly in demand.
So, in February 1984, we both accepted jobs with ChemLawn, a lawn care company. It wasn’t glamorous work. The hours were long, the summers were brutally hot, and the pay was modest. But we were young, healthy and never afraid of hard work. We simply showed up every day and did the job.
Looking back, that decision changed our lives just as much as receiving our green cards.
Working in the landscape industry taught us far more than how to care for lawns. We learned about customer service, scheduling, equipment, employees and, perhaps most importantly, what it took to build a successful business. We didn’t know it then, but we were being given an education no university could provide.
Despite our modest incomes, in 1985 we bought a tiny 900 square foot house together for $95,000. I affectionately called it “the dollhouse.” It wasn’t much, but it was ours. It also reflected something that would shape the rest of our financial lives: Living below our means and building slowly instead of chasing more than we could afford.
Then came 1992. Nick and I decided to take what we had learned and start our own company, Panoramic Landscape Services. There was no grand business plan. We weren’t following lifelong dreams of becoming entrepreneurs. We simply believed we could build something of our own if we were willing to work hard enough.
The early years were anything but easy. Like many small businesses, cash flow was tight, mistakes were expensive and success was never guaranteed. But we kept going.
We hired good people, treated customers well and benefited from opportunities that, in hindsight, involved more than a little good fortune. I don’t pretend that our success was solely the result of hard work. Plenty of people work just as hard and never receive the opportunities we did. At the same time, luck alone isn’t enough. Opportunity may open the door, but someone still has to walk through it.
Our business grew beyond anything we had imagined. In 2012, after twenty years, we sold the company. Three years later I retired, grateful not only for the financial security it had provided but also for the journey itself.
Along the way, Nick and I became U.S. citizens. By then, our lives were firmly rooted here. Becoming citizens wasn’t simply a legal milestone, it was our way of embracing the country that had given us opportunities we never expected.
There’s a quote often attributed to Søren Kierkegaard, a Danish philosopher:
“Life can only be understood backwards, but it must be lived forwards.”
That perfectly describes how I see my own life.
When I was twenty-two, I never imagined owning a landscape company. I never imagined retiring in my fifties. I certainly never imagined spending retirement writing articles reflecting on the journey.
Looking backward, the path seems almost obvious. While living it, there was no map. There were only ordinary decisions that didn’t seem especially important at the time:
Applying for permanent residency, taking a lawn care job, buying a tiny house, starting a business together.
Looking back, I don’t feel pride as much as gratitude.
Gratitude for the opportunities we were given, for the people who believed in us, and for a country that allowed two brothers to build a life they never imagined.
Andrew, thanks for an interesting story. Last month my wife and I were invited by one of her girlfriends, Kathy, to visit Saratoga Springs, NY. Kathy lives out side Boston and is part of a group of friends that does annual visits to historic places in the US, primarily with a military connection. This year we toured the National Historic Park with a local guide.
The night before we did the tour, the group gathered for dinner, and than sat outside on the hotel balcony. As an icebreaker, and since it was close to July 4th, the leader of the Boston group asked each of us to tell our something of our family’s Coming to America Story, and what part of the American Story resonates with each of us. There were 13 people and a variety of stories of immigration and assimilation. One person was a defendant of slaves, one descended from Russian immigrants who fled persecution, and one with descendants from Poland sho fled the Holocaust. Lots of first generation folks from Ireland and Italy.
There were several of us who didn’t have near-term stories – my family came primarily from Ireland in the early 1800s – Roscommon and Cork. I, and several others, felt our story was representative of the melting pot – how after several generations you have assimilated and tend to forget what your ancestors went through to come here. It’s good to be reminded of their stories, and all our family stories. Thanks.
Thanks, Rick. What a wonderful idea for an evening together. I can only imagine how fascinating it must have been to hear everyone’s “Coming to America” story.
I also like the point you made about families who arrived generations ago. Over time it’s easy to forget the courage, uncertainty, and hope that brought our ancestors here in the first place. Whether those journeys happened two hundred years ago or within our own lifetime, they’re all part of the same American story.
