Earlier this week, I asked readers, “If you could go anywhere in the world on your next trip, where would it be? If you could savor any experience, what would it be?”
I didn’t offer my own response—because I didn’t have one. At this point, I don’t have a strong urge to go to some exotic locale or try some new experience. On the other hand, there are places and experiences from my past that call to me. But which would I most like to revisit?
When I asked myself this question, my mind raced through various turning points in my life—getting into Cambridge, joining The Wall Street Journal, the birth of my children, meeting Elaine. But probably because of my physical deterioration over the past 10 months, my brain settled on a 5k (3.1 mile) road race I ran in July 2007—an event that necessitated some plane tickets and race entry fees, but for which money really wasn’t a central element.
What made the race special? It wasn’t pleasant, it wasn’t the fastest 5k I ever ran and it wasn’t among the dozen races I won over the decade or so that I was a fairly serious amateur runner. But the race was a family affair, plus the physical exertion was such that it’s seared into my memory. Indeed, I can remember the details of the race in a way I can’t recall any other I ever ran.
It was July, and I was down in Key West, Florida, visiting my father, then age 74, who lived there full-time for the final 15 years of his life. My two kids were with me, and my sister Tory drove down the Keys to join us. All five of us ran that day’s race, held as part of a week of events to celebrate Ernest Hemingway, who made his home in Key West—and made its bars famous.
I’ve always preferred morning races. This one, however, was held in the evening. The temperature was still a blistering 95 degrees when the race started, and the humidity was beyond oppressive. I’ve never run a race in worse conditions.
Almost immediately, the lead group of runners fractured. There was a dozen in the front group, and the second group—which is where I found myself—was about as large. I figured I was in 20th position and headed for a disappointing finish.
As we turned left off Whitehead Street toward the naval dock, the two groups came back together and I started working my way through the pack. After a circuit of the dock, I found myself in fifth place, sitting on the shoulder of a lanky, bearded runner, trying to match his pace. We left the dock behind and turned back on to Whitehead. There were six-tenths of a mile to go.
I gestured to the runner ahead of us. “He’s in third,” I said to my companion, who seemed far stronger than me. “You should go get him.”
“I’m cooked,” he said.
It was a reminder that I wasn’t the only one suffering. I grunted, picked up the pace and decided to give it a shot. I quickly found myself closing in on the runner ahead, who perhaps was also wilting in the stifling heat and humidity. I was tempted to sit on his heels and take a brief rest, but didn’t want to give him any reason for encouragement, so I accelerated.
For that final stretch, I had a feeling I’ve never had before or since—a sense that every muscle in my body was working in concert. It’s a sensation I can still recall. Sometimes, in my daydreaming, I’ll relive those closing yards sprinting down Whitehead. I finished third in 17:30, far from my best time, and yet I doubt I’ve ever raced harder.
Afterward, there was a post-race party in the garden of a nearby guesthouse that was one of the race sponsors. With the running over, the weather seemed a whole lot less suffocating and the evening turned magical.
I sat with my family by the sea, drank the free beer and watched the sun disappear. Less than two years later, my father would be struck and killed by a speeding driver. That 2007 visit wasn’t the last time I’d see him, but the memory also isn’t tinged with sadness, like some of my later memories are.
That brings me to today’s question: If you could relive any experience from your life, what would it be?
I’d love to re-live the first six or seven years of my children’s lives, preferably unsaddled with job obligations and mandated travel and with lots more time to bond than I had back then. (But I’d take it even if I did have to endure some of those obstacles again.)
As Always Jonathan another great story. Family is the best. I have been too very many great places, but I think the best are family related, a Cruise with the whole family having great fun and being together for dinner every evening. As much as I would like to spend a month in Kauai, we chose to have an extended family gathering in June 2025, and expect all will have a great time. Keep up your exercise program and best you can and hope for extended life and a miracle. I think you are well prepared for the future. Thanks again for all your great articles.
my greatest experience was illegal in all states when it occurred
and remains so to this day. i do however, thank you for the smile
that will remain with me for quite some time…
What a great memory, Jonathan. I, too, was a competitive distance runner earlier in my life, and I have known similar race emotions.
One of the greatest experiences I would relive is backpacking for three months across Europe, in my 20s, right after the Berlin Wall fell and Eastern Europe opened up to visitors. It was an exhilarating journey!
this is one I would not like to revisit it but it happened……..we had just returned from a great golf trip to Ireland and sitting with morning coffee watching the Today show at 8:45 AM 9/11/01 than it happened…….we recovered from this as we will from the Market selloff …..we are resilient and look forwards also learn from history
In 2016, on a do-over trip to St. George, UT with my wife and 3 of our 4 kids, we had been visiting the parks and hiking in Zion. We decided to hike to Observation Point in Zion–about a 8 mile round trip hike to the best vantage point in the park. My kids left my wife and I in the dust (we were in our late 50s at the time), but we persevered to their surprise. When we got to the Point, it was almost like being in heaven. The view was spectacular and we just hung out for about an hour soaking it all in. On the way home, the stop and In N Out burger was also a slice of heaven. Nothing tastes better than food or drink after outdoor experiences like that. By the way, the trail to Observation Point has been closed for maybe 5 or more years now due to a massive slide.
Life’s best experiences are “Dadding.” They came when our children were say 3-10 years-old. Every event (bike ride, hike, park, playground, pool, beach, sports game, wrestling with Dad or riding on my shoulders) was an adventure and exploration. Hugs were routine. This stated with apologies to Mom.
If defined to one single moment, my kids’ sport experiences culminated when each crushed it to qualify for college nationals and state finals – I cried.
However, children, as well as their sports activities, are all about “the journey.”
I don’t know. I find grandparenting is as great as parenting, but with a lot less angst :-). If (or when) something goes wrong, there comes a caring parent ready to take over! Last time we were watching them, the parents came back early to sit around and visit with us–even better!
It’s a tie between reliving our simple Air Force chapel wedding some 45 years ago(no video, minimal photos remain)….or….Go back through Air Force UPT (flight school) with my 42 years of piloting experience between the Air force and airlines. But there are numerous collages of brief moments with my better half and the kids at a quiet beach, a woodland scene, or along a lazy stream when I felt at peace with the world surrounded by the presence of God.