Would the love birds consider eloping if their wedding gift from you would be 1/2 the cost of a wedding that you would otherwise pay for?
It would be a much more practical use of money in my opinion and experience.
I like this solution a lot, as it places the decision for how best to use the money on the person in need. Rent assistance, food, drugs, rehab, school, etc. They will be forced to manage their known income. What I do believe is that you cannot fix someone else's life, the desire for, and the fortitude to carry out change is something that must come from within that person. Wanting to help your child or a loved one who is struggling to cope with with life is a VERY tough situation. If you do provide monetary help, it can lead to dependency because they lose the urgency (and need) to solve their own problems. I think if one does provide assistance there must also be clearly defined conditions/expectations attached to the assistance. Your goal is that your loved one will eventually be able to cope with life, earn money, be responsible with managing money and be self-supportive, AND experience the pride and self-satisfaction that will come naturally from those accomplishments. Note: My wife and I have personal experience with assisting our son and his family with housing and expenses.
Quan:
I love to read your posts, you definitely "have a way with words" and a wonderful ability to express your thoughts and feelings, so please keep contributing!
Dave
You hit the nail in the head by using the word "addiction!" :-)
My thirst-quenching addiction is a refillable water bottle, which I refill with from the filtered cold water dispenser on my refrigerator! I carry the water bottle with me everywhere I go so I am never thirsty and always stay properly hydrated. The only downside to my carrying the bottle with me everywhere I go is the never-ending teasing I have to endure from my wife about my needing to have my "Ba-Ba" with me at all times! Ah, but it's still worth it!
I hope it takes the "investment character" out of the picture, and treats them as "exchangeable dollars" just like physical U.S. dollar bill currency, and I think should be allowed to earn interest just like dollars deposited into bank accounts do today.
I think the idea of a formal U.S. Government implementation of stablecoins is a GREAT idea!
I echo Parkslope: My wife and I have been enrolled in the publicly-available Orange County, CA Kaiser Permanente Senior Advantage Plan (Medicare Advantage) and it is truly WONDERFUL!
I feel very lucky indeed that this wonderful plan, offered by a wonderful non-profit company, is available to us. I think this company and plan could be THE model for a "Medicare for all" (universal health care) plan for America!
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Would the love birds consider eloping if their wedding gift from you would be 1/2 the cost of a wedding that you would otherwise pay for? It would be a much more practical use of money in my opinion and experience.
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I like this solution a lot, as it places the decision for how best to use the money on the person in need. Rent assistance, food, drugs, rehab, school, etc. They will be forced to manage their known income. What I do believe is that you cannot fix someone else's life, the desire for, and the fortitude to carry out change is something that must come from within that person. Wanting to help your child or a loved one who is struggling to cope with with life is a VERY tough situation. If you do provide monetary help, it can lead to dependency because they lose the urgency (and need) to solve their own problems. I think if one does provide assistance there must also be clearly defined conditions/expectations attached to the assistance. Your goal is that your loved one will eventually be able to cope with life, earn money, be responsible with managing money and be self-supportive, AND experience the pride and self-satisfaction that will come naturally from those accomplishments. Note: My wife and I have personal experience with assisting our son and his family with housing and expenses.
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I like you. :-)
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My ChatGPT response to that exact same question was: "Plan to take a long walk on a short pier!" :-)
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Quan: I love to read your posts, you definitely "have a way with words" and a wonderful ability to express your thoughts and feelings, so please keep contributing! Dave
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You hit the nail in the head by using the word "addiction!" :-) My thirst-quenching addiction is a refillable water bottle, which I refill with from the filtered cold water dispenser on my refrigerator! I carry the water bottle with me everywhere I go so I am never thirsty and always stay properly hydrated. The only downside to my carrying the bottle with me everywhere I go is the never-ending teasing I have to endure from my wife about my needing to have my "Ba-Ba" with me at all times! Ah, but it's still worth it!
Post: Reacting to the Tariffs
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Stablecoins would be easily transferable electronically, the same as dollar bills are easily transferable in person.
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I hope it takes the "investment character" out of the picture, and treats them as "exchangeable dollars" just like physical U.S. dollar bill currency, and I think should be allowed to earn interest just like dollars deposited into bank accounts do today. I think the idea of a formal U.S. Government implementation of stablecoins is a GREAT idea!
Post: Smart Move?
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We've been enrolled for 11 & 15 years, respectively.
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I echo Parkslope: My wife and I have been enrolled in the publicly-available Orange County, CA Kaiser Permanente Senior Advantage Plan (Medicare Advantage) and it is truly WONDERFUL! I feel very lucky indeed that this wonderful plan, offered by a wonderful non-profit company, is available to us. I think this company and plan could be THE model for a "Medicare for all" (universal health care) plan for America!
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