Thank you for sharing that experience. It fits beautifully with the theme of the article.
Andrew, stories like yours and Catherine’s and so many others prove once again what has been proven a thousand times over — that immigrants enrich America beyond calculation.
Let me just say… thanks for coming!
Thank you, Mike. That means a great deal to me.
My brother and I always felt incredibly fortunate for the opportunities we found here, and we tried to repay that good fortune the best way we knew how, by working hard, building a business we could be proud of, creating jobs for others, and becoming part of our community.
I’m grateful this country became our home, and I’m equally grateful for your kind words.
This is a good week to read your story Andrew. I just celebrated my 65th birthday.
I emigrated to this country 42 years ago. I had studied to be a nurse at home in Cork city, Ireland. The day I left Ireland I knew I was not coming back to live there.
Very long story short, I worked in a variety of hospitals, working towards getting my green card as soon as I could. Later on, I became a citizen. Starting off in dialysis but in a year was working as an emergency room nurse in Columbia Presbyterian in NYC which was quite the experience. Soon after moving to Boston, I discovered psychiatric nursing and started working at Maclean hospital. From there I went back to school and got my masters in psychiatric nursing. I worked in a variety of psych positions before finally having my private practice in which I did psychotherapy and prescribed medications. I have had a very rewarding work life, before retiring 2 1/2 years ago. I have been married for thirty two years and have one 27y/o child.
I knew that by leaving Ireland I was changing my destiny. I hoped for opportunities to manifest which I am happy to report, were plentiful. This is not to say that I didn’t work really hard and I’ve overcome many serious challenges along the way. I am the youngest of four, and having buried my three siblings all in the last six years, I am free of an enormous amount of caretaking now. (Obviously I would have preferred that they had not died). They all struggled very much, carrying the trauma of our childhood with them to the grave. Unlike me, they were not equipped to rise above the dysfunction.
Now I am free, financially secure, healthy enough to travel and do as I please. I have always been grateful for the opportunities the US has provided me with and take nothing for granted. Carpe Diem!
Thank you, Catherine. Your story is a wonderful example of the article’s central theme, that opportunity and hard work often go hand in hand.
You left Ireland knowing you were changing the course of your life, and then you made the most of every opportunity that came your way. Your career is remarkable, but what stood out to me even more was your gratitude. Like you, I look back and realize how much of my life was shaped by opportunities I could never have anticipated.
I’m also so sorry for the loss of your three siblings. Having lost both my younger brother and my younger sister in the last year, I know how profoundly those losses change us. Your resilience in building a fulfilling life despite the challenges you faced is inspiring.
Thank you for sharing your journey, and happy belated 65th birthday. Wishing you many years of good health, travel, and enjoying the freedom you’ve worked so hard to achieve.
Nice story.
I like the way you don’t make it about things that you both were exceptionally gifted or worked harder than anyone on the planet. Also the role of luck or indeed simply avoiding the things that can torpedo people on similar trajectories – critical illness at an unfortunate point or time, dilution of ownership through divorce, a bad lawsuit.
It seems you had 2 major things going for you – the fortune to be green card eligible and a business partner you had ultimate trust in (I guess you can’t really be closer than having been in a womb together).
And then at least the resilience to stick at an unglamourous job for someone else for 8 years together.
We all have our origin stories and random wander through life. The people I tend to respect the most are humble and recognise that there is at least a significant degree of happenstance in reaching their (working) end.
Thank you for reading my article and the comment. I think you’ve summed up the message better than I did.
You’re absolutely right that avoiding some of life’s major setbacks can be just as important as making good decisions. It’s easy to look back and attribute success entirely to hard work, but the older I get, the more I appreciate how many things had to go right along the way.
And yes, having Nick as a business partner was one of the greatest advantages I could have asked for. We trusted each other completely, and that trust never wavered over the years. Looking back, I don’t take that for granted.
