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• I took an annual trip with mom to visit her hometown. In hindsight I now realize dementia was taking over. Despite no shortage of funds she insisted on paying the hotel bill with cash. I was horrified when shortly after arriving in her home town she pulled out a few thousand dollars in cash and wanted to keep it in the hotel room. I drove to the local bank where she had an account. My next concern was that at the end our trip she would need to pull the cash out to pay the hotel bill. As I was her driver that week I had to be with her at the bank for both the deposit and the withdrawal at the end of our stay. I was terrified at the thought of being accused of elder abuse or swindling my mother out of money when she needed to withdrawal a few thousand dollars, all with me standing nearby. When we went to deposit the money I made a point of waving at every, single security camera and chatting with the teller when mom deposited the money. Fortunately for me, we had the same teller when mom withdrew the money later that week and she recognized us and knew we had simply put the cash in the bank for a week-long duration. Mom has since passed but, I did have a nice chat with the bank folks telling them the story. They agreed that elder financial abuse is a real problem and I was smart to handle the situation the way that I did.

  Post: Trust Betrayed

  Link to comment from November 16, 2021

• "have seen people make multiple career changes in their 50s." Not everyone had to make a career change but, some wanted to make a career change in their 50's. My father has a PhD but, went back to school in his 50's to get a CPA. He didn't like what was taking place in academia with colleges and universities merging and cutting staff and decided to take control of his future. He was an inspiration to me to adjust my career by going back to school for a second masters degree, this time in cyber security. My career is thriving and I can thank my father for setting a wonderful example in career agility.

  Post: What’s Your History?

  Link to comment from September 14, 2021