I think a lot of drama is created when one attaches strings to a gift. Expecting others to use the gift responsibly is quite the string. Can we really expect others to be responsible? If I give money to my children and one saves it for a down payment on a house and the other goes on a vacation and buys a new tv- should I care? I think I am better off not caring. As I ride off into the sunset-I retired a year and a half ago- I created a little side hustle, providing science activities for libraries and schools at no cost. It is a way for me to give something to back to my community. Each of us is unique, and we thrive when we use our unique skills to help others. The thing is, when we help others we inadvertently help our selves. It’s a bit of a paradox, but the more we try and covet our money, the poorer we tend to feel. I am not advocating we give our money away necessary, but I have found that I don’t need all that much to be happy- and the things that will bring the most satisfaction really don’t cost that much. I agree that we must know what we want, but if it can be purchased it’s probably not what we need- unless it improves our health or connection to others.
I listened to a TED talk about computer science and decision making- and what I took away was that everything we do gives us information. The key is to figure out if you want new information or whether you want to exploit the information you already have. Are you going to explore or exploit? As we get older, we think we know what we like and want, so we are much more likely to exploit the information we already have rather than gain new information and risk a bad result. Now, I use this tool to think about all kinds of silly choices. Am I exploring or exploring here?
I need to establish a trust, but when I do, I will most likely just have the assets distributed as soon as possible. I will be dead, and I really don’t want to be directing things from the grave.
I am a strong believer in having a powerful vision and working toward that vision. I also believe that owning a vision is a bit like owning a new (to you) car. Suddenly you see that care everywhere. When you have a powerful vision for your future, your mind is attracted to things that move you closer to that vision. But if you want to be successful, the formula is simple- have strong relationships, be stable in your work, live below your means, and don't buy stuff you don't need- and you don't need most things. And never buy anything on credit that you don't immediately pay off except a property.
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I think a lot of drama is created when one attaches strings to a gift. Expecting others to use the gift responsibly is quite the string. Can we really expect others to be responsible? If I give money to my children and one saves it for a down payment on a house and the other goes on a vacation and buys a new tv- should I care? I think I am better off not caring. As I ride off into the sunset-I retired a year and a half ago- I created a little side hustle, providing science activities for libraries and schools at no cost. It is a way for me to give something to back to my community. Each of us is unique, and we thrive when we use our unique skills to help others. The thing is, when we help others we inadvertently help our selves. It’s a bit of a paradox, but the more we try and covet our money, the poorer we tend to feel. I am not advocating we give our money away necessary, but I have found that I don’t need all that much to be happy- and the things that will bring the most satisfaction really don’t cost that much. I agree that we must know what we want, but if it can be purchased it’s probably not what we need- unless it improves our health or connection to others.
Post: What Do You Want?
Link to comment from November 28, 2022
I meant to write-Am I exploring or exploiting here?
Post: Changed by the Trip
Link to comment from July 6, 2022
I listened to a TED talk about computer science and decision making- and what I took away was that everything we do gives us information. The key is to figure out if you want new information or whether you want to exploit the information you already have. Are you going to explore or exploit? As we get older, we think we know what we like and want, so we are much more likely to exploit the information we already have rather than gain new information and risk a bad result. Now, I use this tool to think about all kinds of silly choices. Am I exploring or exploring here?
Post: Changed by the Trip
Link to comment from July 6, 2022
I need to establish a trust, but when I do, I will most likely just have the assets distributed as soon as possible. I will be dead, and I really don’t want to be directing things from the grave.
Post: Trust Issues
Link to comment from April 27, 2022
I am a strong believer in having a powerful vision and working toward that vision. I also believe that owning a vision is a bit like owning a new (to you) car. Suddenly you see that care everywhere. When you have a powerful vision for your future, your mind is attracted to things that move you closer to that vision. But if you want to be successful, the formula is simple- have strong relationships, be stable in your work, live below your means, and don't buy stuff you don't need- and you don't need most things. And never buy anything on credit that you don't immediately pay off except a property.
Post: Making a Comeback
Link to comment from February 5, 2022