Hi, as a widow I struggle with this topic as well with 3 unmarried young adult children (late 20s/early 30s) in different cities, with various job histories/prospects and with diverse administrative skills/interest. When my husband died 8 years ago at 62, it was impossible for them to even consider next steps were I to pass away. There is a fine line to let them know there will be substantial assets, and that there are also multiple steps to manage an estate transition smoothly.
I've completed estate planning with all relevant documents in place and location of consolidated accounts at Vanguard. I update an ongoing letter of instructions (9 pages replete with humor - I hope- and an appeal to keep saving for decades ahead). And still so many details to consider - for example, I took an extension to file my tax forms in October (paid in April). With a recent trip out of town I realized they would have no clue that this form still needed to be filed. It's in my head. Another topic for the letter...
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Hi, as a widow I struggle with this topic as well with 3 unmarried young adult children (late 20s/early 30s) in different cities, with various job histories/prospects and with diverse administrative skills/interest. When my husband died 8 years ago at 62, it was impossible for them to even consider next steps were I to pass away. There is a fine line to let them know there will be substantial assets, and that there are also multiple steps to manage an estate transition smoothly. I've completed estate planning with all relevant documents in place and location of consolidated accounts at Vanguard. I update an ongoing letter of instructions (9 pages replete with humor - I hope- and an appeal to keep saving for decades ahead). And still so many details to consider - for example, I took an extension to file my tax forms in October (paid in April). With a recent trip out of town I realized they would have no clue that this form still needed to be filed. It's in my head. Another topic for the letter...
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