I also like your phrase, “our origin stories.” We all have one, and each is shaped by a unique mix of opportunity, choices and circumstance. That’s what makes hearing other people’s journeys so interesting.
Andrew, your story reminds me of another Andrew, my parish priest. He is from Wales and has lived here in Michigan for over 20 years. In spite of best efforts, he has been unable to obtain a green card. He requested a renewal of his work permit as early as possible in November. His permit expired in May and he was advised by the diocese and his attorney to leave his parish responsibilities until the permit was issued. It is now August and Father Andrew is still on the sidelines, unable to follow his calling or do meaningful work.
Harold, thank you for sharing Father Andrew’s story.
It really highlights how much our lives can be shaped by circumstances beyond our control.
Reading your comment made me appreciate even more how fortunate my brother and I were that our path to permanent residency was relatively straightforward. I hope Father Andrew’s situation is resolved soon so he can return to the work and community he clearly cares so much about.
Stories like his are a reminder that opportunity often depends on doors opening at the right time.
Andrew, your articles always make me reflect upon my own life and the unexpected opportunities that led to something better. In my case, it was the decision to return to college in my mid-30’s to become a nurse, after observing the schedule flexibility, good pay, and jobs available to a friend who was a nurse. With the support of my husband, I pursued a career that was fulfilling and secure, even as we moved to different locations. I never became a manager, but I loved what I did and the people I met. I’m grateful every day for that decision to go back to school.
Thanks, Linda. I love that my story prompted you to reflect on your own.
Your decision to return to college in your mid-30s is a perfect example of how one choice can quietly change the direction of an entire life.
It also reminds me that success isn’t always about climbing to the highest position.
Finding work that is meaningful, provides security, and allows you to help others is an accomplishment in itself.
I’m glad you took that chance, and I’m sure many of your patients benefited because you did.
Another story of immigrants working their a…s off and becoming strong contributors to the American economy/society. Also example of immigrants being willing to work hard and do the “dirty” work to get ahead, something I fear a lot of native born Americans are not willing to do, rather they just complain about how tough it is here to get ahead.
Kudos to both of you.
Thank you David. I really appreciate your kind words.
One of the things I hoped to convey in the article is that opportunity and hard work went hand in hand. We were fortunate to be given the opportunity to build a life here, but we also understood that nothing would be handed to us. Starting at the bottom taught us lessons that stayed with us throughout our careers.
Looking back, I feel far more gratitude than pride. My brother and I were simply thankful for the chance to build a life in a country that opened so many doors for us.
And so it goes, willing to do what may be necessary, embracing every opportunity, willing to compromise when necessary, persistence and patience and financial responsibility. All a powerful formula for success and yet it seems these days all that escapes so many people.
What you describe Andrew is a scaled down version of how billionaires achieve their wealth only instead of selling their business they issue an IPO and make themselves the target of envy and resentment.
Sadly, I suspect there are many who would resent your ability to retire in your fifties while ignoring the risk and hard work it took to make it happen.
I think there is a difference based on scale. Building a business in order to live a comfortable life and provide for one’s family, community, workers is one thing. Being in the billionaire bracket and relentlessly pursuing more material wealth for egotistical reasons and/or seeking control and power over others is another.
I like to think of it as it’s not billionaires are defacto bad, it’s billionaires being aholes that are bad.
Well said bbbobbins!
I just heard a quote the other day, I wish I could remember where, that said “people envy what you have, not how you got it”. I’ve thought a lot about it since I heard it.
Thank you for the comment. I think you’ve captured what I was trying to say. Hard work was certainly part of our story, but so was opportunity, and I never want to lose sight of that. Plenty of people work just as hard as we did and never get the same breaks.
Looking back, I don’t feel that we somehow deserved what happened. I simply feel grateful that the opportunities came our way, and that my brother and I were prepared to make the most of them.
Retiring early was never the goal. Building a business we were proud of was. The retirement was simply a fortunate outcome.